Every year 1000s of innocent Indian husbands are charged with false DOWRY cases. Their innocent parents, young sisters & mothers are arrested, jailed without warrant. Some have died. Some have committed suicide unable to bear injustice. The law that was made to protect vulnerable women is being misused by unscrupulous women with connivance of others

Saturday, June 30, 2007

Re:


Hi

>can some one explain about what is
>injunction (mandatory etc)?
>
>is it filed under some specific relief act?
>


I've collected some references from the Net. Please see following URL

Injunction.
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/injunction-from-wikipedia-free.html
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What is an injunction?
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/what-is-injunction-from.html
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>
>Hello brothers,
>
>can some one explain about what is
>injunction (mandatory etc)?
>
>is it filed under some specific relief act?
>
>on what grounds injunction will be granted?
>
>can injuction be applied if already dv act
>is filed and complainant is asking for
>residence in in-laws' house?
>
>--

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Injunction. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


Injunction
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


An injunction is an equitable remedy in the form of a court order, whereby a party is required to do, or to refrain from doing, certain acts. The party that fails to adhere to the injunction faces civil or criminal penalties and may have to pay damages or accept sanctions for failing to follow the court's order. In some cases, breaches of injunctions are considered serious criminal offences that merit arrest and possible prison sentences.

Basis of injunctions

At the core of injunctive relief is a recognition that monetary damages cannot solve all problems. An injunction may be permanent or it may be temporary. A preliminary injunction, or an interlocutory injunction, is a provisional remedy granted to restrain activity on a temporary basis until the court can make a final decision after trial. It is usually necessary to prove the high likelihood of success upon the merits of one's case and a likelihood of irreparable harm in the absence of a preliminary injunction before such an injunction may be granted; otherwise the party may have to wait for trial to obtain a permanent injunction.

Temporary restraints

In the United States, a temporary restraining order (TRO) may be issued on a short-term basis. A temporary restraining order usually lasts while a motion for preliminary injunction is being decided, and the court decides whether to drop the order or to issue a preliminary injunction.

A temporary restraining order may be granted ex parte, that is, without informing in advance the party to whom the temporary restraining order is directed. Usually, a party moves ex parte to prevent an adversary from having notice of one's intentions. The order is granted to prevent the adversary from acting to frustrate the purpose of the action, for example, by wasting or hiding assets (as often occurs in dissolution of marriage) or disclosing a trade secret that had been the subject of a non-disclosure agreement.

Apprehended Violence Order

In some parts of Australia, a court grants an apprehended violence order (AVO) to a person who fears violence or harassment from their harasser. A court can issue an apprehended violence order if it believes, on the balance of probabilities, that a person has reasonable grounds to fear personal violence, harassing conduct, molestation, intimidation, or stalking. If a defendant knowingly contravenes a prohibition or restriction specified in the order, he or she can be subject to a fine, imprisonment, or both.

Rationale behind injunctions

This injunctive power to restore the status quo ante; that is, to make whole again someone whose rights have been violated, is essential to the concept of fairness (equity). For example, money damages would be of scant benefit to a land owner who wished simply to prevent someone from repeatedly trespassing on his land.


With Thanks to Wikipedia. source URL
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Injunction





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What is an injunction? from http://law.freeadvice.com


What is an injunction?


An injunction is an order of a court requiring a person, corporation, or government entity to stop doing something and refrain from doing that thing in the future. In relatively rare cases, the court may issue a "mandatory injunction", compelling a person, company, or governmental unit take affirmative action to do something.

Injunctions historically are issued, only "when the remedy at law is inadequate". For example, suppose you own a home surrounded by 100 year old trees and your neighbor claims the trees are on his property and is planning on cutting them down. While the dispute is pending, the court might well issue an injunction preventing the neighbor from cutting down the trees until the matter is heard and completely resolved. Otherwise there could be irreparable harm to the land, money damages could not replace the trees, and the damages you would be entitled to could be speculative.

Another example of when an injunction may be issued is in the case of an ongoing course of conduct that violates your rights. For example, assume you own a Web site and another firm keeps on coming back and copying the material on your Web site in violation of copyright notices, no trespass notices, and contractual provisions. A court will issue an injunction to prevent that conduct from recurring.

http://law.freeadvice.com/general_practice/legal_remedies/injunction_order.htm






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Whether RCR covers police inaction if two states theory exist.



>Is filing RCR would be profitable for me in
>Delhi as my wife lodged case against me in
>Bihar on ___) date) in the Court of CJM _____
>and now judge wants me to appear in the court
>on my Anticipatory Bail(AB).

RCR is hardly effective ONCE the 498a is filed. If at all, it should be filed BEFORE the 498a is filed. Read here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/rcr-is-strategy-aka-rcr-before-enemy.html
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>on my Anticipatory Bail(AB). As my father in
>law is a lawyer ________ no one lawyer
>is fighting my case even with quarter of honest
>under the effect of __________

if you are afraid of going to Bihar, and if you can prove that your personal life is in danger - or at least use that as an excuse, and apply to the HIGH court at Bihar - NOT the sessions court, but apply for bail at the HIGH court and get your AB

One can approach the HC directly for bail. In your case there are also additional arguments to strengthen direct application to the HC


>IO had
>acquitted my family but my M.Sc wife cries in
>the court to frame her in-laws and tell that
>she live with her husband but her in-laws
>should be out from their life.


every wife tries this

But your problem seems to be that you RIGHTLY worry that your AB application would be rejected in the sessions court.

APPROACH THE HIGH COURT DIRECTLY


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>
>
>Whether RCR covers police inaction if two states theory exist.

>
>
>Dear friends,
>
>Is filing RCR would be profitable for me in
>Delhi as my wife lodged case against me in
>Bihar

[..........]

What happens to the wife when MEN COMMIT SUICIDE ? News : "Woman attempts suicide in police station"

What happens to the wife when MEN COMMIT SUICIDE ?


On an average, MEN commit MORE SUICIDES THAN women do

Why ins't the wife arrested when her husband commits suicide ? why is she just pitied and allowed to enjoy  FREEDOM ?? why do we have two sets of laws ONE FOR MEN and another for the wife in a democratic country ??


=========== news ============

Woman attempts suicide in police station

30 Jun, 2007 l 1520 hrs ISTlPTI

RAJKOT: A woman tried to immolate herself at the Local Crime Branch (LCB) premises, police said.

Hansha alias Puja Parmar was prevented from torching herself by officials present there.

According to her complaint, she was being harassed by her husband and in-laws for dowry for which she sought police help.

After police failed to help her Hansha decided to end her life.

She had also tried to commit suicide by consuming poisonous substance couple of years back.

Her husband and in-laws have been booked for harassing her for dowry, police added.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/Woman_attempts_suicide_in_police_station/articleshow/2163579.cms

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Dowry case: Mumbai ex-corporator arrested


Dowry case: Mumbai ex-corporator arrested

Vidhyarthi Singh, an ex-corporator from Borivali from the Congress party was arrested on Friday by the Kasturba Marg police station on charges of physical harassment and demanding dowry.

Singh's two sons Mahendra Singh and Shailendra Singh have also been named in the complaint registered by the two daughters-in-law Pratibha and Kiran Singh.

Vidhyarthi Singh has been arrested under sections 498A and 506 of the Anti Dowry Act.

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S. 125 CrPC

S. 125 CrPC (challenged) + Sec 24 HMA maintenance pendente lite


MY 2 CENTS
--------------------------

>
>I had put divorce case after 498a - big
>mistake. Anyway, shot fired already... didn't
>say in front of judge that I want divorce.
>

[...............]

>Finally asking for Rs. 2 lac to be paid per
>month towards the maintenance pendent elite,
>alongwith another sum of Rs. 2 lac towards the
>cost of litigation during the pendency of the
>divorce petition in this Hon'ble Court.
>

I TOO DID THE MISTAKE OF FILING FOR DIVORCE,
BUT THAT WAS MANY YEARS AGO - PRE S.I.F, S.I.S.
days

I think, please like you and me should take up
a serious campaign with Hindu Husbands and
tell them the pitfalls of filing for Divorce
WITHOUT thinking of maintenance


Now to strategies ...
-----------------------------------

You are talking about Cr PC 125 and 24 HMA. What is your lawyers view on both continuing simultaneously ? Re. can one ride two horses ?

STRATEGY 1. Since judge is saying
>>>>>
>Finally, judge said "I hope the child brings
>you two together". I said "I hope so". Meeting
>concluded at 1:00pm.
<<<<<<

Why NOT tell the judge that you wish to
withdraw your Divorce case and file for
Restitution of Conjugal rights ?? do so if
judges agrees AND IF YOU ARE DEAD SURE your
wife will NOT come back - repeat BOTH
conditions should be valid for this. i.e. You
should be in a position to SHOW that SHE IS THE
DESERTING spouse... she is the one who left the
matrimonial home .. she is the one un willing
to live with you ...etc..etc... and so is NOT
entitled to MUCH maintenance. This is a
MAINTENANCE reducing (or making it nil but
reducing) tactic.

I am NOT joking here. I am serious. I am NOT
sure whether I can CONVEY THE ENTIRE feelings
and emotions and view over e mail. ...... let
me tell you, "LAW lives in the minds of Judges"

498a is a temporary problem - BUT serious.
Lets call it chicken pox.

But MAINTENANCE is a MUCH more serious -
unfortunately perennial problem. I will
generally compare it more to Asthma or un
treated polio. It will force you to limp / will
leave you breathless for months / even years

for more on this VIEW OF MAINTENANCE PLEASE
see here

Dump hubby, lose maintenance
http://divorceindia.blogspot.com/2007/06/dump-hubby-lose-maintenance.html
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STRATEGY 2 (to be done ALONG with strategy 2)
----------------------------------------------------

>I remain on travel all the time and pay hotel
>expenses for myself and sometimes for my team
>members as well. So reimbursements of tours are

prove that these are NOT income for you - BUT
mere reimbursements

Still YOUR wife's IDEA may be to prove that
you are earning - say 1 lakh per month or say
60 K per month and so she would want to get 50%
of that for herself and kid



regards
Vinayak




>
>S. 125 CrPC (challenged) + Sec 24 HMA maintenance pendent
>
>Hi,
>

[..............]

>
>After 1st divorce reconcile meting, my lawyer
>came and said my wife filed "Maintenance
>Petition under Sec-24, HMA". Petition u/s Sec-
>24 HMA 1955 for grant of maintenance pendent
>elite and litigation expenses during pendency
>of the above mentioned petition filed by the
>petitioner husband.
>
>She claims that my salary records and bank
>records of salary deposits and from other
>sources -

[...........]



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Advice Please - Harassed Husband, Chennai.

Dear Brother

> the girl
>demanded for separate family leaving my
>parents which i rejected failing which,she
>blackmailed me to commit suicide. but one fine
>day her parents came to our house with
>people of a movement called ______ _______
>attacked my father and dragged him to local
>police.subsequently we wear in police
>station.there she declared she is not
>interested to live with me and took all her
>belonging and give in witting also.after
>this i issued divorce in high court and took

We are extremely saddened to hear your story.

Please call CHENNAI HELPLINE 09952046399 immediately.

Also please give us some more info on the current status of your divorce case.

- Have the counseling sessions started ?
- has your wife filed a written statement or counter to your Divorce petition ?
- what are your wife's demands (in addition to sending your parents away? )
- Maintenance in Divorce cases : Many women threaten / file a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67


- Is your wife the CAUSE for the FALSE case and dragging your elders to police OR is it her relatives (and the groups you mentioned ??) ? Because we come across cases where the wife is NOT the ONLY reason. Even wife's parents may be involved
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/wife-loves-hubby-but-relatives-filed.html
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For general info and understanding you may also read the following blogs

General Ideas (an earlier answer to other victims)
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/mail-from-victim-can-i-call-you-you.html
alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/3atezx

More after hearing from you

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>498A Registered: NO
>498A Place:
>498A Date:
>Any Other IPCs:
>Relatives Accused:
>Stage of Case: inWomenCell
>Comments: i work in _____.the girl
>demanded for separate family leaving my
>parents which i rejected failing which,she
>blackmailed me to commit suicide. but one fine
>day her parents came to our house with
>people of a movement called ______ _______
>attacked my father and dragged him to local
>police.subsequently we wear in police
>station.there she declared she is not
>interested to live with me and took all her
>belonging and give in writing also.after
>this i issued divorce in high court and took
>Anticipatory BAIL _____ and i was
>granted.now she has given a petition in her
>local police station for which girl is not
>coming for inquiry,even at the call of
>police SI.she deliberately want take revenge
>of my elderly family.i lost peace of mind.i
>hope that i will get back my days with my
>father and mother.

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Case references...



> So I request any/all of you to give
>me some case references from supreme court/high
>court that these days we have lot of false
>cases of 498A registered very often and bla bla
>bla.....

>So that I can submit these case references to
>the court and get the case started with the
>right balance.

some URL are given below

Quash of a FALSE 498a. Judge speaks of misuse !
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/quash-of-false-498a-judge-speaks-of.html
http://tinyurl.com/3bfkvq


In case you have a DV act case as well
SC has already found fault with the DV act ... have we used that ?
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/sc-has-already-found-fault-with-dv-act.html
alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2q4e3y


ON misuse
Seven-yr-old faces dowry charges
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/seven-yr-old-faces-dowry-charges.html
ALT URL http://tinyurl.com/2hw267

Filing false 498A case amounts to cruelty - Bombay HC
http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/filing-false-498a-case-amounts-to.html
ALT URL http://tinyurl.com/3drjuw


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Hope others would answer the other questions


>
>Case references...
>


Regards
Vinayak


Pratibha Patil: my role in her nomination - Karan Thapar

Pratibha Patil: my role in her nomination*

Karan Thapar
June 17, 2007
Perhaps I should begin with an apology. I'm about to blow my trumpet. Although it's music to my ears I know to others it can sound discordant, even irritating. But today I trust you will forgive me or, at least, understand why I do so.
I think I had a small role to play in the fact the UPA-Left have chosen a woman as their candidate for President. If I'm not mistaken, the idea originated with me. Here's my story. See what you make of it.
Almost six weeks ago, on the 6th of May, I interviewed the general secretary of the Communist Party of India, AB Bardhan. In the second half of our conversation we discussed who should be the next President. I asked him if in the 60th year of India's independence it would be fitting if it was a woman. "Not a bad idea," he replied. Would he canvass his fellow Left parties? Yes, he answered. And what about Sonia Gandhi? After a moment of diplomatic hesitation, he agreed to try and persuade her as well.
Thereafter, to be honest, I forgot this conversation. The politics of the selection seemed to suggest my question was misplaced rather than prescient. There wasn't a hope of a woman getting the job. So last Thursday, as I watched the drama on television, my mind flashed back. Was I in some way responsible for this outcome?
"Yes," responded AB Bardhan when I telephoned. In fact he barely gave me a chance to finish my question. "After it was over I said to Sonia Gandhi 'Do you know who put the idea into my head? Karan Thapar in that funny programme of his, Devil's Advocate'."
"And what did she say?"
"She laughed." Then, after a pause, he added "So did everyone else."
My curiosity aroused, I rang all the contacts I have to piece together the story. How exactly had this come to pass? From what I've been told this is the sequence.
The UPA-Left meeting began with logjam. Congress was determined to press ahead with Shivraj Patil or, at least, Karan Singh and Sushil Kumar Shinde. The Left was adamantly opposed. Recognising this impasse, Sitaram Yechuri spoke out. We need a new name, he said. And then, cleverly using Manmohan Singh's favourite phrase, he added the time had come to think out of the box.
This was when Bardhan made his bid. "It's time for a woman. After 60 years the next president should be one." Something of my interview had lingered in his memory. That, at least, is what he told me. Suddenly Manmohan Singh intervened. "What about Pratibha Patil?" No one can explain what made the normally reticent PM speak out. Had Bardhan primed him? Did Yechuri have a quiet word? Who knows.
The PM's suggestion took everyone by surprise. But it's also true that no one could find fault with it. Bardhan was the first to endorse it. He seemed to know more about Ms. Patil's background than anyone else. Seconds later Yechuri, speaking for the powerful CPM, added his support. That sealed it.  Then guess what happened? For this part of the story I have three witnesses — Messrs Yechuri, Bardhan and D Raja. But let me give you the version told by AB Bardhan. After all, he's the one who did the talking.
"I looked at Sonia Gandhi and told her you were responsible. No one could really believe it. They all laughed. So did I."
I'm amazed by the series of accidents and coincidences that lay behind this decision. That I was one of them is no big thing. Yet it's proof that little questions can have an influence way beyond their original intention or anyone's imagination. Fate has mysterious ways. Things fall into a pattern no one can map in advance.
An SMS from my friend Ravi Visvesvaraya Prasad sums it up. "So it turns out your interview with AB Bardhan about a woman President was really prescient. Was it coincidence, ESP or inside information?"
It certainly wasn't inside information for the simple reason the insiders hadn't thought of it themselves. But was it coincidence or ESP? Hmmm.
Perhaps there's a simpler explanation. Remember the aphorism about great minds thinking alike? Well, the second half asserts that fools seldom differ!  Are the Left, the PM and I great minds? Or is it the other way round? I wonder what Bhairon Singh Shekhawat would have to say?
(*with apologies to Spike Milligan)
http://www.hindustantimes.com/StoryPage/FullcoverageStoryPage.aspx?id=2e0edce9-6404-4bf7-9b41-ec6866743f61Who%20will%20be%20India's%20next%20President_Special&&Headline=Pratibha+Patil%3a+my+role+in+her+nomination*



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Wife loves Hubby, but relatives filed FALSE 498A / Advice Please - ___ - hyderabad,A.P , India


Name: __(WITH HELD)
Victim Location : hyderabad,A.P , India
Hear about us: Friend
498A Registered: YES
498A Place: ____ hyderabad
498A Date: __early__/2006
Any Other IPCs: 506
Relatives Accused: MY HUSBAND,AND IN LAWS
Jailed Days: NO
Stage of Case: caseCourt
Spent Money on 498A:
Lived in joint Family: YES
Marriage Date: __mid__2005
Wife Age: IAM __mid 20s____
Wife's Education Level: __graduate__
Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
Filed for Divorce: YES
Have children: NO
Living With Wife: NO
Negotiating with Wife: NO
Took her Stridhan Back: NO
She had Any Medical Problems: NO
Willing to Help other Victims: YES
Ready for TV/Press Interivew : YES

Comments: I ____ ___ YRS OF AGE REQUEST U TO PLEASE SOW ME THE WAYS TO WITHDRAW THE CASE FILED BY MY BROTHER UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF MY MATERNAL UNCLES WHICH IS UTTERLY A FALSE AND FABRICATED CASE.

FROM THE DAY ONE IAM ASKING THEM NOT TO DO BUT THEY SAID "WE DOING SOMETHING GOOD FOR" BUT THE FACT IS THAT THEY ARE INTO THEIR PERSONAL EGO AND STILL THEY R NOT READY TO SEND ME BACK .

IT HAS BEEN 15 MONTHS THAT IAM IN MY MOTHER'S PLACE MY FATHER IS NO MORE WHO WOULD HAVE REAALY HELPED ME.

PLEASE HELP ME SIR... I REALLY LOVE MY HUSBAND PLEASE I HAVE ALSO APPOINTED THE LAWYERS THEY SAY SOME OR OTHER BUT NOT ABOUT THE ISSUE, AND THEY ARE ASKING HUGE AMOUNTS WHICH I PERSONALLY CAN'T AFFORD ... PLEASE TELL ME PROCEDURE SO THAT AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE I CAN REACH MY HUSBAND AND GET THEM OUT OF THE CASE...

IAM IN FULL CONCIOUSNESS AND THIS IS THE TRUTH THAT I LOVE MY HUSBAND





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Re: Advice Please - rakesh ______ up, india


Dear Mr. Rakesh

>I was got married before 18 years ,
>
>does it possible i get affected to IPC-498A .
>or my family. please help me . they therating
>me to go to court............they gave me a
>lawer notice also...


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a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.

- Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)
- trying to separate the husband from his parents,
- money
- vengence
- trying to take away children and alienate them from the father
- even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases
...etc....etc....

b. SADLY IT IS possible that one MAY get pulled into a false 498a case, EVEN after 18 years of marriage

c. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with / or threatened with a false dowry case

This is a great CANCER in India as of date

d. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

e. As the wife [including the in laws] have threated to file a false dowry case (498a case) and as (you) the husband is innocent, see if you can record their threats .

f. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

fg. This will help you expose their threats

h. At this moment, Do NOT worry much about admissibility of tape records etc. You should try and get MULTIPLE evidences of their greed and USE THEM AT THE right time. Do NOT use them at every juncture.

BE FIRM, but be careful

i. Generally we advise people NOT to file for divorce in a haste. http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

j. Is your wife at home or has she LEFT YOU ? where has she sent you the lawyer's notice from ? Do you have children ? where are they ?

k. IF your wife has left your home, have you called her back ?

l. Are there any negotiations or mediations ?

m. Try and get proof / evidence of every act you have done to get her back ...

n. In case the woman is NOT willing to come back we even advice that you call her back. Read here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/rcr-is-strategy-aka-rcr-before-enemy.html
or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2zcyoh

o. Reason for calling back : If you call her back and she does NOT come back, she will be exposed. She will be the deserting spouse.

p. Many women threaten / file a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

SELF HELP

q. I suggest you immediately get in touch with the ACTIVE DELHI, MUMBAI OR CALCUTTA based self help group(s), in case you haven't so far.
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Regards



Name: rakesh
Victim Location : ____ up, india
Hear about us: GoogleSearch
498A Registered: NO
498A Place:
498A Date:
Any Other IPCs:
Relatives Accused:
Jailed Days: NO
Stage of Case: no498a
Spent Money on 498A:
Lived in joint Family: NO
Marriage Date: ___1990
Wife Age:
Wife's Education Level: ____
Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
Filed for Divorce: NO
Have children: YES
Living With Wife: YES
Negotiating with Wife: NO
Took her Stridhan Back: YES
She had Any Medical Problems: NO
Willing to Help other Victims: YES
Ready for TV/Press Interivew : NO

Comments: I was got married before 18 years ,

does it possible i get affected to IPC-498A . or my family. please help me . they therating me to go to court............they gave me a lawer notice also...





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When will this minister speak AGAINST false dowry cases a.k.a. FALSE 498a cases ?

The Hindu

Kerala  - Thiruvananthapuram

Minister seeks steps to implement law against domestic violence

Special Correspondent

"The incidents of atrocities against girls and women point to a malice that has gripped our social life."


Thiruvananthapuram: Forest Minister Benoy Viswom has called for earnest steps to implement the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act.
Speaking after inaugurating a seminar jointly organised by the District Information Office and the women's sub-committee of the Secretariat Employees Association here on Tuesday, he said ensuring equal status for women was as important as preventing atrocities against them.
The Minister said women had no need to remain silent against injustice. He lamented that society had failed to accord equal status for women.
"The increasing incidents of atrocities against girls and women point to a malice that has gripped our social life. It is a matter of concern that the women's commission has failed to curb such incidents."
Awareness campaign
Mr. Viswom called for a campaign to create awareness on the issue.
He said Kerala should become a model for the rest of the country in implementing the Act.
Director, Information and Public Relations, P.Venugopal, Women's Commission member T.Devi, vice-chairperson of the Vyloppilly Samskrithi Bhavan T.Radhamani, Geenakumary, Secretariat Employees Association chairperson B.S. Jalajakumary and convener B.S. Jayasree also spoke.



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TRUE or FALSE ?? Hubby held for dowry harassment


Hubby held for dowry harassment

BY HERALD REPORTER
VASCO, JUNE 27 — Vasco Police on Wednesday arrested one Anil Desai on charges of harassing his newlywed barely three days after their marriage and demanding dowry from her.

In her police complaint, Siddhi Desai stated that she was married to Anil Dessai in January and he began tormenting her three days after their marriage.
According to Siddhi, Anil claimed that all gifts given by her parents were of poor quality and were not to his satisfaction.
Anil allegedly demanded that Siddhi should force her parents to bring more dowry in the form of gold chain, bracelet, cash worth Rs 50,000 and a Maruti 800 car.
Siddhi complained that it had become routine for her husband to treat her like a slave, to the point of stopping stopped her food and even forcing her to commit suicide.
On Wednesday, Anil threw her all belonging and the gifts out of the house and allegedly assaulted Siddhi. He also threatened to divorce Siddhi if she failed to meet his demands, Siddhi stated.
Vasco police has registered an offence against the accused under Sections 498-A, 323 and 504 of IPC and PSI Ravi Desai is investigating the case.
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CHILD ABDUCTION INTERNATIONAL !! Wife removes Daughters from Singapore and takes them to India




  • Father gains custody of son and right to see daughters every forthnight

  • Ex-wife ignores Syariah Court order, takes daughters to school in India

  • THE first time he found out his daughters were missing was when he went to their primary school after the June holidays two years ago.
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    Mr Zin, with his son.
    Mr Zin (not his real name) had separated from his wife, and his two daughters lived with their mother and her parents.
    When the primary school reopened in late June 2005, Mr Zin went to see his daughters as he normally did each day.
    But he found that his wife had taken the girls to India, where they have relatives, and put them in a school there.
    Both he and his wife, as well as their three children, are Singaporean. They have a another younger son who is in preschool.
    “I was upset and disappointed,” Mr Zin, 35, a taxi driver, told The New Paper. He said he broke down when he heard the news. “I felt that my world had fallen apart.”

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    Jailed for waving at my daughter

    Jailed for waving at my daughter

    By JENNY JOHNSTON and RACHEL HALLIWELL -

    Denied access to his three children after his divorce, Mark was jailed for standing outside his house to wave to them. It took ten years and 133 hearings before they were reunited. How CAN the Government insist cases like his are kept secret?

    Every day there is some reminder of what Mark Harris calls 'the lost years'.

    It could be his daughter's reference to a particular birthday party or a family holiday. It could be talk of exams sat, dentists visited or pop stars worshipped.

    Each time it happens, he feels a stab of regret. 'I missed so much,' he reveals, with understandable bitterness. 'They took my daughter's childhood, her formative years, from me. Lisa is 20 now. I didn't see her between the ages of ten and 16. An awful lot happens in a child's life in that time, and I missed it all.'

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    Reunited: Lisa, 20, with her father, Mark Harris

    Lisa missed a lot, too. She sits by Mark's side as he talks, a beautiful and assured young woman, but one still coming to terms with the fact that her father simply wasn't there when she needed him - and for an entire decade she did not know why.

    'There were times when I needed a father figure - for reassurance and advice,' she says, with quiet restraint. 'There just wasn't one there.'

    But the story of what happened to the Harris family isn't just another tragic case of broken homes and estrangement. Mark, Lisa and her two younger sisters were wrenched apart by the state.

    Mark was not a feckless, irresponsible father. He did not walk out of his children's lives. Rather, he was ordered out by the family courts, and when he objected - insisting it was his right to see them - he was dealt with in a scandalous way.

    Mark Harris went to prison for his girls. He was jailed for waving to them after a court order demanded he sever all contact. It was the most shameful chapter in an extraordinary ten-year custody battle.

    He has now 'won' - today, two of his daughters live with him - only because they shared their father's determination to re-establish their relationship.

    He has lived every father's worst nightmare, and every miserable step is etched on his face. 'It took ten years, 133 court appearances before 33 different judges, two prison sentences and a hunger strike before I was given permission to be with my daughters again,' he says quietly.

    'What happened to my family is unforgivable. And that it was all sanctioned - ordered - by a system that is supposed to help families is outrageous.'

    The controversial family court system has much to answer for in this case. Mark Harris isn't the first father who has questioned how it operates. Family court proceedings are notoriously secretive, and campaigners have long appealed for the proceedings to be more open and judges more accountable.

    That is not to be, however. Last week the Lord Chancellor ruled that proceedings must remain secret - something that horrifies Mark and his girls.

    So angry is he about his experiences that he has written a book, Family Court Hell. 'Surely my story is evidence enough that the system needs to change.

    'If it doesn't, the family courts are open to abuse by unaccountable judges and social workers with their own agendas, whose word is taken as law and who almost invariably favour the mother.

    'It's a scandal which has left hundreds of fathers like me in desperation. The only solution is to have a court system that's transparent. Otherwise it is simply not fair to fathers or, more importantly, to the children it is supposed to protect.'

    When Lisa was born in 1988, Mark felt 'like the happiest man alive'. He had been married to his wife - whom we cannot name even now for legal reasons - for three-and-a-half years, and he had longed for fatherhood. Over the next four years, two more daughters followed.

    MARK says: 'I remember thinking how lucky I was because I had a job that I could organise around the children. I'm a driving instructor, so my work was flexible. I loved the time I spent with Lisa. Not every father could read their children stories, bath them or take them out for walks in their pram.'

    Mark thought he had a happy marriage, too. The only difficulty was his strained relationship with his mother-inlaw. Yet it didn't concern him much.

    'Looking back, we rowed constantly about my mother-in-law, but I never thought it would lead to drastic action,' he says. Perhaps he will never know exactly what was wrong in his marriage, but his wife was clearly unhappy.

    One day in 1993, Mark returned from a football match to find the house 'looking as though it had been ransacked'. Almost all the furniture had disappeared. So, too, had his wife and children, and he had no clue where they had gone.

    'I went to the police,' he says. 'I was beside myself, distraught. They said my

    wife was in a rented house nearby, but that I shouldn't go round until the next day. When I did, she told me she no longer loved me, but said I could see the children whenever I wanted. I was bereft.

    'I took the children home for a few hours and they spent the time crying - they were only six, four and two, and it must have been horrific for them to see their parents like that. They wanted to know when we'd all be at home together again, and I didn't know what to say. I was as shocked and bewildered as them.'

    Over the next few weeks, Mark stumbled through life in a daze. He saw his girls every day he wasn't working, but his anger towards his wife was building up.

    Two months after she left, she asked if he would take her back. Mark was too hurt to contemplate that. Instead, he launched divorce proceedings.

    'At that point, it didn't even occur to me that access to the children would be an issue. I was granted unrestricted access - but later I discovered that even then my wife was seeing a solicitor, with a view to having my time with them reduced. She said it was confusing for them to see me.'

    THE FAMILY court agreed, and his access was reduced to three times a week, then to once a week and finally to once a fortnight. Mark was stunned to discover he was powerless to resist. 'I petitioned the judge every time, but there was nothing I could do,' he says.

    A year after they had separated, the couple divorced. Again, Mark made a bid to see more of his girls, and asked the court if they could live with him. His wife retaliated, claiming that seeing him at all was unsettling them. The court's reaction? It banned him from any contact at all with his daughters.

    'I was just floored, disgusted. On my wife's word, the judge simply severed all my rights of access. When I protested, no one listened. I was devastated, but there was no way I was going to turn my back on my children. How could a court order stop me from being a father?'

    Every morning, while he waited for a court date to argue against this judgment, Mark saw his children being driven past his house to school by their mother. He'd wave - angry that he couldn't say hello, but grateful for their smiles.

    Then his former wife was granted an injunction stopping him even gesturing to his children as they passed. 'It was incredible. She said it was harassment, and the court believed her. But I carried on waving. I was looking for a job and I'd walk to the Jobcentre every morning - knowing how to time it so they would come past.

    'I was damned if I was going to be prevented from waving at my own children. Naively, maybe, I assumed the whole business would be cleared up at the next court hearing.'

    It wasn't. Instead, Mark left that courtroom in handcuffs, sentenced to four months, having been told that waving was tantamount to stalking his ex. He couldn't believe what was happening.

    'On my first night in jail I shared a cell with a murderer,' he says. 'It was so intimidating. The next few weeks just blurred into one long nightmare. Every waking hour I pined for my girls, wondering if I would ever see them again.

    'When I got out, the nightmare continued. It took another year for me to convince the courts I should be allowed to see them at all. Life was an endless round of court hearings. It was a wretched existence. Time and again I'd be facing a new judge and having to re-tell the story. To me, it was a matter of life and death, but to them, it seemed I was just another pushy, undeserving father who was trying to interfere in his former wife's life.

    'I was so messed up by it all that I had a vasectomy to ensure I couldn't find myself in that position again.'

    Finally, five years after the separation, Mark was granted permission to see his daughters. He was excited about the planned date - but devastated-when Lisa didn't turn up. 'By then I was livid at the system. It was destroying my life. I know it was a foolish thing to do, but I started picketing the homes of the judges who had denied me contact, hoping they would take pity on me.'

    His protests were to no avail. Instead, in 2001, he was sentenced to ten months in prison for contempt of court for driving past his girls' house to catch a glimpse of them. By then spiralling into depression, he went on hunger strike. For two weeks he refused food and water. 'I stopped only when I realised that if I died I would never see my precious daughters again,' Mark says.

    Who knows how this desperate fight to be a father would have ended had Lisa, then 16, not intervened. 'After a row with her mother, she called Mark and told him she and one of her sisters wanted to live with him.

    'I got this call saying they had packed their bags and were at a bus stop. Would I pick them up? In breach of all court orders, I got in the car and brought them home. Seeing Lisa again, for the first time in six years, was incredible. I didn't know how to speak to, or look at, this young woman before me. She was wearing make-up. She had her 6ft boyfriend in tow. It was surreal, but in the end we fell into each other's arms and sobbed.'

    It was only then that the family court system seemed to consider Mark's rights. He called the High Court emergency hotline and eventually spoke to a 'decent, humane judge'.

    Ten minutes after their conversation-he was faxed a temporary residency order. In court the following week, every previous court order was set aside. 'It took ten minutes to put right and ten years of injustice, which made me realise just what power those judges have,' says Mark.

    The ruling meant that Lisa and her sisters could choose which parent they lived with. Lisa and her youngest sister - who, again, we can't name for legal reasons - now live with him.

    Lisa is studying to be a legal secretary. Her story is even more poignant. She tells of the confusion that has blighted most of her life, and you cannot help but wonder what long-term damage has been inflicted on her and her sisters.

    'One minute we were normal children. The next we were in a rented house with Dad hammering on the door demanding to be allowed to see us,' she says. 'We were scared. None of it made sense. Sometimes we'd be allowed to see Dad regularly, then there were times with no contact at all.

    'When Dad disappeared out of our lives, we just thought he had stopped loving us. I was certain I'd done something wrong. 'The first time we saw him waving to us as we went to school, I was thrilled. I remember thinking: "He still cares."

    'Every morning, Mum would tell us we shouldn't look at him - that he was a bad man - yet we couldn't help but grin when we saw him. It made our day.' It was impossible for Lisa's mother to go a different route.

    WHEN her father went to prison, no one explained to Lisa why. 'Mum said: "You see - I told you he was bad." I was ten years old. As far as I knew, you had to do something pretty awful to go to prison.'

    She turned against her father, telling social workers she didn't want to see him. Yet with hindsight she explains she was simply trying to gain control over the horrific situation.

    'There was this endless pantomime with social workers wanting to know what I thought. All I wanted was to be allowed to love both my parents, but I knew that was never going to happen.

    'Mum's hatred for Dad was so deep that to keep her happy, and to get them off my back, I said I wouldn't see him. Turning love to hate made that easier. I told myself that my dad had been wicked, so he deserved it.'

    When the courts finally granted access, Lisa was so tortured that she often didn't turn up to see her father. She thought she was protecting her mother by siding with her.

    However, when she fell out with her mother during a phase of teenage rebellion, it was to her father that she fled - and when she discovered he had never stopped loving her, she was left reeling.

    'I'd never forgotten Dad's number. I know I was only ringing him then to get back at Mum, but when I heard his voice, I wanted to cry. I told him I loved him and that I wanted to see him. Everything just flooded out.'

    The first meeting was as hard for her as it was for him. 'The last time I'd seen him I'd been ten and carrying a skipping rope. When I walked into my old bedroom - and saw it was as I had left it - I wanted to sob. I didn't dare do so, though, because I knew if I did I'd never stop.'

    Four years on, Lisa and Mark are only just beginning to rebuild their relationship. Every day, more gaps are filled, and more trust regained.

    Meanwhile, Lisa rarely sees her mother, and she is angry at her mother's behaviour. It is a desperately sorry story, with no real winners. But then, as Lisa points out, it was never supposed to be a contest.

    'I wish to God that my parents had avoided the courts from day one, and simply shared us, the children they created together,' she says.

    'Instead, complete strangers were allowed to get involved in our lives to such an extent that everyone lost sight of the needs of us children.

    'I love both my parents; I always will. But I will never get my childhood back. It is gone for ever.'


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    Wednesday, June 27, 2007

    Weekly meetings for counselling discussion/guidance-Mumbai

    Weekly meetings for counselling discussion/guidance-Mumbai

    Date:       Saturday June 30, 2007

    Time:       5:00 pm - 8:00 pm

    Location:           "Rain Bow" Cyber cafe, Adjoining 'Quick Chef' Restaurant/near Mulund Metro Magistrate court, S.N Road, Mulund(west) & 970, 1st floor, New link road, Adarsh Nagar, Andheri(w).

    Phone:           Gokul: 9821414336, Guptaji: 9869323538,Mumbai Helpline: 9224335577.

    Notes:           This regular-weekly meeting is conducted all Saturdays, 5 to 8PM at Protect Indian Family's office in Mulund(near mulund train station, "Rain Bow" Cyber cafe, Adjoining 'Quick Chef' Restaurant/near Mulund Metro Magistrate court, S.N Road, Mulund(west).

    The Andheri meeting venue is near Lotus Petrol Pump(next in the same side of the road). 970, 1st floor, New link road, Adarsh Nagar, Andheri(w). Look for the big board of "English Speaking" classes which is right beside the Lotus shaped petrol pump(the meeting is held at the same place).

    For any directions call Mr.Shukla- 9819218414, or the numbers given above. The meetings in Andheri will be held Every Saturday between 5pm to 8pm.

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    Misuse of Anti Dowry Laws - Hot discussion in Punjab State Assembly

    Misuse of Anti Dowry Laws - Hot discussion in Punjab State Assembly


    As published in Punjabi Daily - "Chandigarh Baani" of JAG BANI GROUP on 22 june, 07 .

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    It was hot discussion day against Anti Dowry Laws in Punjab Assembly today.capt. Balbir Singh Bath of the ruling party, presented his views against the Misuse of Anti dowry Laws in the state. Although the opposition party (congress)did not convey its consent to the issue, but many important points were raised over this issue.

    All the members agreed on the fact that the Laws are widely being misused in the state & many innocent people are also suffering at the hands of it.Capt. Bath while initiating the issue said that the Misuse of Dowry laws is an issue of deep concern.He said that Laws are enacted to safeguard people but it is widely misused too.The Anti- Dowry laws were first put to use in 1961 , but still it has failed to cumber the practice and many innocents have suffered at its hands.

    Jagjit Singh Brar , again of the Ruling AKALI DAL party said that the misuse of these laws is increasing day by day& Families are breaking at its misuse.He said that many times the issues among husband & wife are very normal , but they are named Dowry issues later.He said that marriage officers must be appointed in all districts. He further added that all articles given at the time of marriage must be listed.

    The Court cases must be filed only after complete investigation of the matter. SArabjit Singh Makkar of Akali dal joined the discussion by saying that such Misuse must be stopped immediately & Govt must enact a separate cell for such Laws to be headed by an officer of the rank of DSP.

    Ajit Inder Singh Moruf of Congress expressed his disagreement with the issue as he said that , it will suppress the rights of women. jagdish Sahni of BJP however said that it is necessary to curb misuse of these Laws. He expressed that the fight is not against the system , but against the misuse of these laws.He said that daily 25-30 such cases come in light , out of which more than 50% are false.He also expressed concern on 498A as a non-bailable section.

    Akali MLA HArish Dhandha who is a learned Advocate too said that we must understand the Law. He said that there should be a provision of Bail of all members of the family except the husband.

    Cabinet minister M. Mohan lal at the end of the discussion said that the govt is completely vigilant on Dowry issues & the DGP is in discussion with Senior Police officials & all women cell authorities.

    He said that the marriage registration will be made compulsory by the Govt.

    he further said that people in Jails under this act will be re-investigated & the false cases will be soon withdrawn.



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    Mail from a Victim - Can I call you ? You numbers please ..

    Dear Sir / Madam

    >
    >Hello,
    >
    >I need an information regarding false 498 can
    >i have your contact number so that i can call
    >you it is urgent
    >
    >regards
    >


    I live in UAE - United Arab Emirates. In case you call me It would be an international call from India. Do you still want to call me  ?

    Why NOT look at the following questions...write your case and send it to me. I am glad to take your call or answer over mail ... which ever is convenient to you

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    Quash of a FALSE 498a. Judge speaks of misuse !
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    Sexual aversion a ground for divorce
    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Sexual_aversion_a_ground_for_divorce/articleshow/2118412.cms

    Some Important sections
    http://divorceindia.blogspot.com/2007/06/dowry-prohibition-act-1961-section-4.html
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    Mediation process and related ..
    http://divorceindia.blogspot.com/2007/05/more-on-mediation-process.html

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    Arrested for no Fault. What next ??
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    Wife asking for share of assets ...
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    More after hearing from you


    Regards


    Hello,
     
    I need an information regarding false 498 can i have your contact number so that i can call you it is urgent
    regards




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    CASE OF DEFAMATION. EXPOSE USING MEDIA !! Re: Advice Please- Wilson - Jharkhand


    >This month on june ___h a verdict came out
    >regarding the dowry case filed by them,where
    >the court has dismissed the dowry case stating
    >that since this is an intercaste marriage so
    >the dowry case is completely fabricated but the
    >court would definitely look into the matter if
    >the girl is saying that we used to torture her.
    >

    Congratulations on winning the case

    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.

    - Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)
    - trying to separate the husband from his parents,
    - money
    - vengence
    - trying to take away children and alienate them from the father
    - even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases
    ...etc....etc....

    a.1. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with / or threatened with a false dowry case

    This is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    SINCE YOU HAVE WON THE FALSE DOWRY CASE, This atrocity / FALSE CASE needs to be exposed at the highest level

    I suggest you join hands with the active DELHI, MUMBAI OR other self help groups and fight this atrocity - expose the misdeeds of the perpetrators thru media

    Please call the Delhi, Mumbai or Other Help lines immediately

    contac nos : http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/vntjz

    Let me assure you, you have crossed the worst

    The fear of arrest under Dowry laws is the biggest threat men face. Or else the rest of the matter is a pure matrimonial dispute and can be handled as a civil matrimonial dispute...

    Now that you have already been cleared, you have crossed the worst. Your wife and in laws have tried their best AND failed

    However you should file counter cases for defamation and gross misuse of law

    JOIN THE ACTIVE SELF HELP GROUPS TODAY !!!



    >
    >
    >Name: Wilson
    >Location[City/State]:  Jharkhand
    >Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    >498A Registered: YES
    >498A Place: Jharkhand
    >498A Date: APRIL _ 2007
    >Any Other IPCs:
    >Relatives Accused: 2
    >Jailed Days: NO
    >Stage of Case: caseCourt
    >Spent Money on 498A: 15,000
    >Lived in joint Family: NO
    >Marriage Date: ___EARLY__2006
    >Wife Age: 23
    >Wife's Education Level: GRADUATE
    >Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
    >Filed for Divorce: YES
    >Have children: NO
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: NO
    >Took her Stridhan Back: NA
    >She had Any Medical Problems: YES_physical
    >Willing to Help other Victims: NO
    >Comments:
    >
    >Hi,
    >
    >i am writing this on behalf of my brother.He
    >got married last year in the court.
    >
    >Since her father was against their marriage so
    >we faced lot of problems in the begining
    >.Initially the girl(sister-in-law) was with my
    >brother so everything went well,but after
    >__months of their marriage i do not what
    >happened she turned hostile,and went back to
    >her father's place very cleverly,and filed a
    >completely false dowry case against our family
    >which include,my brother,mother and me.
    >
    >I would like to mention i stay in _____ from
    >the last four years and go home on
    >festivals.You know what they have mentioned in
    >the case that i also used to torture her.
    >
    >My brother has also filed a case of conjugal
    >rights.
    >
    >This YEAR on june ___th a verdict came out
    >regarding the dowry case filed by them,where
    >the court has dismissed the dowry case stating
    >that since this is an intercaste marriage so
    >the dowry case is completely fabricated but the
    >court would definitely look into the matter if
    >the girl is saying that we used to torture her.
    >
    >Now if you could suggest something on this.
    >
    >I shall be obliged to you.



    regards, vinayak

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    ----------------------------
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    Dowry Law Misuse : http://tinyurl.com/tdkx6 , http://tinyurl.com/v5vp8

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    498a AFTER mutual consent DIVORCE !! Re: Advice Please - Mr. A ___ ___ Maharshtra ___

    Dear Brother

    >
    >we are seperated already by mutual consent
    >and got proper decree and exsumption for
    >6months on __early___2007.
    >
    >on __mid__2007 [APPROX TWO FULL MONTHS
    >AFTER DIVORCE !!] unexpected police came to
    >our house at around 11pm and arrested me
    >along with my unmarried sister and unmarried
    >brother.
    >
    >there was no lady constable along with at
    >the time of arrest.and further we were sent
    >to custody. for two days and one day pc was
    >granted.
    >
    >now we are out on bail but have to visit
    >police station ......
    >

    This is atrocious

    This atrocity needs to be exposed at the highest level

    I suggest you join hands with the active MUMBAI self help group and fight this atrocity - expose the misdeeds of the perpetrators thru media

    Please call the Mumbai Help lines immediately

    contac nos : http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/vntjz

    Let me assure you, you have crossed the worst

    The fear of arrest under Dowry laws is the biggest threat men face. Or else the rest of the matter is a pure matrimonial dispute and can be handled as a civil matrimonial dispute...

    Now that you have already been arrested AND released there isn't much damage that they can do

    Your wife and in laws have tried their best AND failed

    However you should file counter cases for defamation and gross misuse of law

    JOIN THE ACTIVE SELF HELP GROUPS TODAY !!!


    regards

    >Victim Location : __(city) Maharashtra
    >Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    >498A Registered: YES
    >498A Place: __(city) Maharashtra
    >498A Date: __mid__2007
    >Any Other IPCs:
    >377/506(2)/342/120(b)/504/506(1)/348
    >Relatives Accused: brother / sister /
    >mother / father
    >Jailed Days: YES
    >Stage of Case: 498a
    >Spent Money on 498A: __thousands___
    >Lived in joint Family: YES
    >Marriage Date: __early__2006
    >Wife Age: 27
    >Wife's Education Level: __post grad__
    >Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
    >Filed for Divorce: YES
    >Have children: NO
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: NO
    >Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    >She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    >Willing to Help other Victims: NO
    >Ready for TV/Press Interivew : YES
    >
    >Comments:
    >
    >we are seperated already by mutual consent
    >and got proper decree and exsumption for
    >6months on __early___2007.
    >
    >on __mid__2007 [APPROX TWO FULL MONTHS
    >AFTER DIVORCE !!] unexpected police came to
    >our house at around 11pm and arrested me
    >along with my unmarried sister and unmarried
    >brother.
    >
    >there was no lady constable along with at
    >the time of arrest.and further we were sent
    >to custody. for two days and one day pc was
    >granted.
    >
    >now we are out on bail but have to visit
    >police station ......
    >
    >we are puzzled by the action and really
    >need your advice how this is possible if we
    >are seperated by mutual consent then later
    >how is it possible for any body to file case
    >like 498a and police without any enquiry and
    >after seeing decree papers could take action.
    >
    >she is ___________ and had worked for years
    >in this field.
    >
    >she is born and boughtup in __(city)
    >Maharashtra city.
    >
    >she had a prior marraige relationship which
    >had been establised and wanted to marry that
    >person. earlier this march we legally
    >seperated in family court __(city)
    >Maharashtra.
    >
    >she had refused for any alimony on the
    >bases OF ..............
    >
    >
    >



    regards, vinayak

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    ... after 10 years of Marriage - Re: Advice Please- goutam - west bengal

    Dear Goutam

    I'm saddened  to hear your situation

    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    >Comments: i have complit 10 years marrage life.
    >my wife is 11 years elder from me
    >i have a child aged 4+
    >my wife left my house last 1 year
    >her sister with my wife harraded me & my child
    >help me please for my child & My self

    BE FIRM, but be careful

    a. Generally we advise people NOT to file for divorce in a haste. http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    b. You ALSO state that your wife LEFT your home on her OWN accord and that she did NOT return. This IF proven is an act of desertion - an act that can be used to support your divorce. So you should try to create proof of her voluntary leaving

    c. For e.g. have you called her back ?

    d. Are there any negotiations or mediations ?

    e. Try and get proof / evidence of every act you have done to get her back ...

    f. In case the woman is NOT willing to come back we even advice that you call her back. Read here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/rcr-is-strategy-aka-rcr-before-enemy.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2zcyoh

    g. Reason for calling back : If you call her back and she does NOT come back, she will be exposed. She will be the deserting spouse.

    h. Many women threaten / file a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    SELF HELP

    I suggest you immediately get in touch with the ACTIVE CALCUTTA based self help group(s), in case you haven't so far.

    Calcutta:
    Mr. Vineet Ruia - 033-25347398 , 033-25217318 - 8:30 to 10 PM ONLY,
    Mr. Kamlesh K Dwivedi - 9231835462
    Mr. D.S.Rao - 9830151555, Mr. Suman Chatterjee - 9830927619

    Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz alternate URL http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10


    More after hearing from you

    Regards



    goutam ..... wrote:

    Name: goutam
    Location[City/State]: west bengal
    Hear about us: Friend
    498A Registered: YES
    498A Place: __WB___
    498A Date: __mid 07
    Any Other IPCs: 153
    Relatives Accused: my wife
    Jailed Days: YES
    Stage of Case: no498a
    Spent Money on 498A:
    Lived in joint Family: NO
    Marriage Date: _mid_1996
    Wife Age: 53
    Wife's Education Level: inter
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: YES
    Have children: YES
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: YES
    Took her Stridhan Back: NO
    She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    Willing to Help other Victims: YES

    Comments: i have complit 10 years marrage life.
    my wife is 11 years elder from me
    i have a child aged 4+
    my wife left my house last 1 year
    her sister with my wife harraded me & my child
    help me please for my child & My self




    regards, vinayak

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    Re: Advice Please - Amir - Near Delhi


    >
    >Comments: I am muslim and a public Sector
    >employee(Govt. service, got married in the year
    >2002, having two children(doughters)
    > living Near Delhi .
    >
    >During our short visit to my mothers place at
    >UP(UP)My wife after having hot
    >discussion with my mother ran out of our house
    >to her parents place(at UP to a dfferent
    >mohalla))with children after creating seen
    >before the nearby people that we are beating
    >and abusing her. Now we are afraid that her
    >family may police complaint against ours u/s
    >498a.
    >
    >This incident had occured on June 2007 and
    >since then she is there with her parents and
    >brothers at UP.
    >
    >So far no complaint has been made however we
    >are getting information that they may go for
    >complain.
    >
    >What precautions shold we take? can we get
    >ancitipatry bail in this regard from Near Delhi
    >Haryana
    >
    >kindly help.
    >
    >
    >

    I'm saddened  to hear your situation

    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.
    - Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)
    - trying to separate the husband from his parents,
    - money
    - vengence
    - trying to take away children and alienate them from the father
    - even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases
    ...etc....etc....

    a.1. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with / or threatened with a false dowry case. This is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. The root cause of most FALSE 498a cases is money

    >What precautions shold we take? can we get
    >ancitipatry bail in this regard from Near Delhi
    >Haryana

    d. As the wife [including the in laws] have threated to file a false dowry case (498a case) and as (you) the husband is innocent, see if you can record their threats .

    e. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    f. This will help you expose their threats

    g. At this moment, Do NOT worry much about admissibility of tape records etc. You should try and get MULTIPLE evidences of their greed and USE THEM AT THE right time. Do NOT use them at every juncture.

    h. BE FIRM, but be careful

    i. Generally we advise people NOT to file for divorce in a haste. http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    k. You ALSO state that your wife LEFT your home on her OWN accord and that she did NOT return. This IF proven is an act of desertion - an act that can be used to support your divorce. So you should try to create proof of her voluntary leaving

    k.1. For e.g. have you called her back ?

    k.2. Are there any negotiations or mediations ?

    k.3. Try and get proof / evidence of every act you have done to get her back ...

    K.4. You are a MUSLIM. So sharia law should be applicable for you in all divorce matters !! Please remember this in all CIVIL matrimonial cases !!

    k.5. Sharia Provides the Harassed Male, the Husband, many reasonable safeguards.

    l. In case the woman is NOT willing to come back we even advice that you call her back. Read here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/rcr-is-strategy-aka-rcr-before-enemy.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2zcyoh

    m. Reason for calling back : If you call her back and she does NOT come back, she will be exposed. She will be the deserting spouse.

    n. Many women threaten / file a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    o. MAINTENANCE ISSUES, FOR A MUSLIM HUSBAND : Further ... As a MUSLIM your maintenance payment is restricted to just payment for a period of 3 months for the wife !! THAT IS IT. PERIOD. You can also get custody of your children. Children are your responsibility till they seek employment / are of employable age or till girl children get married

    That is why I reapet, follow Sharia, .....follow Sharia, .....Follow sharia and DO NOT FOLLOW other laws

    In General
    p. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these FALSE DOWRY CASE problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    See here for a DECISION by a court where the judge speaks volumes against misuse of 498a http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/quash-of-false-498a-judge-speaks-of.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/3bfkvq
    SELF HELP

    I suggest you immediately get in touch with the ACTIVE DELHI or MUMBAI based self help group(s), in case you haven't so far.

    Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz alternate URL http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10

    >What precautions shold we take? can we get
    >ancitipatry bail in this regard from Near Delhi
    >Haryana

    Keep checking your area and her area police stations. The moment you are aware of a complaint by your wife, immediately apply for bail

    But a complaint at a police station may be required before you apply and get anticipatory bail

    Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh


    More after hearing from you


    >
    >
    >
    >Name: Amir
    >Victim Location : Near Delhi
    >Hear about us: YahooSearch
    >498A Registered: NO
    >498A Place:
    >498A Date:
    >Any Other IPCs:
    >Relatives Accused:
    >Jailed Days: NO
    >Stage of Case: no498a
    >Spent Money on 498A:
    >Lived in joint Family: NO
    >Marriage Date:
    >Wife Age:
    >Wife's Education Level: __post grad__
    >Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
    >Filed for Divorce: NO
    >Have children: YES
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: NO
    >Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    >She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    >Willing to Help other Victims: YES
    >Ready for TV/Press Interivew : YES
    >
    >Comments: I am muslim and a public Sector
    >employee(Govt. service, got married in the year
    >2002, having two children(daughters)
    >living at Near Delhi .
    >
    >During our short visit to my mothers place at
    >UP(UP)My wife after having hot discussion with
    >my mother ran out of our house to her parents
    >place(at UP to a dfferent mohalla))with
    >children after creating seen before the nearby
    >people that we are beating and abusing her. Now
    >we are afraid that her family may police
    >complaint against ours u/s 498a.
    >
    >This incident had occurred on June 2007 and
    >since then she is there with her parents and
    >brothers at UP.
    >
    >So far no complaint has been made however we
    >are getting information that they may go for
    >complain.
    >
    >What precautions shold we take? can we get
    >ancitipatry bail in this regard from Near Delhi
    >Haryana
    >
    >kindly help.
    >
    >
    >



    regards, vinayak

    My post above is Subject to
    ----------------------------
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew

    Dowry Law Misuse : http://tinyurl.com/tdkx6 , http://tinyurl.com/v5vp8

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    Tuesday, June 26, 2007

    Italy's divorce rate jumps 74 percent in 10 years. Is India Following Soon ?


    Italy and India are closely connected now !! There is news that Italy's divorce rate has jumped 74% in 10 years. almost 40% of all marriages are broken in this Roman Catholic Country. Looking at the misuse of divorce laws, India cannot be far away


    AFP News brief

    Italy's divorce rate jumps 74 percent in 10 years

    The divorce rate in predominantly Roman Catholic Italy catapaulted 74 percent between 1995 and 2005, a new study by the national statistics institute said Tuesday.

    The study said separations has also increased 57 percent during the same decade.

    There were 82,291 separations in 2005 and 47,036 divorces, the study said.

    Marital break-ups and separations were commoner in the more industrialised and richer north against the poorer south.

    There were 6.2 separations and four divorces for every 1,000 marriages in the north in 2005, against 4.2 separations and 1.8 divorces in the south.

    In 1995, 158 of 1,000 married couples were separated and 80 were divorced. A decade later, the figures had swelled to 272 separations and 151 divorces.


    http://www.france24.com/france24Public/en/administration/afp-news.html?id=070626172900.3vfvdyks&cat=null

    CPM leader Subhasini Ali's son Shaad files for divorce


    CPM leader Subhasini Ali's son files for divorce


    Shaad files for divorce!

    27 Jun, 2007 l 0000 hrs ISTlTIMES NEWS NETWORK

    Jhoom Barabar Jhoom's poor show at the box-office has only added to director Shaad Ali's misery.
    On the personal front, the filmmaker is still reeling under the effects of his broken marriage. Shaad married childhood sweetheart Shahzneen Hussian in a grand ceremony on January 28, 2006 at Lucknow.

    However, the strain in their relationship began showing soon after, which led the couple to live separately. Sources inform that the couple has already filed for divorce.

    Reportedly, the couple was at loggerheads even when Shaad was filming Jhoom Barabar Jhoom in London, last October. Although Shahzneen was not part of the crew, she used to give creative inputs.

    Once the couple had a fierce showdown and eventually, Shahzneen packed her bags and walked out.

    A cast member, on condition of anonymity, says, "We witnessed regular fights and arguments between the two on the sets. They just couldn't get along. One day, Shahzneen left from the sets in a huff after she fought with Shaad. It's very unfortunate as they have known each other since their school days."

    Shaad's parents - filmmaker-designer Muzaffar Ali and former MP and CPM leader Subhasini - are yet to come to terms with the break-up of their son's marriage that barely lasted for eight months. "His parents are unable to comprehend the cause for the split," says a close family friend.

    Shaad has found solace in religion these days.

    Of late, the bohemian film-maker has been reading religious books. A close friend of the filmmaker adds, "He has been going through a personal crisis. He has just discovered his spiritual side. He reads a lot of religious books, which gives him peace of mind."

    When quizzed about it, close friend and choreographer Vaibhavi Merchant says, "Shaad has been pretty close to Sufism. As for his broken marriage, it's very difficult to comment. You never know what happens between two adults."

    A self-confessed recluse, Shaad was not available for comment.

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/City_Supplements/Calcutta_Times/Shaad_files_for_divorce/articleshow/2151652.cms

    Wife's Parents in US. What about the Husband's Parents


    Wife's Parents in US. What about the Husband's Parents


    Re. News Item below. The wife's parents are supposed to be happy, the wife is happy the kids are happy etc etc... But what about the Husband's parents ? are they allowed / permitted to be happy by today's Irate Daughters in Law ?

    Ultra Feminism has meant elders - especially Husband's parents on the street !!!




    Parents relocate from India to spend golden years with children
    By HEMA EASLEY
    THE JOURNAL NEWS

    (Original publication: June 26, 2007)

    TAPPAN

    Every now and then when the children are in the car and Bhavana Patel has a potentially captive audience, she asks them to turn off their iPod or movie, and talks to them about Indian culture and values.

    The subject could be Indian festivals, respect for elders and education, or stories from Indian mythology. Or it could be one subject that is closest to her heart - the importance of family.

    When Patel watches a 94-year-old neighbor drink his morning coffee alone on the porch, or another older couple wait for their children's visit at Thanksgiving or Christmas, she takes comfort in the fact her parents now live with her. She is among a growing number of Indians who have sponsored their parents' green cards so that they will spend the last years of their lives with their children and grandchildren.

    By bringing her parents from India to settle in the United States, she is following an age-old Indian tradition of looking after one's parents, much as the parents cared for them when they were children.

    "If we don't look after our parents, our children won't look after us," Patel said simply, echoing the much-repeated Indian dictum that has for centuries formed a pillar of the Indian social structure.

    Until 2005, Patel's parents, Karsanbhai K. Patel, 66, and Kantabehn Patel, 55, lived with their son, his wife and their two children in Maisana Pattan, a village in the western state of Gujarat.

    Every morning, before her son and daughter-in-law went to work, Kantabehn Patel would walk to the edge of the village to draw water from the communal well. She would return home to get her grandchildren ready for school, cook them breakfast and then see them off. She would spend the day taking care of the house, cooking and doing laundry. At night, she would sleep with her two grandchildren in a string cot.

    Since she has been in the United States, Kantabehn Patel has much less to do. Cooking and laundry take a fraction of the time they took in India, and she has ample time to spend with her daughter and grandchildren.

    While her husband, a former loan officer at a development bank in India, helps the children with their homework, Kantabehn Patel tells them stories from the Indian epics, the Ramayana and Mahabharata, in their native tongue, Gujarati.

    "All faiths are good," Bhavana Patel said. "But every parent wants their child to learn about their own faith."

    In a culture where family takes priority over the individual and privacy doesn't have the same value as it does in America, the joint family works for all.

    It is a symbiotic relationship: The hard-working younger couple who are trying to get a leg up in the new country have the comfort of knowing that their parents are at home taking care of their children and inculcating all the values that they are not able to pass on.

    The parents have their children and grandchildren in their lives, and the knowledge that their children will take care of them when they can no longer take care of themselves.

    That is why Karsanbhai K. Patel and Kantabehn Patel agreed to come to the United States at their daughter's invitation. The Patels hope that their son, Bhavana's brother, will also join them soon with his family. Her mother-in-law, Puribehn Patel, also lives with the family. Both sides of the family are named "Patel," which is a common name in India.

    The new life is not without its challenges.

    Bhupendra Patel moved to the United States with his wife six years ago to live with his son, Sanjiv, and daughter-in-law, Kashmira, in Nanuet. He loved the greenery, the big malls, the open highways and the clean air.

    "If I had lived in India I would have died five years before my time," said Bhupendra Patel, referring to air pollution in large parts of India that can lead to asthma and other lung diseases. "Here I will live five years longer."

    But now he is filled with nostalgia.

    When he stepped out of his front door in his home village of Asuj, he would meet neighbors, friends and relatives on the streets, he said.

    Every few days there would be a gathering of relatives, at which they would share a traditional vegetarian meal and talk about the latest developments in village and state politics. Then there were the occasional trips into the nearby big city in his little two-wheeled scooter.

    Now, Bhupendra Patel said, he seldom meets neighbors and has few friends other than some Indian families he meets through his son and daughter-in-law.

    Every morning and afternoon he walks his grandchildren to and from the bus stop, and he occasionally meets a neighbor during his walks during fine weather. But the interaction is limited to a quick "hello."

    And then there is the issue of independence.

    While Bhupendra Patel does drive, unlike many older Indians who have settled in this country, he and his wife have little say in the family's social and financial decisions. He said he feels he is dependent on his children.

    Still, it works out, he said. He is helpful to his son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren, while he and his wife will be looked after in their old age.

    "Everyone benefits in all ways," said Kashmira Patel, his daughter-in-law. "They get love and support. And there is less stress" for everyone.

    http://www.nynews.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070626/NEWS03/706260371



    regards, vinayak

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    ----------------------------
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    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew

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    Child interviewed. Child wishes to live with mother- Appeal


    Appeal (civil) 5131 of 2006 - Lekha V P. Anil Kumar - Custody of Minor, child interviewed

    Custody of Minor. Boy of 12 years. Child interviewed and the child wishes to be with the mother.

    Notes :
    - A child MAY not KNOW the difference between right and wrong.
    - A child MAY be influenced by a proximate parent who has physical custody.
    - In this given case, the Parental Alienation syndrome does NOT seem to hold water with the courts.

    Strange it may sound, even the second marriage of the mother was NOT considered important as the boy of 12 years wished to stay with the mother.

    Well.... what to say ? ...Many children of 12 years age would NOT even wish to go to school  .... !!


    Maintenance to wife. Second marriage during pendancy of appeal - Appeal

    Appeal (civil) 5779 of 2006 - Sujata Uday Patil Vs Uday Madhukar Patil. - maintenance and second marriage

    Divorce.

    Maintenance to Son and wife. Wife earns Rs. 2000 p.m.. Husband supposed to earn Rs. Rs.8,423/. Difficulties in giving immovable property in lieu of maintenance. Divorce Granted. One time maintenance fixed at Rs. 8 Lakhs

    Validity of Second marriage during pendancy of appeal over earlier divorce decree etc discussed.

    More at

    http://vinayak.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/appeal-civil-5779-of-2006-sujata-uday-patil-vs-uday-madhukar-patil.pdf


    Wife abducts kid from US to India. - SANTA SHARMA vs SUSHIL SHARMA. SC of India. 16/02/2000

    Wife abducts kid from US to India. Wife also claims that Husband is an alcoholic. One of the children is a girl aged 5.

    India NOT a signatory to the Hague convention - either the 1900 convention or the latest "..Convention of 25 October 1980 on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction..".

    The convention can be found at http://www.hcch.net/index_en.php?act=conventions.text&cid=24

    Signatories to 1980 convention http://www.hcch.net/index_en.php?act=conventions.status&cid=24 Court opines that one child is a five year old girl child and the two children cannot be separated from each other. Father's habits also are discussed.

    Wife gets custody.

    More at

    http://vinayak.files.wordpress.com/2007/06/santa-sharma-v-sushil-sharma-custody-of-children.pdf

    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/3yvvlj

    Re: 24 HMA and 125 Cr pc What is difference ?


    Dear Vinod

    I too fully agree with Jogeshwar ji below. I too suggest you read more. Initially it might be frustrating, but soon you will realise the pleasure of learning yourself. ....I also see additional reasons ...

    The more you search and understand yourself, the better you will recall and the better you will relish the understanding. The better you will relate it to your own situation

    To start with, I'm giving you some links (random, in no specific order...you may start anywhere and proceed)

    Dump hubby, lose maintenance
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/dump-hubby-lose-maintenance.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/yr8g6o

    RCR is a strategy. aka RCR before the enemy acts
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/rcr-is-strategy-aka-rcr-before-enemy.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2zcyoh

    Questions for New victims - start from Question 21 onwards
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/questions-for-new-victims.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2f2pyl

    Husband Seeks Maintenance
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/husband-seeks-maintenance.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2udaqp

    The Hindu Marriage Act
    http://www.sudhirlaw.com/HMA55.htm

    The Indian Penal Code
    http://www.vakilno1.com/bareacts/IndianPenalCode/indianpenalcode.htm


    More after hearing from you

    Regards
    vinayak



    >>
    >>--- In saveindianfamily@yahoogroups.com,
    >>"vinod wrote:
    >>
    >>I am newcomer, there are nearly 1000 messages
    >>each , when i click the search button with 24
    >>HMA and 125 Crpc. ONE sif friend sent some nice
    >>attachments about maintainance. Can someone in
    >>a few lines say what 24 HMA and 125 Crpc stand
    >>for ?
    >>
    >>>
    >>>--- In saveindianfamily@yahoogroups.com,
    >>>"jogeshwarmahanta" <jogeshwarmahanta@> wrote:
    >>>
    >>>Enough messages are posted on these sections.
    >>>Please use the search button and understand the
    >>>difference.
    >>>
    >>>regards
    >>>
    >>>>
    >>>>--- In saveindianfamily@yahoogroups.com,
    >>>>"vinod wrote:
    >>>>
    >>>>
    >>>>Can someone please tell me what is the basic
    >>>>difference between 24 HMA and 125 Crpc ?
    >>>>
    >>>>My friend says , one is INTERIM MAINTAIANCE
    >>>>and second FINAL MAINTAINACE is this true ?
    >>>>
    >>>>Vinod
    >>>>
    >>>>

    Monday, June 25, 2007

    IAS officer's wife wages RTI battle - can our motners, sisters do the same ?

    IAS officer's wife wages RTI battle

    Shweta Ganesh Kumar
    CNN-IBN
    Posted Sunday , June 24, 2007 at 17:14
    Updated Sunday , June 24, 2007 at 17:35

    PROTESTING ON THE WEB: Jayashree insists the website is more than a way of showing her support to her husband.

    PROTESTING ON THE WEB: Jayashree insists the website is more than a way of showing her support to her husband.

    Bangalore: An IAS officer and his wife are fighting back against corruption, demanding their Right To Information after six transfers this year.
    Six transfers in as many months; IAS officer M N Vijaykumar has been through hell. And all the while his wife Jayashree stood with him. She even opened a website to expose the corrupt practices within the Karnataka Government. Their efforts prompted the Lok Ayukta to order the chief secretary to respond to Vijayakumar's application under the Right to Information Act by June 27.
    Vijayakumar had asked for reasons behind his frequent transfers. The reply is yet to come, but he has got another letter from chief secretary P B Mahishi. The government has asked him to close the website run by his wife, and hints at legal action if he doesn't fall in line.
    "They are questioning why I've opened a website? They say I've done it on the behest of my husband. They are ignoring my entity. They said I cannot do anything till I disassociate from my husband," says Jayashree, Vijaykumar's wife, who opened 'Fight Corruption', the website to wage her husband's battle.
    Jayashree approached the women's commission which has directed the chief secretary to appear for a hearing on Monday. When contacted, Mahishi refused to comment on the issue. Jayashree, on her part, insists that the website is more than a way of showing her support to her husband.
    "Our focus is in bringing good governance to Karnataka. We are fighting to that end," insists Jayashree.
    The RTI Act was instituted to ensure the common man's right to information. But when it's the very right that is questioned, then there's scant little that the common man can do.


    regards, vinayak

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    ----------------------------
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    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew

    Dowry Law Misuse : http://tinyurl.com/tdkx6 , http://tinyurl.com/v5vp8

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    http://tinyurl.com/2dkub4
    http://tinyurl.com/23xppp

    http://vinayak.jconserv.net/index.php

    http://www.bloglines.com/blog/eVinayak
    http://bareact.blogspot.com/
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    "...The wife did not teach the husband how to win. ..."


    "...The wife did not teach the husband how to swing a golf club. The wife did not teach the husband how to win. The golf swing and the success as a professional golfer which the husband brought into this marriage opened commercial doors during the course of this marriage which would otherwise not have been available....."

    Wife takes $100m bite out of golf's Great White Shark


    By Stephen Foley in New York

    Published: 25 June 2007

    He may be the one nicknamed the Great White Shark, but it is Greg Norman's wife who has proved to possess the sharpest teeth in the couple's acrimonious divorce battle, biting a $100m (£50m) chunk out of the golfing legend's fortune.
    After a bitter one-year battle, the two-times Open Championship winner agreed to the settlement - one of sport's largest - to spare his new girlfriend, the tennis star Chris Evert, an embarrassing appearance in a Florida courtroom.
    Norman has been fighting for 12 months to resist demands that he split his $300m fortune equally with his wife of 25 years. But that all changed when lawyers for Laura Norman threatened to drag Evert into proceedings, demanding to see details of gifts the Wimbledon winner was given by Mr Norman and details of trips she took in his private jet. Evert had been a friend and neighbour of the Normans in Florida, and she has been publicly stepping out with the golfer since her own divorce last year. On a trip to his native Australia, where he is surveying an outpost of his real estate-to-clothing business empire, Norman tried to appear philosophical. "Nobody likes to go through what I've gone through, but that's life and it's over," he said. "The terms have been agreed to; let's move on."
    His assets had included a $35m mansion called Tranquillity in Florida's celebrity haven, Jupiter Island, a personal jet, a helicopter and a 230ft yacht, as well as business interests that include designing golf courses, golf-themed gated communities for the well-to-do, vineyards and a popular sports clothing range.
    Mrs Norman said she had been instrumental in helping her husband leverage his fame on the golf course in these other successful business ventures, serving on the boards of his companies until just last year, giving her a claim to over half his assets. At the same time, she brought up the couple's two children, Morgan-Leigh, 24, and Gregory, 20. But in legal papers Norman dismissed his wife's contribution to his fortune, in terms that appeared calculatedly scathing. "The wife did not teach the husband how to swing a golf club. The wife did not teach the husband how to win. The golf swing and the success as a professional golfer which the husband brought into this marriage opened commercial doors during the course of this marriage which would otherwise not have been available."
    What at first looked to be an amicable divorce turned nasty after pictures of Norman and Ms Evert holding hands appeared in newspapers. Gossip columnists in Australia and the US had been salivating at the prospect of a courtroom showdown between the Normans, where many of their friends were to have appeared to discuss the breakdown of their marriage.
    Mrs Norman was in court in Stuart, Florida, to hear the settlement being approved, after which she donned her Chanel sunglasses and hit the shops with a friend. Although a minor tax issue - about who must repay write-offs from aeroplanes the couple have owned through their marriage - will have to be settled by a trial in September, Mrs Norman was said to be relieved. Her lawyer, Jack Scarola, added: "She's very appreciative of the fact she has had a great deal of support from the public."
    Last year, Evert divorced the downhill ski champion Andy Mill, whom she had married in 1988, paying a reputed $7m. They have three adolescent boys.
    She had been told to bring letters, gift receipts and other details of her relationship with Norman to a meeting with Mrs Norman's lawyers, a meeting she will be spared. At her partner's side, Ms Evert said: "I'm very happy the settlement has come through and we can get on with our lives."



    regards, vinayak

    My post above is Subject to
    ----------------------------
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew

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    http://vinayak.jconserv.net/index.php

    http://www.bloglines.com/blog/eVinayak
    http://bareact.blogspot.com/
    http://my2cw.blogspot.com/
    http://o3.indiatimes.com/mera/
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    Widow says India's would be president, Pratibha's brother, plotted her husband's murder


    Widow says India's would be president, Pratibha's brother, plotted her husband's murder
    Media Release
    Jun. 22, 2007
    A day ahead of her filing nomination for the Presidential election, UPA-Left candidate Pratibha Patil was on Friday accused by a woman from Maharashtra of "protecting" her brother, who she said had a hand in the murder of her husband two years ago, a charge strongly dismissed by the Congress.
    Significantly, Rajani Patil, widow of slain Jalgaon district Congress committee president V G Patil, held a press conference here at the residence of Shiromani Akali Dal leader Sukhdev Singh Dhindsa, which was organised by Sudheendra Kulkarni, close to BJP leaders A B Vajpayee and L K Advani.
    At the press conference, Rajani Patil, a professor of Marathi in a Jalgaon college, alleged that supporters of G N Patil, brother of Pratibha Patil, had murdered her husband in 2005 after he had narrowly lost the DCC poll.
    She alleged that G N Patil and another Congress leader were the "conspirators in the crime".
    She released copies of a memorandum she had sent to President A P J Abdul Kalam on Thursday in which she accused the former Rajasthan Governor of "trying to influence" the investigation to "protect" her brother. Rajni Patil wanted the CBI to investigate this angle. 


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    Girl files for relief under Domestic Violence Act. Blames politicians !

    Girl files for relief under Domestic Violence Act

    BY HERALD REPORTER

    PANJIM, JUNE 22 —
    She has the guts to fight not just her conservative-minded parents but to take on RSS activists and Mandrem MLA Laxmikant Parsekar — all who have been deciding what her future should be. Nineteen-year-old Sweta Parsekar of Parsem, Pernem — fighting for her freedom has filed for relief under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act.

    Addressing a press conference here on Friday here, an undaunted Shweta even as she was bombarded with volley of questions by press persons — narrated her story on how her parents supported by neighbours and RSS activists have been forcing her to give up her job.

    She worked in Mapusa at a shop dealing in mobile phones. Her parents however, started objecting to her job, demanding that she should give up the job, she said.

    Determined to continue working, she refused to bow down and things came to such a state she had to bear with assault by family members.

    Coming before press today she said, "I want to work — want my freedom and don't want the course of my life to be dictated by RSS activists." In a written complaint to Goa State Women Commission, she has given detailed account of her harassment by parents as well how her friends who have tried to help her out were beaten up by people from her neighbournood and saffron elements. They were beaten and given to the police under the pretext that they belong to Believers group.

    Currently leaving on her own in Margao (according to her account, she was thrown out by the family) she in no uncertain words told media that RSS followers and even MLA Parsekar who tried to give her lessons on morality, Indian culture and how Indian women should behave, have to pay attention to other pressing issues indeed threatening Indian culture.

    "Why haven't they been able to stop rave parties happening on Goan beaches particularly in Pernem taluka's coastline? Why can't they stop drug flow or fight against it," she asked at a press conference, making it clear that they should keep out of her way and that she knows what is good and what is bad for her. She also fears for her life to go back to her parents.


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    don't our police have better work to do ? Why should police be party to a PURE matrimonial dispute ? Mera Bharath ...


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    Why should police get involved in a Matrimonial Dispute ?

    For some strange reason, only in India do police interfere into matrimonial issues. such cases are better solved by mediation or conciliation or matrimonial counseling

    Dear oh dear..... when will India stop criminalizing matrimonial tiffs

    Don't our police have better work to do ?

    ============ news item ==============

    Man, wife trade charges of domestic violence

    Express News Service

    Amritsar, June 24: In an unusual case, a man and his wife, married for less than a year, levelled charges of domestic violence against each other, and both have approached the police.

    Interestingly, while the wife has charged the husband with beating and harassing her mentally, besides demanding dowry, the husband alleged that he was locked up inside the bathroom for hours, before being rescued by neighbours.

    The wife has also alleged that her husband, who was earlier married to a girl from Shimla, had also maltreated his first wife. Kamaljit Kaur, a resident of Batala Road, in a letter to SSP Kunwar Vijay Pratap Singh, alleged that she was beaten up and harassed for bringing inadequate dowry and has demanded that a case be registered against her husband and in-laws. She said that she was married to Inderjit Singh, a resident of Chheharta, in August last and her father Sukhman Singh, a bank manager, who is suffering from cancer, had given dowry as per his means.

    She, however, said that barely a month after her marriage, she was tortured physically and mentally. Kaur said her in-laws' family expelled her husband from their property as he did not have a proper job, had no fixed income. "My in-laws demanded a plot and Rs 2 lakh from me and beat me up when I told them that my father could not afford to give them this," she said, adding that her father and brother bore their expenses after his family expelled her husband, who, however, continued to torture her.

    "He used to keep me locked up, starved me and tried to kill me by throwing petrol and acid on me. I saved my life by locking him up in the bathroom and escaped to my parents' house," she said.

    However, Inderjit Singh termed these allegations as baseless. Accepting that this was his second marriage, he charged Kaur with being married previously and keeping it a secret from him. "I never harmed her, rather she was the one who locked me up in the bathroom from where my neighbours rescued me in an unconscious state and this was even proved true by eyewitnesses and the police," he claimed.

    SSP Kunwar Vijay Pratap Singh said he had received the complaint of the girl and an inquiry has been marked to Vijay Nagar Police Station SHO.


    http://cities.expressindia.com/fullstory.php?newsid=242831

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    Re: Advice Please- vivek ____ - new delhi

    Dear Vivek

    Its very sad that you got arrested for no fault of yours. .....Subject to my idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz and standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9

    1. Let me assure you, you have crossed the worst

    2. The fear of arrest under Dowry laws is the biggest threat men face. Or else the rest of the matter is a pure matrimonial dispute and can be handled as a civil matrimonial dispute...

    3. Now that you have already been arrested AND released there isn't much damage that they can do

    4. Your wife and in laws have tried their best AND failed

    5. Please let me know if ANY other cases - say for maintenance or Divorce have been filed by either side

    6. Also please read general help / guidance here http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/false-498a-wife-asking-for-share-of.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/23vqyb

    or

    7. General Help in similar cases here : ...My wife was the sweetest on earth. Suddely she has filed a false case against me ....
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/my-wife-was-sweetest-on-earth-suddely.html
    or alternate URL http://preview.tinyurl.com/29easb


    8. Even courts are aware of this malice "..Filing false 498A case amounts to cruelty - Bombay HC.."
    http://merabarath.blogspot.com/2007/05/filing-false-498a-case-amounts-to.html
    altenate URL http://tinyurl.com/2wmosg


    9. You are NOT the only one, so stop thinking you are alone : These days I come across 100s if not 1000s of FALSE extortion cases and FALSE dowry cases. The law that was made to protect the woman, seems to be grossly mis-used to extract money from innocent men or to wreck vengeance. Do not think you are the only one affected. There are 10s of 1000s of FALSE cases all over India. Read here for more "..Though the woman who filed the dowry complaint is married to another man, the case goes on after 21 years !!! - UPDATES ....
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/though-woman-who-filed-dowry-complaint_19.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/29g5y9

    10. You are entitled to meeting your son. You will have seek visitation rights thru the courts. Please read here for more. "......abhorrence towards the Father cannot but be the result of brainwashing by the Mother.....
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/abhorrence-towards-father-cannot-but-be.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2q393v

    10. SELF HELP TEAMS AT DELHI and all over India: *It is always preferable to get advise and support over phone or in person [numbers below]*. Everything cannot be UNDERSTOOD over mail. We have started many self help teams in India and aboard. I suggest you contact our Delhi Self Help team. Contact nos can be found at http://tinyurl.com/vntjz or alternate URL http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10


    More after hearing from you

    Regards
    Vinayak

    Name: vivek ____
    Location[City/State]: new delhi
    Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    498A Registered: YES
    498A Place: merrut (uttar pradesh)
    498A Date: __early___2006
    Any Other IPCs: 3/4,323,406,504,
    Relatives Accused: mother,elder married sister,younger un married sister
    Jailed Days: YES
    Stage of Case: chargesheet
    Spent Money on 498A:
    Lived in joint Family: YES
    Marriage Date: __late__2001
    Wife Age: 25 +
    Wife's Education Level: __post Graduate__
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: NO
    Have children: YES
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: NO
    Took her Stridhan Back: NO
    She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    Willing to Help other Victims: YES

    Comments:

    My Father died in feb 2006 ,my wife left home and she filed FIR in _____ mahila thana in __early__2006,she pressurised me to get partioned in family share and to get her share in her name or otherwise she wont take back her complaint and sent everybody to jail.but in defence

    ,soon we got arresting stay from high court except me main accuced in fir i got arrested and jailed for __almost a month__ on __mid__2006 .

    i got realised on _almost_a_month_later_in_2006 .

    Now chargesheet has been sent to court by police.also she had filed suit under 125 crpc for maintaineance ,also she never allows me to meet our son who is with her since she left home




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    False 498a. Wife asking for share of assets. Re: Advice Please - D______- _____tamilnadu,india.

    Dear Harassed Husband

    I'm saddened  to hear your situation

    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.
    - Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)
    - trying to separate the husband from his parents,
    - money
    - vengence
    - trying to take away children and alienate them from the father
    - even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases
    ...etc....etc....

    a.1. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with / or threatened with a false dowry case. This is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    IN THE SHORT TERM

    c. I see you have CROSSED THE WORST

    d. The worst they could do in your case was to file a false 498a case and TRY TO threaten you with arrest and try to make money

    e. You have NOW obtained Anticipatory bail and so they have failed in their evil designs

    e.1. I hope there are NO conditions attached to the Anticipatory bail petition

    IN THE LONG TERM

    >
    >Already my wife is asking 50% of our(mothers
    >and mine) property if the false case needs to
    >withdrawn.
    >

    f. The root cause of most FALSE 498a cases is money

    f.1. As the wife [including the in laws] have filed a false dowry case (498a case) and as the husband is innocent, see if you can record their threats (IF ANY).

    g. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    This will help you expose their threats

    Do NOT worry much about admissibility of tape records etc. You should try and get MULTIPLE evidences of their greed and USE THEM AT THE right time. Do NOT use them at every juncture.

    h. BE FIRM, but be careful

    i. Generally we advise people NOT to file for divorce in a haste. http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    j. However in your case you seem to have already file a Divorce petition. DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THAT MOVE.

    k. However you state that your wife LEFT your home on her OWN accord and that she did NOT return. This IF proven is an act of desertion - an act that can be used to support your divorce

    l. Has your divorce case proceeded further ... for e.g. have they posted the case for conciliation or something like that ? Has your wife appeared or provided a counter to your case ?

    l.1. What is the status of her maintenance claim ?

    l.2. under what sections are these two cases filed .... what is the status

    >
    >After this she has filed a complaint against
    >me and my mother at salem under 406,498A. Now
    >we are under anticpatory bail.
    >
    >I have filed for divorce and she has filed for
    >maintaence.
    >

    m. IN MOST CASE MONEY IS A MOTIVATOR for false cases : THIS is one of the reasons we advise men to WAIT before filing for divorce - because they will hit back with maintenance

    m.1. In case the woman is NOT willing to come back we even advice that you call her back. Read here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/rcr-is-strategy-aka-rcr-before-enemy.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2zcyoh

    m.2. Reason : If you call her back and she does NOT come back, she will be exposed. She will be the deserting spouse.

    >
    >I have filed for divorce and she has filed for
    >maintaence.
    >

    n. Many women threaten / file a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    o. Further ... is the wife employed / does she have property or other assets in her name ?. IF YES Try and get proof of her employment / her well being. If she is employed She should NOT be entitled to ANY maintenance UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES.

    p. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these FALSE DOWRY CASE problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    >I dont want to live with my that person who
    >has lied, falsely implicated me, and who is
    >greedy for money only but not for husband.

    q.
    I understand the principle that you have stated. But to get to this stage you have to first prove that your wife's 498a case is false. Then you are entitled to get divorce not only on grounds of desertion but also on cruelty (false 498a = cruelty)

    See here for a DECISION by a court where the judge speaks volumes against misuse of 498a http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/quash-of-false-498a-judge-speaks-of.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/3bfkvq

    r. child custody

    Who is having the kid as of now ?

    There are few cases where the child custody is left to the mother, but men have actively fought and got back the children. The more men fight, the more we create precedents for others to follow

    See here for more ";...abhorrence towards the Father cannot but be the result of brainwashing by the Mother....."or at http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/abhorrence-towards-father-cannot-but-be.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2q393v

    s. I suggest you immediately get in touch with the ACTIVE CHENNAI based self help group(s), in case you haven't so far.

    s.1. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz alternate URL http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10

    t. Could you please give us some more info on the status of the case ?
    - what are their allegations in the 498a case ?

    I am also copying this mail to other dedicated self help team members. they will also reply your questions

    More after your contacted our self help group


    >
    >Victim Location : chennai,tamilnadu,india
    >Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    >498A Registered: YES
    >498A Place: __,tamilnadu,india
    >498A Date: __early_2007
    >Any Other IPCs: 406
    >Relatives Accused: mother
    >Jailed Days: NO
    >Stage of Case: 498a
    >Spent Money on 498A: ______________
    >Lived in joint Family: YES
    >Marriage Date: __late__1994
    >Wife Age: 30 +
    >Wife's Education Level: __graduation___
    >Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
    >Filed for Divorce: YES
    >Have children: YES
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: YES
    >Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    >She had Any Medical Problems: YES_physical
    >Willing to Help other Victims: YES
    >Ready for TV/Press Interivew : MayBe

    >Comments:
    >
    >We reside in chennai and my family went to my
    >inlaw place due to the death of her mother. but
    >even after 2 months after repeatedly calling
    >her and went in person to pick her up.
    >
    >She refused to come.
    >
    >My father-in-law _____________ so she
    >has decided to stay with him as her sister was
    >in _______
    >
    >After this she has filed a complaint against
    >me and my mother at ______ under 406,498A. Now
    >we are under anticpatory bail.
    >
    >I have filed for divorce and she has filed for
    >maintaence.
    >
    >I suspect my father-in-law wants to keep her
    >with him to take care of him and as he ....
    > want my wife to extort money from me.
    >
    >Already my wife is asking 50% of our(mothers
    >and mine) property if the false case needs to
    >withdrawn.
    >
    >I dont want to live with my that person who
    >has lied, falsely implicated me, and who is
    >greedy for money only but not for husband.
    >
    >She has been suffering from _____, ____
    >____. ______, _________etc.,
    >for more than a decade

    [.............]

    regards, vinayak

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    Children Kidnapped - JOIN ACTIVE SELF HELP GROUPS, FIGHT INJUSTICE - Re: Advice Please - amit


    Dear Affected Husband

    I'm saddened  to hear your situation

    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    I just saw your mail today and hence am replying today. Sorry for the delay

    a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.

    - Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)
    - trying to separate the husband from his parents,
    - money
    - vengence
    - trying to take away children and alienate them from the father
    - even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases
    ...etc....etc....

    a.1. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with / or threatened with a false dowry case

    This is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. As the wife [including the in laws] have filed / are planning to file a false dowry case (498a case) and as the husband is innocent, see if you can record their threats (IF ANY).

    I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. MANY TIMES MONEY IS A MOTIVATOR for false cases : Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Further ... is the wife employed / does she have property or other assets in her name ?. IF YES Try and get proof of her employment / her well being. If she is employed She should NOT be entitled to ANY maintenance UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES.

    h. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these FALSE DOWRY CASE problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    i. But to get to this stage you have to first prove that your wife's case is false

    See here for a DECISION by a court where the judge speaks volumes against misuse of 498a http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/quash-of-false-498a-judge-speaks-of.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/3bfkvq

    j. child custody
    There are many cases where the child custody is left to the mother, but men have actively fought and got back the children. The more men fighth, the more we create precedents for others to follow

    See here for more "...abhorrence towards the Father cannot but be the result of brainwashing by the Mother....."or at http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/abhorrence-towards-father-cannot-but-be.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2q393v

    j. I suggest you immediately get in touch with the nearest ACTIVE self help group(s), in case you haven't so far. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz alternate URL http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/day/2006/12/10

    k. Contact other self help centers as well if necessary

    l. Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh

    IF a case has already been filed (say by the time you see this mail) , could you please give us some more info on the status of the case ?

    - what are their allegations in the 498a case ?

    - have any other civil cases been filed by either side - say divorce case, maintenance, etc...etc... ?

    I am also copying this mail to other dedicated self help team members. they will also reply your questions

    More after your contacted our self help group


    Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    498A Registered: NO
    498A Place:
    498A Date:
    Any Other IPCs:
    Relatives Accused: OLD MOTHER
    Jailed Days: NO
    Stage of Case: was_in_WomenCell
    Spent Money on 498A: one lac
    Lived in joint Family: YES
    Marriage Date: __early__1999
    Wife Age: 30 +
    Wife's Education Level: __graduate__
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: NO
    Have children: YES
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: YES
    Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    Willing to Help other Victims: YES
    Ready for TV/Press Interivew : YES

    Comments:

    My case has been wraped up at CAW in march and has been recommended to register u/sec 498 .

    FIR has not been lodged yet because wife knows herself that she is accusing on false allegations against me and my mother.

    SHE AND HER PARENTS EFFECTIVELY KIDNAPPED MY MINOR CHILDREN TO EXTORT MONEY -N- PROPERTY.

    Now she is demanding unresonable amount to meet my own beloved offsprings. I have not heared and seen my children since ___late__2006.this is unlawful psychological pressure on me to surrender to her to her unjust demands.

    she is worldlywise educated woman and has all legal knowledge.

    she is abusing provisions of law by alleging false and scandalous allegations regarding dowery, cruelty and harrasment.

    It is submitted that if the allegations leveled against him are taken to be correct which are infact false it can not be said that the natural father and his minor children were required to be detained by the wife and her parents!!there is an abuse of power on the part of well crafted woman of her legal right by negotiating the children with MONEY and furnishing grounds for granting divorce.





    regards, vinayak

    My post above is Subject to
    ----------------------------
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew

    Dowry Law Misuse : http://tinyurl.com/tdkx6 , http://tinyurl.com/v5vp8

    Groups :

    http://groups.google.com/group/MatriSuggest
    http://groups.google.com/group/SIFsuggest


    Blogs :

    http://bareact.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html
    http://tinyurl.com/2tb3s7
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    http://tinyurl.com/23xppp

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    http://bareact.blogspot.com/
    http://my2cw.blogspot.com/
    http://o3.indiatimes.com/mera/
    http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/

    Seek advise : All India contact Nos : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz

    Send mail to : sifsuggest-subscribe@googlegroups.com
    Become a member and post questions to sifsuggest@googlegroups.com
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    Killer cop sentenced to life. Hope All erring police forces are made accountable

    Killer cop sentenced to life

    17 Jun, 2007 l 0116 hrs IST

    TIMES NEWS NETWORK

    THANE: A constable attached to the Kapurbawdi police station was on Saturday sentenced to life for assaulting a youth leading to his death.

    Rajesh Nana Patil (31) was held guilty by the district sessions judge G D Shirvadkar of the fast track court after examining 24 witnesses. The deceased, Prashant T C (28), was a resident of Hyderabad and was staying in Thane when the incident took place a little after midnight on January 5, 2005.

    Prashant, a medical representative, had entered into an argument with an autorickshaw driver over a fare when Patil intervened. This subsequently led to verbal exchanges between Prashant and Patil, who then assaulted the youth. Patil forcibly dragged him in the rickshaw and thrashed him all the way up to the Kapurbawdi police station.

    Prashant managed to escape, but Patil followed him and found him hiding near Hariyali Park chawl and mercilessly beat him again, apparently causing his death. Prashant's body was found the next morning.

    After beating the youth until he fell unconscious, the constable removed his wallet and took out his identity card to wipe out his identity. He also removed a Rs 500 note which he handed over to the autorickshaw driver, Tarachand Sharma. Interestingly, Sharma did not turn hostile and helped the prosecution to identify the accused.

    The complainant, Ritesh Patel, who had witnessed the constable beating the youth also corroborated the allegation, which finally nailed the constable.

    milind.ballal@timesgroup.com

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Mumbai/Killer_cop_sentenced_to_life/articleshow/2128661.cms


    regards, vinayak

    My post above is Subject to
    ----------------------------
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew

    Dowry Law Misuse : http://tinyurl.com/tdkx6 , http://tinyurl.com/v5vp8

    Groups :

    http://groups.google.com/group/MatriSuggest
    http://groups.google.com/group/SIFsuggest


    Blogs :

    http://bareact.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html
    http://tinyurl.com/2tb3s7
    http://tinyurl.com/2dkub4
    http://tinyurl.com/23xppp

    http://vinayak.jconserv.net/index.php

    http://www.bloglines.com/blog/eVinayak
    http://bareact.blogspot.com/
    http://my2cw.blogspot.com/
    http://o3.indiatimes.com/mera/
    http://www.blurty.com/users/vinayak/

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    What does mediation actually mean



    >
    >what does mediation actually means
    >

    [..............]

    >I tried to check the same with my lawyers
    >in mumbai, but somehow they are assuming
    >that mediator will either try to settle the
    >case either by giving divorce or if couple
    >agree, then he will try n patch up.


    On mediations and Lok adalats..
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/lok-adalat-etcetra.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/2a5hbl



    Mediation : Value of mediation proceedings as evidence
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/mediation-value-of-mediation.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/ytpytd




    More on the mediation process ...
    http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/05/more-on-mediation-process.html
    or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/27ne5f

    >
    >
    >what does mediation actually means
    >=======================================================
    >
    >
    >Hi, ___ months ago i had filed for divorce
    >in _______ Mumbai, but since my ex is from
    >___(another town), hence she filed for
    >transfer of divorce case in Supreme court,
    >
    >In ____ (my wife's town) i had engaged a
    >lawyer to fight for transfer, who is
    >currently not in a position to guide me
    >properly and after 5 times listing, Supreme
    >court passed the following order, -
    >
    >" Parties agree to explore the possibility
    >of resolving the dispute through mediation.
    >Let both the parties appear before the
    >Mediation Centre at _______, ___wife's
    >town__on __ _____, 2007 for mediation. Post
    >this matter on ___.___(some weeks after
    >mediation)__.2007."
    >
    >I tried to check the same with my lawyers
    >in mumbai, but somehow they are assuming
    >that mediator will either try to settle the
    >case either by giving divorce or if couple
    >agree, then he will try n patch up.
    >
    >But, somehow i feel the lawyers are not
    >aware about the (___Wife's town)system,
    >
    >so can someone please explain
    >the meaning of above order ?
    >and also, does ___ (wife's town court) court
    >has family court section in it, the way we
    >have family court in _______ Mumbai.?


    SOWRY - A new disease more deadly than AIDS



    A disease called SOWRY is spreading very fast in India and it is more deadly than AIDS.

    Everyday about 200 cases of SOWRY are reported in Delhi alone. Many more are reported all over India

    This is how it spreads.

    An unscrupulous woman marries a rich man who never demanded or took dowry. She then files false dowry cases against him and his family.

    Dowry case is a must-arrest law, meaning that the husband and his family is immediately arrested without investigation.

    Elderly mothers, un married sisters and other relatives of the husband are arrested in braod daylight and harassed

    This crooked wife and his family then demand money to the tune of several lakhs to take her dowry complaint back.

    Many MEN ARE BROWBEATEN and are forced to pay by un scrupulous lawyers and some police who get a cut out of this Ransom

    To save the society from women who marry for money, please forward this to all your friends and save them and their families from SOWRY


    Cost of Living !! / SUDHIR JAIN VS. PREMA JAIN - Alimony S. 25


    Ref maintenance judgment below

    question 1
    -----------------------

    Cost of living has been used by the Judge in trying to revise the maintenance. Do judges use COST OF LIVING, while deciding the maintenance for NRI ? is te high cost of housing in Dubai or the very high cost of medicines in USA or the very high cost of travel from UK to India taken into account to REDUCE maintenance ???


    question 2
    ------------------------

    Would it have been better for this chap to go for an one time settlement paying some lump sum instead of monthly maintenance ?


    regards
    vinayak




    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

    SUDHIR JAIN VS. PREMA JAIN - Alimony S. 25 (2) HMA
    Posted by: "ISHQ India"

    SUDHIR JAIN VS. PREMA JAIN [2004] INHCD 335 (17 September 2004)
    IN THE HIGH COURT OF DELHI AT NEW DELHI

    SUBJECT: SECTION 25(2) OF THE HINDU MARRIAGE ACT

    FAO 424 OF 2000 & CM 1328 OF 2002.

    Reserved on : September 14, 2004

    Date of Decision: September 17, 2004

    SUDHIR JAIN ..... Appellant
    Through Mr. Rajan Sharma, Adv.

    Versus

    PREMA JAIN ..... Respondent
    Through Mr.Sumeet Verma, Adv.

    R.S.SODHI J:

    1.FAO 424 of 2000 is directed against the judgment dated 25.9.2000 of the Additional District Judge in HMA No. 41/2000 disposing of a petition under Section 25(2) of the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 (for short 'the Act') moved by Ms. Prema Jain for enhancement of permanent alimony granted. The learned Judge held that a sum of Rs.2,000/- as maintenance from 01.10.2000 is appropriate.

    2. Brief facts of the case, as have been noted by the learned Additional District Judge are as under "-

    "The respondent (appellant before this court) was the husband of the petitioner (respondent before this court). The marriage between the parties was dissolved by a decree of divorce by the court then presided over by Shri S.R. Goel, ADJ, Delhi. On 3.3.82, Ms. Usha Mehra, the then ADJ, Delhi, fixed permanent alimony @ Rs.400/- per month for the petitioner and two minor children. An appeal was preferred before the Hon'ble High Court. Mr. Justice N.N. Goswami was pleased to enhance the maintenance from Rs.400/- per month to Rs.600/- per month vide order dated 19.7.84. The maintenance which have been granted by the High Court on 19.7.94, is sought to be enhanced by moving the application under Section 25(2) of Hindu Marriage Act. It is claimed in the petition that the respondent sometimes remits the maintenance and sometimes not which is causing drastic problems. The respondent is living in a lavish style. The respondent has got colour TV, VCR etc. and the children bo! rn out of the marriage between the respondent and the next wife after the divorce are studying in DAV Public School where the respondent is paying @ Rs.250/- per month. The petitioner claimed that the petitioner is totally unemployed. In a city like Delhi the prices of the things are shooting day by day. Earlier the petitioner was getting a financial help from his brother -in-law who was at Aligarh. The said financial help has also been stopped. The petitioner has not remarried. The petitioner needs a sum of Rs.2,000/- for maintenance of the family including the kitchen expenses."

    3.The learned Judge noted that Rs.600/- as maintenance had been fixed by the High Court with effect from 3.7.1987 and since then the cost of living index has risen. According to him, the rise in the value of property as per the inflation index for the year 1981-82 was Rs.100/- and for the year 1982-83 it was Rs.109/-; in the month of July, 1982, the cost of index will lie between or around Rs.103/- and in the year 1999-2000 it was Rs.389/-. Considering the same the learned Judge noted that applicant-wife would be entitled to maintenance fixed at Rs.2,400/- per month and, thereafter, taking into consideration that the petitioner has re-married and got two other children to support, thought it fit to fix the maintenance at Rs.2,000/- per month.

    4. Counsel for the petitioner submitted that the judgement under challenge is bad on account of the criteria adopted by the trial court inasmuch as dividing the income into one-half when the children of the first marriage are earning sufficient income dis-entitling them from any maintenance.

    5. I have heard counsel for the parties and gone through the judgment under challenge. It appears to me that the learned Judge, while adopting the criteria of inflation cost formula, has arrived at a conclusion that the wife-applicant is entitled to Rs.2,000/- per month. He has not, in any manner, held that the aforesaid sum of Rs.2,000/- is on account of maintenance towards the applicant-wife together with children of the first marriage. It is, therefore, wrong to submit that the maintenance has been awarded incorrectly. The reasoning of the learned Judge in the judgment under challenge appears to be sound as for increase in maintenance the inflation cost formula is good criteria.

    6. In this view of the matter, I find no infirmity, impropriety, perversity, illegality and/or jurisdictional error in the judgment under challenge. FAO 424 of 2000 and C.M. 1328 of 2002 are dismissed. No order as to costs.

    R.S. SODHI, J
    September 17, 2004

    Counsel for the respondent informs me that a sum of Rs.25,000/-, which is a part of the arrears of maintenance, is lying deposited in this case. Let the same be released to the respondent.

    R.S. SODHI, J

    September 17, 2004



    <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<

    ...abhorrence towards the Father cannot but be the result of brainwashing by the Mother.....


    Pramjit Singh Lamba Vs. Smit Prabjot Kaur  - Custody of Minor Childr
    Posted by: "ISHQ India"


    Pramjit Singh Lamba Vs. Smit Prabjot Kaur [2004] INHCD 76 (12 April 2004)

    IN THE HIGH COURT OF DELHI AT NEW DELHI

    SUBJECT:
    CRP No.276/2003

    Date of Hearing : March 15, 2004.
    Date of Decision: April 12, 2004.

    Hindu Marriage Act 1955 -Custody of the Minor Child

    Paramjit Singh Lamba ...Petitioner

    through Mr. J.P. Singh, Advocate

    Versus

    Smt. Prabjot Kaur ...Respondent

    through Mr. K. Sultan Singh

    with Mr. Manish Kumar, Advocates

    CORAM:

    HON'BLE MR. JUSTICE VIKRAMAJIT SEN

    1. Whether reporters of local papers may be allowed to see the Judgment? Yes

    2. To be referred to the Reporter or not? Yes

    3. Whether the judgment should be reported in the Digest? Yes

    VIKRAMAJIT SEN, J.

    1. This Revision brings to the surface an important question which universally affects and afflicts all persons belonging to a broken home, viz. the custody of the minor child of the two warring spouses. It cannot be over-emphasised that the paramount consideration in all such situations is the well-being of the child. It is this aspect which must be kept in focus and the individual `rights' of the parents would recede into the shadows. It is but a human frailty for the Judge to be prejudiced by the reproachable and unbecoming conduct of a particular spouse while determining the manner in which the child's time is to be apportioned. It has been noticed that the Guardian Judge does not follow a uniform practice in this regard in that sometimes the parent who does not have the custody of the child is granted a meeting of a duration of one or two hours in a month, that too in the uncomfortable and uncongenial environment of the Court, while in other cases weekly visitation o! r access for several hours is ordered. It is trite to state, but necessary to reiterate, that it is the welfare of the child which must be kept in the fore, either while granting custody or visitation to the parent who does not have the custody. It must also be highlighted that orders of this genre are inherently interlocutory in nature, subject to modification from time to time. It is not essential that the Court accepts consent terms presented to it by the parents. The Court is also not powerless to cancel or modify an arrangement approved by it earlier, if change in circumstances so compel.

    2. The Statute proclaims the father to be the natural guardian of the child but clarifies that till he/she attains the age of five years, his/her custody would ordinarily be granted to the mother. The Legislature merely recognises the universal experience and observation that the mother is better equipped and inclined in bringing-up the children. Homo sapiens are the most advanced and intelligent species but there is some commonality with other animals amongst whom it is ubiquitously the mother which cares for the offspring upto adolescence. The Hon'ble Supreme Court, however, has clarified in Kumar V. Jahgirdar vs. Chethana Ramatheertha, 2004(1) Scale 149 that it does not subscribe to the observations that a mother is always preferable to the father so far as the custody of the child is concerned. Although the Hon'ble Supreme Court had found that the child had not been brainwashed in the case before it, it was expressly aware of the reality that the child's mind is invariably poisoned against the other parent. Such a practice must be unreservedly deprecated, as it is wholly deleterious to the welfare of the child concerned and to the development of the personality. Every child requires exposure to and influence of both his parents. Visitation in Court precincts should be resorted to where there is no other option, or where the conduct of a parent is deviant or unnatural thereby necessitating jural monitoring.

    3. In the present case the Father has for various reasons, which I need not discuss threadbare, not had much interaction with his daughter. It has been explained that he was pursuing studies in the United States of America during the infancy of his daughter. Visitation between 3:00 P.M. to 4:00 P.M. on the last Saturday of the month, in the Court precincts, appears to have been granted on 23.3.2001. The present Additional District Judge has taken an adverse view of the fact that the Father did not assail the previous Order in an Appeal or Revision. In my considered view, however, it would be inappropriate to give a critical weightage to this fact. Assuming that a parent was uncaring at a particular stage in the child's life, he/she should not be shut out for all times to come. As already observed a decision should be taken not from the claim of the parent, but from the standpoint of the child concerned, since there can be no argument against the necessity for the child to! spend time with both parents. In the present case the fixation of only one hour in a month has led to the consequence of the child refusing to meet her Father, that is, the Petitioner herein. Such an abhorrence towards the Father cannot but be the result of brainwashing by the Mother, which has succeeded in large measure because of the extremely limited access of the Petitioner with his daughter.

    4. So far as the interests of the child are concerned it is imperative that a meaningful exposure to both parents should be ordained by the Court. One hour every month is clearly counter-productive for the achievement of this objective, as this case palpably manifests. The Court should endeavour to make a weekly meeting possible and only insist that this should be in the Court precincts where no other alternative is possible. It is only in rare cases that such a location should be prescribed. The duration of the meeting should be fixed so as to enable a healthy interaction between the parent and child, and should not be reduced to a mere legal formality. There is also no reason why a shorter visitation, say for one hour, should also not be ordered on a week day so that there is constant contact between the child and the parent. This may be onerous or awkward for the parent who has custody, but in a dismembered family, it cannot be avoided. The parents will eventually evolve! a system and develop a pragmatic and healthy attitude where their lives continue in the smoothest manner possible even in such adverse and unfortunate circumstances.

    5. In the impugned Order the Additional District Judge has understandably noted and has been adversely influenced by the fact that the application for a change in the interim arrangement and for custody of the child had been presented by the Father only on the filing of the Petition under Section 13(1) (ia) of the Hindu Marriage Act. This is also a reality, but the bluff of the parent filing such an application can be countered by allowing access/visitation rights to the child which the uninterested parent would eventually not fully avail of. In such a case the parent would run the danger not only of alienating the child forever, but also creating an occasion for modification in the duration of child access.

    6. I would allow the present Revision by increasing the access of the Father to one hour every week, in the first instance. Since it is evident that the daughter is presently inimical towards meeting her Father, it is expected of the Respondent that she should create a congenial atmosphere which would obviate the meeting/visitation to be held in the Court of the Matrimonial/Guardian Judge. If avoidable bickering does not end, the parents would end up wasting the better part of their lives in Court, and this should soon bring them to their senses. Their folly, however, is no justification for not endeavouring to achieve the best for the unfortunate child, who has no role or say in the spousal spat.

    7. The place of the weekly meeting is left to the Matrimonial/Guardian Judge to determine. As has been observed, it is for the Mother to ensure that the Daughter has a healthy interaction with her Father, lest an opinion be formed that she is deliberately turning the Daughter against her Father. If such an opinion is formed by the Court, there would be no option available to the Court but to award/transfer the custody to the Father in the hope that with the change the child would adopt a more balanced and healthy attitude towards both her parents. My faith that Counsel for the parties shall both advise and assist in bringing about some sanity in their respective clients will, I turst, not be in vain.

    8. The Petition is disposed of with these observations. Parties to appear before the Additional District Judge on 21st April, 2004.

    April 12, 2004
    (VIKRAMAJIT SEN)
    JUDGE

    Re: IS SIF A SAFE HEAVENLY ABODE?



    >Judgment database with journal references
    >would be a big asset , but who will start such
    >a site ?

    [................]

    >>2. I appreciate SIF for keeping the judgments
    >>for ready/ open access - this is a BIGGEST Help
    >>so far according to many. It is really great
    >>source of help for fighters, lawyers etc. But,
    >>what is important is - we need to mention the
    >>journal which the judgment is published (some
    >>lawyers said it - judge requires published
    >>reference like - AIR journal etc, so that they
    >>would check.......) So, we need to stock up
    >>with a library (I dont know, how many agree
    >>with me on this)
    >>

    I'm in full agreement to the above

    Please see my posts on this subject for almost last 1 year + (posts listed below)

    So far less than 5 people have been ready to pay money to buy ALL judgments and set up a website to publish them

    We need to by at least HC, SC judgments for the last 20 years.

    Reasons for this suggestion to buy own of copy of judgments
    ---------------------------------------------------------------------------

    - All Judgments are NOT posted on the Internet.

    - Some courts like Calcutta have hardly any INTERNET listings.

    - Many hIGH courts have cases only for a few years backwards.

    - While more recent judgments are good, many of them refer to earlier cases (again older years - less chance on the net).

    - While I have taken 20 years as a an approxx time, we can agree on 15 years ...12 years ... on some fixed no of years

    - CD versions of HC an SC judgments are available

    - There are very few books which have ONLY MATRIMONIAL cases (like HMA, Sp Marr ACt, HAMA, GWA, IPC 498a, 506, 406, 304B etc alone + CRPC 482)

    - So we MAY run the risk of buying entire HC / SC published decisions


    MORE (on why ? what etc..) at the following posts and related threads
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/16969
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/34008
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/34697
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/45190
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/45890
    http://groups.yahoo.com/group/saveindianfamily/message/48097


    regards, vinayak

    My post above is Subject to
    ----------------------------
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9
    3. A short preamble : http://tinyurl.com/hatew




    >
    >Re: IS SIF A SAFE HEAVENLY ABODE?
    >Posted by: "bsaraswat_2001" bsaraswat_2001@yahoo.com  
    >Sun Jun 24, 2007 12:25 am (PST)

    [...............]

    >Judgement database with journal references
    >would be a big asset , but who will start such
    >a site ?
    >

    [...............]

    >>
    >>Re: IS SIF A SAFE HEAVENLY ABODE?
    >>
    >>What needs to be done?
    >>
    >>Let us NOT expect big things to happen, but
    >>let us start working on simple, achievable
    >>items. We must work on these (at field level)
    >>
    [...............]
    >>2. I appreciate SIF for keeping the judgements
    >>for ready/ open access - this is a BIGGEST Help
    >>so far according to many. It is really great
    >>source of help for fighters, lawyers etc. But,
    >>what is important is - we need to mention the
    >>journal which the judgement is published (some
    >>lawyers said it - judge requires published
    >>reference like - AIR journal etc, so that they
    >>would check.......) So, we need to stock up
    >>with a library (I dont know, how many agree
    >>with me on this)
    >>
    [..............]

    Friday, June 22, 2007

    52 year old innocent humiliated, handcuffed and paraded thru his street. Third degree by police !! Are we a democracy ?

     
    This fallse absolutely short of justice
     
    The police guys who used their power to humiliate a 52 year old main and his family should be stripped of their badges and paraded the same way thru their POLICE stations
     
    side bar
     
    I can understand why we (as in harassed hubbies) are all sitting ducks
     
    Our bloods do NOT boil WHEN WE HEAR OF SUCH IN JUSTICE'
     
    WE are able to DO NOTHING = paractically nothing when such a thing happens
     
    The agrressors = both the police and the un scrupulous women continue to humiliate our mothers
     
    This HUMILIATION is sad. Absolutely sad.
     
    Regards
    Vinayak
     
     
     
    ===============================================
     
     
     
    But it falls short of justice though. Why weren't the Police chastised? Why weren't her father and uncle made to pay for the humiliation?

    Instead of penalizing them they to cover their tracks start praising the father of the groom for having a big heart.

    What does this mean "The bench then said police should be careful while tackling such cases and added: We are open and inclined to give a detailed order in this regard. But since this matter is resolved, we are disposing of the petition."

    How does disposal of the petition obviate the need to instruct the police to handle cases carefully?
     
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    Paraded by cops, praised by court

    HC praises 52-yr-old for `saving' son's marriage in spite of daughter-in-law's dowry complaint; he had been handcuffed and paraded by cops in Dec 2006

    Baban Dhus, 52, a teacher in a BMC school, was arrested by Kalachowki police on December 3, 2006 after his daughter-in- law Vaishali filed a complaint that her husband and his family were harassing her for dowry. Vaishali's husband Nivrutti, her mother-in-law Alka, Nivrutti's elder brother Dyaneshwar and his wife Jyoti were also held.

    All five got bail two days later on the condition that they would return the streedhan that Vaishali had brought along at the time of her marriage in May 2006.

    When the cops took Dhus to his Sewri home so that he could hand over the streedhan, they parked the police vehicle well outside his colony. Dhus was handcuffed and paraded all the way to his house, and the other four were made to walk behind him, hands folded.

    The same man, on Thursday, was not only given a clean chit by the Bombay High Court but praised for allowing his son and daughter-in-law to get back together in spite of the allegations and the humiliation he and his family had gone through.

    While sub-inspector Sanjay Zaveri of Kalachowki police apologised for the treatment meted out to him, the court told police that they should be careful while handling matrimonial offences.

    The Case

    The trouble in the Dhus family of Sewri started soon after Nivrutti and Vaishali got married in May 2006. Vaishali wanted to stay separately. This caused constant fights in the household. Finally, it was decided by elders on both sides that they should meet to `settle' the matter.

    The meeting, held at a godown in Kalachwoki, however, resulted in heated arguments. Vaishali's father Savkar Padwal and uncle Bhikaji Padwal, both cops, were present at this meet. When the arguments got ugly, her uncle, officer on duty at Kalachowkie police station, called for two police vans, and Dhus and his family were taken to the police station.

    There, Vaishali filed an FIR alleging that her in-laws and husband had demanded Rs 10 lakh from her for setting up a medical store. "We were put behind bars, beaten up, and the cops did not allow us to sleep and made us stand all night," Dhus said.

    Two days later, they were paraded in their locality. "Any four-wheeler can come to our doorstep, but the cops parked their vehicle way ahead. I have the reputation of being an upright man. This act of the police tarnished it all," Dhus said.

    He said he was questioned by his school about the incident and told he would be suspended, and Nivrutti lost his job in a pharmaceutical company after his employers got to know of his arrest.

    Family moves HC

    Dhus then filed a writ petition in HC in April this year and got a stay on suspension orders from the school. In the same plea, citing
    Article 21 of the Constitution (right to life and personal liberty), he requested action against the police officers who had humiliated him.

    A division bench of Justice Ranjana Desai and Justice D B Bhosale heard the matter and also heard the couple in their chambers. The girl, while speaking before the judges, expressed her desire to live with her husband and his family.

    Dhus told the court that while he had no problem if the couple wanted to stay together, he suggested they live separately, so that he and Nivrutti's family could still have love and mutual respect for each other. Vaishali's family then withdrew all allegations against Dhus's family and gave an apology.

    On Thursday, the Dhus family settled the dispute by signing on consent terms that said Nivrutti and Vaishali would stay together in a separate house.

    Hearing Dhus's decision, the bench said: "We congratulate you for having such a generous heart. If it were not for you, the marriage of your son would not have lasted. It is a big thing to put aside everything for your son's happiness."

    Handle cases carefully

    Advocate Shrikant Bhatt and Nitin Vathkar, who stood for Dhus, pleaded before the court to pass strictures against the police and lay guidelines on how cops should conduct themselves in matrimonial matters. The bench then said police should be careful while tackling such cases and added: "We are open and inclined to give a detailed order in this regard. But since this matter is resolved, we are disposing of the petition. In future, if such a matter comes up, we will request Mr Bhatt to assist the court as amicus curiae."

     

    Thursday, June 21, 2007

    Quash of a FALSE 498a. Judge speaks of misuse !


    Writ Petition MB 528 of 2005 - Quash of false 498A - judge speaks of misuse

    IN THE HIGH COURT OF JUDICATURE AT  ALLAHABAD LUCKNOW BENCH, LUCKNOW

    Writ Petition MB 528 of 2005

    Dharm Raj Yadav and others : petitioners
    State of U.P. and others : Respondents

    Dr. L. P. Misra, learned counsel for the petitioners

    Mr. Janardan Singh, learned Additional Government Advocate &
    Mr. B. M. Sahai, learned counsel for the complainant

    Hon'ble Bhanwar Singh, J., Hon'ble J. M. Paliwal, J.

    Dated:10/01/2006


    Judgment:

    This writ petition has been filed by Sanjeev Kumar Yadav, an Officer of Indian Revenue Service, posted as Assistant Income-tax Commissioner, Moradabad and his eleven family members. All these petitioners have challenged the First Information Report of 11th January, 2005, whereupon a case was registered as Case Crime No.14 of 2005 under Sections 497/498-A/323/504 and 506 read with 511 I.P.C. and 3/4 Dowry Prohibition Act. This F.I.R. was sought to be quashed on the ground of being per se illegal, malafide and based on concocted facts. During the pendency of petition, charge-sheet dated February 21, 2005 had been filed in a hurried manner as alleged and since mala fide has been attributed to the Investigating Officer as also the first informant and the latter's father, it is also sought to be quashed alongwith the criminal proceedings initiated thereupon. After that, another charge-sheet dated October 25, 2005 has also been filed against all the petitioners. The main dispute subsists between the husband, namely, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav, the petitioner No.6 and his wife Smt. Deepti Yadav, the informant.

    Shortly stated the facts giving rise to this petition are as follows:-

    The complainant Smt. Deepti Yadav, D/o Shri Heera Lal Yadav was married to Shri Sanjeev Kumar Yadav on 9th December, 1999. Sanjeev Kumar Yadav was then an Officer of Provincial Civil Service (now he is a member of the Central Civil Service and posted as Assistant Income-tax Commissioner, Moradabad). After her marriage, she stayed with her husband at the latter's native village. As usual, the family members and the relatives of Smt. Deepti offered various gifts on the occasion of marriage. The grandmother of the informant, Smt. Sechna Devi had gifted a Maruti Zen Car. A Marshal Jeep was offered by Deepti's father but it was retained in his own name in all the relevant documents. The case of the informant is that her father was compelled by her husband to gift two drafts - one for Rs.75,000/- and the other for Rs.45,000/- in the name of Rajiv Kumar Yadav (brother of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav) and two more drafts of Rs.50,000/- and Rs.1 lac in the name of her husband. All these drafts were encashed by the drawees. The father of the girl also gifted various household items, like, a Hero Honda Generator set, colour T.V. and other costly items of day-to-day use valued at Rs.4 lacs. The relatives of the girl also offered as presents various jewellary items to the family members of her husband. Despite huge expenditures incurred by her father, her husband and his parents were not happy with the gift/dowry items. As a matter of fact, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and his family members had an oblique eye on the ancestral property of her father. They were all greedy persons and used to pass sarcastic remarks against her father and maligned him as a miser. They were not happy even though a cash of Rs.15 lacs and garments worth Rs.2 lacs had been offered by her father on the occasions of 'lagan' and 'tilak' ceremonies. With this greed in his mind, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav stopped coming to her when she was living at her parents' house in Lucknow and when she conceived, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav pressed her for abortion. However, she did not agree and in due course delivered a baby son on 17th December, 2000. In spite of the fact that due intimation was sent to Sanjeev Kumar Yadav, he did not come to see her and her newly born child. The petitioner did not keep the informant in her matrimonial home for long and since she was asked to stay with her parents she came to Lucknow. In the meantime, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav who was preparing for the Central Civil Service competition started demanding a sum of Rs.5 lacs so as to incur expenditure for his study etc. The informant's father, despite economical constraints, but keeping in view a concept of happy life for his daughter, paid the said sum as demanded. But this too was considered to be inadequate and Sanjeev Kumar Yadav continued to cause her mental and physical harassment. When the informant's parents contacted her husband's relatives in village Tadwa (Pilkichha) to find out the cause of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav's indifferent attitude towards the informant, they came to know that Sanjeev and his family members had expected a dowry of Rupees One crore and a palatial house in Mahanagar, Lucknow.

    The efforts for reconciliation taken recourse to in July, 2001 proved futile. The F.I.R. further discloses that the greed of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav acquired disproportionate dimensions, when he got selected in Indian Revenue Service (I.R.S.). He and his family members taking advantage of this development started demanding a dowry of Rs.10 lacs and a well-equipped and furnished house in Lucknow. However, such demand was not fulfilled by the informant's father. As a consequence, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav refused to take her with him to the place of posting, i.e. Moradabad. Being compelled in the said circumstances, the informant's father took her to that place on August 21, 2004 and she started living with her husband but barely four days after Sanjeev Kumar Yadav assaulted her and made an abortive attempt to administer her acid. The informant fell seriously sick. Sanjeev Kumar Yadav brought her to her parents' house in Vishwas Khand on 27th August, 2004 and since then he had not taken care of her. The informant was also beaten when she was living with him in district Sultanpur, where he was posted as Deputy Collector.

    The informant has also accused Sajeev Kumar Yadav for having illicit relationship with one Neelam Srivastava, Assistant Consolidation Officer, posted at Varanasi. The other family members of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav were also accused of antagonizing the informant by making taunts and jeering remarks. All the gift items given by the informant's father including the Martial Jeep had been grabbed over by the accused-persons.

    In such circumstances of strained and bitter relationship, she apprehended a risk to her life and therefore preferred to stay with her parents at Lucknow. Her husband-petitioner also when under training at Lal Bahadur Shastri National Academy of Administration, Mussorie declared himself as unmarried with a view to invite offers for his marriage.

    In view of the above averments, the informant alleged that the accused persons have committed offences under Sections 3/4/6 Dowry Prohibition Act and under Sections 323/307/504/511/506/520 and 498-A I.P.C. It was also mentioned in the report that there was a conspiracy among all the accused persons including Sanjeev Kumar to harass and victimize the informant and eliminate her and thereby they committed all the offences under above Sections read with Section 120-B I.P.C.

    The petitioners have denied all the above allegations in their petition. According to them, Sanjeev Kumar had filed a case (Suit No.248 of 2004) on September 3, 2004 for judicial separation against his wife Deepti, the informant, under Section 10 of the Hindu Marriages Act. The said suit is pending in the court of Civil Judge (Senior Division), Jaunpur. As a matter of fact, it was in retaliation of the said proceeding that the informant lodged a false and fabricated F.I.R. on 11th January, 2005 with the Gomti Nagar Police Station. As regards Zen Car and the demand drafts in the name of Sanjeev Kumar and his brother Rajiv Kumar, the petitioners have stated that they are the self-motivated gifts and not the dowry, as no one would take dowry in the form of demand drafts. Delivery of Martial Jeep has been denied and so was rejected the story of subsequent demand for Rs.5 lacs and Rs.10 lacs. Payment of such amounts has been termed to be a white lie. If initially some amount was paid by demand drafts why Rs.15 lacs were not paid by way of the same mode, particularly when relationship between the husband and wife had become strained. The F.I.R. allegations regarding the informant being assaulted at Sultanpur and Moradabad have also been termed to be baseless and the theory of administering acid to Deepti was also said to be a strangeful incident and more strange was the omission in not getting an F.I.R. lodged. Although the coercive method attributed to Sanjeev Kumar Yadav forcing Deepti to inhale or consume acid being serious in nature could prove fatal to her life, yet she did not lodge any report or made any complaint which omission proves hollowness of the said allegation. It is also alleged further that Deepti's father is a Junior Engineer in Public Works Department. He was not expected to have given huge sums of Rs.20 lacs or so in cash alongwith a Zen Car. The petitioners have expressed their dismay as they could not know the intelligible source of the said Engineer having amassed so much of wealth. Sanjeev Kumar Yadav had disclosed in his petition for dissolution of marriage long before the First Information Report had been lodged that Smt. Deepti and her parents exerted their undue pressure upon him to desert his parents and family and stop supporting them but he did not agree to their suggestion; as a consequence, he was threatened by Deepti and her parents of a serious action like false case of demand of dowry being concocted against him and his family. It appears that in this background, the case for dowry has been fabricated to wreak vengeance against Sanjeev Kumar and his family members. It has also been alleged that one dozen persons of Sanjeev Kumar including himself have been named as accused of dowry demand and victimization. No one of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav's family has been left from being framed in this case and this very fact shows the dimensions of vengeance that Deepti and her father had taken recourse to.

    The allegation of illicit relationship with Km. Neelam Srivastava has been termed to be baseless. As regards the manipulations being conducted by the informant and her father in collusion with the police, it has been submitted that the Investigating Officer filed a false affidavit on 23rd February, 2005 stating that charge-sheet against all the accused persons had been filed and it was on the basis of this misleading and false statement that the present writ petition was sought to be dismissed.

    The Senior Superintendent of Police, Lucknow transferred the investigation of this case on March 1, 2005 to Shri Brij Kishore Singh, Station Incharge, Hazaratganj. On the face of this development, submission of the charge-sheet having been submitted a week before i.e. February 23, 2005 seems to be not only false but also a misleading statement given with a view to play fraud upon the Court. The investigation conducted by the erstwhile Investigating Officer Shri K.K. Sharma prior to 1st March, 2005 was a farce and even the statements of the witnesses were noted by him without actually examining them under Section 161 Cr.P.C. Shri K.K. Sharma again misconducted himself by extending his blind favour to the informant by submitting second charge-sheet dated 25th October, 2005 although he was no longer an Investigating Officer. As a matter of fact, Shri Brij Kishore Singh who was seized of the investigation, was appointed as Investigating Officer by transfer from Shri K. K. Sharma by the Senior Superintendent of Police, Lucknow vide his order of March 1, 2005. Thus both the charge-sheets are manipulated, manufactured and submitted in hurried haste - both times to mislead the Court with a view to fetch dismissal order of the present writ petition, under the usual course of practice. The charge-sheets and the criminal proceedings have also been challenged by the petitioner as a fraudulent act and since manipulations and interpolations are crystal clear on the part of the local police and the informant, the petitioners should not be subjected to hazardous effect of criminal proceedings in pursuance of such illegal acts. Even the learned Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate-II has proceeded to take cognizance without applying his mind, just like putting a rubber stamp on it. It has also been submitted on behalf of the petitioners that these circumstances - full of manipulations and interpolations - as narrated above, led to cancellation of the bail of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and vacation of the stay order issued earlier by this Court.

    It is in the above mentioned background that the petitioners have prayed for a Writ in the nature of Certiorari quashing the F.I.R. (Annexure 1), both the charge-sheets of 21st February, 2005 and 25th October, 2005 as also the criminal proceedings pending in the Court of II Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate, Lucknow.

    Mr. Brij Mohan Sahai, learned Counsel appearing on behalf of the opposite party No.5 Deepti Yadav has argued that this petition has become infructuous following the submission of the charge-sheets against the petitioners.

    Dr. L.P. Mishra, learned Counsel for the petitioners however insisted for hearing of the arguments on the ground that as the entire investigation and submission of the charge-sheets as also the criminal proceedings are based on mala fide of the informant, her father and connivance of the Investigating Officer, this petition deserves to be heard on merit including the objection of Mr. Brij Mohan Sahai. As counter-affidavit of Smt. Deepti Yadav has been filed on 26th November, 2005, this Court with the consent of Dr. L.P. Mishra, learned Counsel for the Petitioners and Mr. Brij Mohan Sahai, learned Counsel for the informant as also Mr. Janardan Singh, learned Additional Government Advocate proceeded to hear the detailed arguments on merits of the case for final decision.

    Whereas the sum and substance of the petitioners' case is that they had been victimized by Deepti Yadav's version, as recited in her counter-affidavits dated 26th November, 2005 and 4th August, 2005, the informant's contention is that the averments made by her in her report are true and it was she who was meted out with maltreatment, not only at the hands of her husband but all other family members of her husband. She was subjected to dowry demand and when she could not meet the demand of a palatial house at Lucknow and a sum of Rs.10 lacs, she was turned out of her matrimonial home by her husband. Also she was assaulted and forced to consume/inhale acid during her stay with Sanjeev Kumar Yadav at Moradabad. Further, she denied in her counter-affidavit that the First Information Report had been lodged as a sequel to the suit for dissolution of marriage. She has not yet been served with any notice of the said proceeding.

    The petition is also sought to be dismissed on the ground that the petitioner No.6 Sanjeev Kumar Yadav has not yet surrendered following cancellation of his bail granted to him by the Station Officer, Police Station Gomti Nagar. It was solely on this basis of Sajeev Kumar Yadav being still absconding that the stay order granted by this Court had been subsequently vacated on September 9, 2005. The informant has also controverted the petitioners' allegation that the Court was in any way or manner misled by the Investigation Officer Shri K. K. Sharma. Shri Sanjeev Kumar Yadav being an absconder does not deserve to be granted any relief. The petition should be dismissed on this ground alone.

    We have heard Dr. L.P. Misra, learned Counsel for the Petitioners, Mr. Janardan Singh, learned Additional Government Advocate and Mr. Brij Mohan Sahai, learned Counsel for the opposite party No.5 Deepti Yadav and perused the record.

    The first contention pressed into service by Mr. Brij Mohan Sahai, learned Counsel for the informant is that this petition has become infructuous as the charge-sheets have been submitted against the petitioner and the Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate II, Lucknow has taken cognizance of the case. In this Case, Mr. Sahai relied upon a decision of the Apex Court in 'State of Bihar and another v. P.P. Sharma and another [1991 Cr.L.J. 1438]' and with reference to the findings and observations of the Apex Court contended that if a Magistrate or Special Judge is seized of the matter, extraordinary jurisdiction under Articles 226 and 227 of the Constitution should not be exercised.

    A careful reading of this case would reveal that the Managing Director of BISCOMAUN an institution in the Cooperative Sector lodged a report with the police regarding fraudulent transactions for purchase of 'Suraj Brand N.P.K.' and it transpired that a conspiracy was hatched for wrongful gain to M/s. Rajasthan Fertilizers Pvt. Ltd. The erstwhile Chairman and some officers were accused of such fraudulent transactions resulting in wrongful loss to the aforesaid institution as well as the farmers of the State of Bihar. It was in the background of this case that the Apex Court did not approve of the High Court's Order regarding quashing of the complaint and proceedings and held in particular that there was no material to show that the F.I.R. was based on malice or there was any enmity between the accused and the informant. The question of mala fide exercise of power assumes significance only when the criminal prosecution is initiated on extraneous considerations and for an unauthorized purpose. It was also held that the dominant purpose of registering the case against the accused was to have an investigation done into the allegations contained in the F.I.R. and in the event of there being sufficient material in support of the allegations to present the charge-sheet before the Court. The allegations of mala fide were not found of any consequence. Obviously thus, the facts of the said case were entirely different from the one in hand. In the present case, the wife of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav hasaccused him of dowry demand and further use of provocative and abusive language and coercive method to force her to consume acid have been alleged. The relationship between the two is admittedly strained. During their six years of marriage, they have stayed together for a few months as would be discussed subsequently. Malice has been attributed to the informant in getting the F.I.R. lodged and it has pertinently and significantly been alleged by the petitioners that the Lucknow Court of Criminal Law, i.e. the Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate is not competent on account of lack of territorial jurisdiction over the areas in which the alleged offences of forcing informant to consume acid, dowry demand and assault had taken place. We would delve upon the territorial issue in detail, but prior to that, we consider it necessary to deal with the basic question of law as raised by the learned counsel for the informant that with the submission of charge-sheet, this Court has become functus officio to proceed with the writ petition initially filed under Article 226 of the Constitution.

    This core issue has been answered by this Court in 'Atique Ahmad and another v. State of U.P. and others [2001 (2) JIC 764 (All)]'. Exactly similar point of law was raised in this case. Rejecting the argument that the jurisdiction of the High Court of judicial review stands ousted no sooner a charge-sheet has been submitted by the police, the Court held that this Constitutional Court can take into account the subsequent events in order to do complete justice between the parties and to avoid multiplicity of litigations.

    In this case, the High Court also made a reference to the Apex Court's decision in 'State of Haryana and another v. Bhajan Lal and others [1992 Supp (1) SCC 335]' and categorically referred to the guidelines framed by the Apex Court in the said case which for better understanding may be recapitulated as below:-

    " (1) Where the allegations made in the First Information Report or the complaint, even if they are taken at their face value and accepted in their entirety do not prima facie constitute any offence or make out a case against the accused.

    (2) Where the allegations in the First Information Report and other materials, if any, accompanying the FIR do not disclose a cognizable offence, justifying an investigation by police officers under Section 156(1) of the Code except under an order of a Magistrate within the purview of Section 155 (2) of the Code.

    (3) Where the uncontroverted allegations made in the FIR or complaint and the evidence collected in support of the same do not disclose the commission of any offence and make out a case against the accused.

    (4) Where, the allegations in the FIR do not constitute a cognizable offence but constitute only a non-cognizable offence, no investigation is permitted by a police officer without an order of a Magistrate as contemplated under Section 155 (2) of the Code.

    (5) Where the allegations made in the FIR or complaint are so absurd and inherently improbable on the basis of which no prudent person can ever reach a just conclusion that there is sufficient ground for proceeding against the accused.

    (6) Where there is an express legal bar engrafted in any of the provisions of the Code or the concerned Act (under which a criminal proceeding is instituted) to the institution and continuance of the proceedings and/or where there is a specific provision in the Code or the concerned Act, providing efficacious redress for the grievance of the aggrieved party.

    (7) Where a criminal proceeding is manifestly attended with mala fide and/or where the proceeding is maliciously instituted with an ulterior motive for wreaking vengeance on the accused and with a view to spite him due to private and personal grudge."

    Learned Counsel for both the parties have relied upon Bhajan Lal's case (supra) with reference to the aforesaid guidelines. We would deal with these guidelines while delving upon the allegation of malice and spite attributed to the informant in getting the First Information Report lodged whereupon charge-sheets have been submitted and criminal proceedings drawn.

    But before that, we may refer to the Pepsi Foods famous case on the point of jurisdiction of this Court to proceed to decide the writ petition on merit after charge-sheets having been submitted.

    The Hon'ble Supreme Court in the abovereferred decision titled as

    'Pepsi Foods Ltd. and another v. Special Judicial Magistrate and others [(1998)5 SCC 749]' held that the High Court can exercise its power of judicial review in criminal matters. Under Article 227, the power of superintendence by the High Court is not only of administrative nature but is also of judicial nature.

    Pointing out at the powers of the High Court under Article 226 and 227 of the Constitution and Section 482 Cr.P.C. the Hon'ble Supreme Court held as follows :-

    "Nomenclature under which petition is filed is not quite relevant and that does not debar the court from exercising its jurisdiction which otherwise it possesses unless there is special procedure prescribed which procedure is mandatory.

    If in a case like the present one the court finds that the appellants could not invoke its jurisdiction under Article 226, the court can certainly treat the petition as one under Article 227 or Section 482 of the Code.

    It may not however, be lost sight of that provisions exist in the Code of revision and appeal but some time for immediate relief Section 482 of the Code or Article 227 may have to be resorted to for correcting some grave errors that might be committed by the subordinate courts.

    The present petition though filed in the High Court as one under Articles 226 and 227 could well be treated under Article 227 of the Constitution."

    From the above observations of the Apex Court, it is crystal clear that if a petition has been filed under Article 226 of the Constitution, it can be treated to be as under Article 227 of the Constitution and Section 482 Cr.P.C. for providing immediate relief available under the said Section of the Code. Section 482 Cr.P.C. deals with the abuse of process of law and the Hon'ble Supreme Court held that the High Court should not shy away in exercising its jurisdiction.

    In the penultimate para of the decision, the Hon'ble Supreme Court has observed as follows :-

    "It is no comfortable thought for the appellants to be told that they could appear before the court which is at a far off place in Ghazipur in the State of Uttar Pradesh, seek their release on bail and then to either move an application under Section 245 (2) of the Code or to face trial when the complaint and the preliminary evidence recorded makes out no case against them.

    It is certainly one of those cases where there is an abuse of the process of the law and the courts and the High Court should not have shied away in exercising their jurisdiction. Provisions of Articles 226 and 227 of the Constitution and Section 482 of the Code are devised to advance justice and not to frustrate it. In our view the High Court should not have adopted such a rigid approach which certainly has led to miscarriage of justice in the case. Power of judicial review is discretionary but this was a case where the High Court should have exercised it. "

    From the above principles of law laid down by the Hon'ble Supreme Court, it is established that if it is required in the interest of justice to invoke the jurisdiction of this Court, the Court will do so under its plenary power irrespective of the fact as to whether the provisions of Article 226 or 227 of the Constitution or of Section 482 Cr.P.C. are invoked. Power of the Court to discharge the accused at the stage of framing of charge or existence of remedy of appeal and revision is not a bar to invoke the jurisdiction of the High Court under Article 227 of the Constitution or under Section 482 Cr.P.C.

    We are, therefore, inclined to hold that the contention of Mr. Brij Mohan Sahai, learned Counsel for Deepti Yadav that this Court will stop exercising jurisdiction under Article 227 of the Constitution nor will it proceed to hear this case on merit simply because the charge-sheets have been submitted in the Magisterial Court is without any substance.

    The said objection is rejected in view of the Hon'ble Supreme Court's decision in Pepsi Foods Ltd. (supra).

    As a consequence, we treat this petition under Article 227 of the Constitution of India and also a petition under Section 482 Cr.P.C.

    We may now refer to the guidelines laid down in Bhajan Lal's case (supra) which have been for convenience reproduced above. Guidelines no.5 and 7 as determined in the said case are of greater significance for us to be referred to. Guideline no.5 postulates that the F.I.R. and criminal proceedings can be interfered with where the allegations made in the F.I.R. or complaint are so absurd and inherently improbable on the basis of which no prudent person can ever reach a just conclusion that there is sufficient ground for proceeding against the accused and similarly guideline no.7 provides that the High Court can interfere with where a criminal proceeding is manifestly attended with mala fide and/or where the proceeding is maliciously instituted with an ulterior motive for wreaking vengeance on the accused and with a view to spite him due to private and personal grudge. Relying upon the guideline no.5 of the aforesaid citation, Dr. L.P. Misra, learned Counsel for the petitioners referred to the recitals of the First Information Report to the effect that Sanjeev Kumar Yadav had forced the informant to consume/inhale acid during her stay with him at Moradabad and contended that the said charge is absolutely baseless and imaginary and it goes to the extent of absurdity, as though such a dastardly attempt was made by the petitioner no.6 in between 21.8.2004 and 27.8.2004, yet neither the complainant, namely, Deepti Yadav nor her parents took any action for nearly six months.

    It would be relevant to quote the said absurd accusation which is as follows:-

    "Jh latho dqekj ;kno tc izkfFkZuh dks eqjknkckn] tgka ij lgk;d vk;dj vk;qDr ds in ij rSukr Fks] ugha ys x;s rc izkfFkZuh ds firk Hkh eq>s fnukad 21-8-2004 dks ogka ysdj x;s A blds pkj fnuds ckn gh Jh latho dqekj us eq>s ekjk&ihVk vkSj rstkc Mkdyj fiykus dh ps"Vk dh A izkfFkZuh xaHkhj :Ik ls chekj gks x;h rks esjs ifr Jh latho dqekj us fnukad 27-8-04 dks tcjnLrh esjs firkth ds ?kj y[ku_ fo'okl [k.M NksM- dj okil dkuiqj pys x;s A rc ls vkt rd esjs ifr Jh laatho dqwekj us dksbZ Hkh esjk ;k esjs csVs dk gky pky ugha fy;k A"

    The above allegations are so absurd and imaginary that had there been an iota of truth in such allegations, the informant who is a well-educated person would not have tolerated such a grave misconduct on the part of her husband and certainly she would have lodged a report in Moradabad itself and if not there, she should have informed the police of Lucknow or the higher authorities of the petitioner no.6 at Moradabad. The silence on her part further shows that it is a cock and bull story manufactured by the informant with a view to wreak vengeance with her husband. Such an incident could be taken to be end of the already strained and bitter relationship. If she was doused with acid, she must have suffered burn injuries on her person. Medical examination of her injuries would have proved the occurrence. It is not, that she escaped the attempt but she suffered grievous setback and fell seriously sick. No explanation about the omission has been offered. We therefore hold that it was all a bunkum and a manufactured story so as to wreak vengeance upon the petitioner Sanjeev Kumar Yadav.

    Before we proceed to discuss the other allegations of the complaint, it would be most relevant for us to make a reference to the Hon'ble Supreme Court's decision in 'Y. Abraam Ajith and others v. Inspector of Police, Chennai and others [2004 SCC (Cri) 2134]' - a decision which deals with the place of jurisdiction vis-.-vis the offences alleged to have been committed. Incidentally, it was also a case of strained relationship between the husband and wife. All the alleged offences were committed according to the complainant at Nagarcoil but the wife filed the complaint at Chennai Court. The Hon'ble Supreme Court held that no part of cause of action arose in Chennai and therefore, the Magistrate concerned had no jurisdiction to deal with the matter. Accordingly, the proceedings were quashed.

    In the case in hand also, the alleged offences of an attempt to force the informant to consume acid and of causing assault to her had taken place at Moradabad. Although it is not clear as to whether the attempt of administering acid was foiled by the informant nor it is clear what injuries she suffered during the assault, yet even if there was some substance in it, in such matter with above allegations only the police of Moradabad District or the Magisterial Court of competent jurisdiction established there were competent to take cognizance of such accusations and deal with them in accordance with law. The F.I.R. in question has been lodged with the police of Gomti Nagar Police Station, Lucknow. Certainly, we would hold that neither the police at Lucknow nor the Court of Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate, Lucknow would be competent to take cognizance of the offences which were alleged to have been committed at Moradabad. The F.I.R. does not disclose that either of the two such offences had taken place at Lucknow. Even the allegation of dowry demand was not made at Lucknow.

    We therefore hold that the Lucknow Court of Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate is not competent to take cognizance of the offences alleged to have been committed at Moradabad. In this context, it would also be relevant to note that the provisions of Section 178 Cr.P.C. which deals with the place of enquiry or trial, do not cover the issue of cognizance being taken by the Lucknow Magisterial Court as none of the offences was committed partly at Lucknow and it is also clear that none of the offences was continuing one.

    The provisions of Section 178 Cr.P.C. for convenience may be quoted as below:-

    "Place of inquiry or trial -

    (a) When it is uncertain in which of several local areas an offence was committed, or

    (b) where an offence is committed partly in one local area and partly in another, or

    (c) where an offence is continuing one, and continues to be committed in more local areas than one, or

    (d) where it consists of several acts done in different local areas, it may be inquired into or tried by a Court having jurisdiction over any of such local areas."

    A perusal of the First Information Report, as said above, does not disclose commission of offence either in part or in full or in continuation at Lucknow. The proper and ordinary venue for the trial of a case crime of the area is the jurisdiction in which, on the evidence, the facts occur, and which are alleged to constitute the crime. Deepti Yadav in her eleven pages long F.I.R. has not stated even at a single place that Sanjeev Kumar Yadav or any members of his family either demanded dowry at Lucknow or assaulted the informant here or did any other offence within the territorial jurisdiction of the Lucknow Magisterial Court. It appears from the consolidated facts recited in the F.I.R. that Deepti Yadav stayed with her husband at Moradabad for short period of seven days only in August, 2004 and prior to that she either stayed with him at Sultanpur or in his native village home at Tadwa (Pilkichha) or at Gorakhpur. The occurrence of an attempt to administer acid allegedly took place only at Moradabad where she was also assaulted. In Sultanpur, where her husband was posted earlier, she was beaten once but she did not lodge any report either at the concerned police station at Sultanpur nor she complained to any higher authority of her husband. Also she did not write a letter to her parents about this inhuman treatment. Except Moradabad and Sultanpur, there is no other place where she might have been maltreated or assaulted. Out of the four places in picture, i.e., Tadwa, Gorakhpur, Sultanpur and Moradabad, she stayed for sometime in the native village of her husband, namely, Tadwa (Pilkichha), District Jaunpur and Gorakhpur. The F.I.R. is absolutely silent of any occurrence of assault or 'marpeet' at Tadwa or Gorakhpur. As said above, only two instances of 'marpeet' – one at Sultanpur and the other at Moradabad, have been quoted, but no such incident was referred to the duration of her stay at the remaining two places. The long silence on her part after the two occurrences at Moradabad and Sultanpur clearly shows that they are concocted, manufactured with malice and ill-will in order to wreak vengeance with her husband, namely, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and the most significant conclusion which would emerge is that not a single instance constituting an offence has taken place at Lucknow. We would therefore hold that by no stretch of reasoning the Court of Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate is competent to take cognizance of the matter. Therefore, in the result, the criminal proceedings initiated against the petitioners including Deepti's husband are liable to be quashed on the ground of lack of jurisdiction alone.

    In other words, it may be observed that the allegations regarding 'marpeet' and attempt to administer acid are inherently improbable besides being absurd and therefore the F.I.R. and the criminal proceedings including charge-sheets deserve to be quashed.

    The guideline No.7 as referred in Bhajan Lal's case (supra) provides that if a criminal proceeding is manifestly attended with mala fide and/or where the proceeding is maliciously instituted with an ulterior motive for wreaking vengeance on the accused and with a view to spite him due to private and personal grudge, such criminal proceedings can be quashed. In this context, a reference to the allegations of the F.I.R. on the basis of which the entire investigation and the criminal proceedings are based would reveal that on occasions more than one, the dowry demand was made. Precisely, the various instances of the alleged dowry/gifts can be quoted in seriatim, as follows:-

    (1) Gift of a Maruti Zen Car and a Mahindra Marshal Jeep at the time of marriage;

    (2) Two sums of Rs.75,000/- and Rs.45,000/- given to Rajiv Kumar Yadav, the younger brother of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav by virtue of bank drafts;

    (3) Two sums of Rs.1 lac and Rs.50,000/- in the name of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav by way of bank drafts;

    (4) The gift of valuable items of domestic use valued at Rs.4 lacs;

    (5) Golden ornaments weighing from 45 to 55 'tolas' gifted to Sanjeev Kumar's relatives by the friends and relatives of Deepti Yadav;

    (6) A cash dowry of Rs.15 lacs and valuable items worth Rs.2 lacs given by the informant's father on two occasions of 'lagan' and 'tilak';

    (7) Rs.5 lacs demanded by Sanjeev Kumar at the time of his preparing for Indian Civil Service. The demand was allegedly met by the informant's father;

    (8) A demand of house in Lucknow with Rs.10 lacs in cash;

    (9) Reiteration of the demand of Rs.10 lacs by Motilal, the uncle of Sanjeev Kumar.

    We will not scrutinize the above allegations of demand with a view to hold a trial here, while sitting in the jurisdiction under Article 226 and 227 of the Constitution of India as the same is not permissible but certainly we can make an analysis of these allegations with a view to come to a conclusion upon the petitioners' argument, that the entire criminal proceeding is manifestly attended with mala fide. To be specific and explicit in the scope of our discussion, we would like to mention that the contention of the learned Counsel for the petitioners is that the F.I.R. and the consequential criminal proceedings pending in the Court of Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate-II, Lucknow is maliciously instituted by Deepti Yadav with ulterior motive for wreaking vengeance on the petitioners and with a view to spite her husband Sanjeev Kumar Yadav due to private and personal grudge. We, therefore, proceed to make an analysis of the allegations of the complaint in order to examine the merit of the above argument.

    At the very outset, it may be observed that the eleven long pages First Information Report which had resulted in launch of criminal proceedings against the petitioners is so well-worded and neatly woven that it does not leave any room for doubt that it is a well-deliberated draft by a legal expert. In fact, it needed to be quoted as a whole, but we do not consider it appropriate to do that because of lengthy versions. However, we will do that wherever we find it necessary to refer to the important parts thereof. If we look at the second page of the First Information Report (Annexure 1), it appears to indicate that the father of Deepti was enchanted by the P.C.S. Service cadre of Shri Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and their marriage was solemnized on 9th December, 1999 in Vishwas Khand, Gomti Nagar, Lucknow. It is relevant from the territorial jurisdiction point of view that in the entire First Information Report, it is not mentioned that either Sanjeev Kumar Yadav or his family members made any specific demand of dowry either in cash or in kind at Lucknow at the time of marriage or even thereafter. The third page of Annexure 1 further very specifically and with all modesty on the part of informant says that the informant's family members and relations according to their capabilities offered numerous gifts including a Maruti Zen Car given on behalf of the informant's grandmother Smt. Sechna Devi and a Mahendra Marshal Jeep by the informant's father. What is of primary importance to note is that both these vehicles were the gift items as it is candidly clear from the recitations in the First Information Report which can be quoted as below:-

    "izkfFskZuh ds ifjokj tuksa rFkk lacaf/k;ksa us viuh viuh lkeF;Z ds vuq:i fookg esa HksaV nh Fkkh ftlesa izeq[k :Ils izkfFkZuh dh nknh Jherh lspuk nsoh us ,d ek:fr dkj (tsu) rFkk izkfFkZuh ds firk th dks esjs ifr Jh latho dqekj us ck/; djds ek'kZy thi (egsUnz) dh vfxze rkSj ij 'kknh ds igys gh ys yh FkkhA

    It is not disputed that the Mahendra Marshal Jeep is still in the name of the informant's father and the petitioners have denied their custody over it, although the allegation of the informant was that the said Jeep was being operated by her husband's father as a taxi. In other words, it is a property of the informant's father. The gift of Maruti Zen Car by the informant's grandmother is admittedly a gift and cannot be said to be a dowry item on demand. Had it been a demanded dowry, there was no question of its being given by the informant's grandmother and a candid admission on the part of the informant that her grandmother Sechna Devi gave it as a gift rules out the allegations that these vehicles were given on demand as dowry items. Not only the above quote of the First Information Report lends assurance to this conclusion but towards the end of the long drawn First Information Report also the above admissions on the part of the informant have been repeated. The last few lines at page 9 of Annexure 1 may be quoted as below:-

    It is thus clear that both the vehicles/ornaments and valuable items of household utility and garments given at the time of marriage were all gift items. It would be a matter of debate as to whether these items offered as gifts to Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and his family members or relations would fall within the ambit of 'STRIDHAN' as a question, to invoke provisions of Section 6 of the Dowry Prohibition Act, would arise as to whether any list of such items was drawn as required by Section 3 of the Act. The answer being negative rules out the alleged claim. Moreover, in case of some items being permitted to be used will also have an impact of implied consent. The allegation of the Marshal Jeep being run as a taxi by the family members of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav has been categorically denied and the fact that the said Jeep is still in the name of the informant's father clearly points to the conclusion that Heera Lal alone is the registered owner of the said vehicle and he can, therefore, claim his custody over it.

    As regards the household items of utility, such as Hero Honda Generator, Colour T.V. and other items of decoration valued at Rs.4 lacs, it may be mentioned that the informant has not asserted in its First Information Report that these items of four lacs were demanded by the petitioners or anyone else on their side much less Sanjeev Kumar Yadav. The allegation that Maruti Zen was purchased in the name of Dharm Raj prior to marriage under compelling circumstances stands thwarted on the face of the informant's allegation, in the earlier part of her report, that this was a gift item offered by Smt. Sechna Devi.

    A gift cannot be a dowry as the dictionary meaning of gift is as follows :-

    "a thing given willingly to someone without payment"

    The position would however be different, if a gift is demanded at the time of marriage or prior or after the solemnization of marriage.

    Contrary to the above, the term dowry appears to indicate as a property or money brought by a bride to her husband on their marriage.

    Precisely, Section 2 defines dowry as follows :-

    "Definition of 'dowry'- In this Act, 'dowry' means any property or valuable security given or agreed to be given either directly or indirectly -

    (a) by one party to a marriage to the other party to the marriage ; or

    (b) by the parents of either party to a marriage or by any other person, to either party to the marriage or to any other person; at or before or any time after the marriage in connection with the marriage of the said parties, but does not include dower or mahr in the case of persons to whom the Muslim Personal Law (Shariat) applies."

    Section 3 of the Act postulates as follows :-

    "Penalty for giving or taking dowry - If any person, after the commencement of this Act, gives or takes or abets the giving or taking of dowry, he shall be punishable with imprisonment for a term which shall not be less than five years, and with fine which shall not be less than fifteen thousand rupees or the amount of the value of such dowry whichever is more.

    Provided that the Court may, for adequate and special reasons to be recorded in the judgment, impose a sentence of imprisonment for a term of less than five years.

    (2) Nothing in Sub-section (1) shall apply to, or in relation to -

    (a) presents which are given at the time of a marriage to the bridge (without any demand having been made in that behalf) : Provided that such presents are entered in a list maintained in accordance with the rules made under this Act;

    (b) presents which are given at the time of a marriage to the bridegroom (without any demand having been made in that behalf) : Provided that such presents are entered in a list maintained in accordance with the rules made under this Act: Provided further that where such presents are made by or on behalf of the bride or any person related to the bride, such presents are of a customary nature and the value thereof is not excessive having regard to the financial status of the person by whom, or on whose behalf, such presents are given."

    The above quoted provisions of sections penalize dowry excluding the presents, i.e. gifts which are given at the time of marriage either to the bride or to the bridegroom - of course, such presents have to be entered in a list and they should also be customary in nature. The financial status of the giver will also be of primary importance and learned Counsel for the petitioners asked for a probe into the financial status of the informant's father who is a Government Servant. But we would not like to enter into that arena.


    In the case in hand, the informant's father has not prepared any list of such items and as has been stated by the informant's husband, he is employed as a Junior Engineer in the Public Works Department U.P. who will certainly not be in a position to offer gifts and cash amounting to 30-40 lacs of rupees. All sums seems to be fantastic. The gift items like ornaments, colour T.V., Hero Honda Generator and valuable items of decoration are all customary. Although a vehicle is also acquiring these days the status of a customary gift item at the time of marriage, yet we will not enter into that debate here for the simple reason that the informant has herself termed both the vehicles and all dowry items as the gift items. Section 4 of the Dowry Prohibition Act provides for penalty only if there is a demand for dowry. If gift items, though technically may fall in the category of dowry, are offered without demand, there is no offence.

    Therefore, these gift items will not be called as demanded dowry in view of the provisions of the Section 3(b) of the Dowry Prohibition Act. As regards the cash, it may be observed that the informant's father had allegedly given a sum of Rs.15 lacs at the time of 'tilak' and Rs.5 lacs at the time when Sanjeev Kumar Yadav was preparing for the Central Civil Services. Being conscious of the fact that this Court must not weigh the evidence so as to find out the veracity over the factual allegations, yet since we are convinced from careful perusal of the First Information Report that the entire story is a cock and bull story as regards dowry demand, we are giving the reasonings pertaining to allegations based on spite and vengeance which is sought to be wreaked upon Sanjeev Kumar and his family members at the hands of the informant and her father. Peeping from that angle into the allegations of the First Information Report, we would express our dismay that Sanjeev Kumar Yadav allegedly was paid Rs.1 lac and Rs.50,000/- by way of drafts prior to marriage but the same mode of payment was not observed by Shri Heera Lal, the informant's father while handing over a hefty sum of Rs.15 lacs - which perhaps may not be his entire savings of his salaried service unless there is some other source of income.

    Not only this, but he again gave Rs.5 lacs without any bank draft or cheque and this amount was given at the time, when Sanjeev Kumar had allegedly stopped visiting his wife and a small kid living at Lucknow in desertion. Similarly, the demand of Rs.10 lacs in 2004 appears to be a fabricated story just to express her spite and retaliate of Sanjeev's act having lost his interest in the informant. It is astonishing that the informant and her kid had never been looked after the informant delivered the child, yet a simple demand of Rs.5 lacs had been very promptly carried out by the informant's father, when he was preparing for the Central Civil Services competitive examination. Sanjeev Kumar Yadav allegedly got the informant sent to her parents' house at Vishwas Khand, Lucknow, yet her father was benevolent enough to give a huge sum of Rs.5 lacs to his son-in-law and we would note with further surprise that this entire amount had been borrowed by the informant's father from his well-wishers (not relatives) with a view to buy peace and pleasure for his daughter and paid to her husband. Neither bank cheque nor draft was used as a mode of payment, although a sum of Rs.15 lacs was paid by draft before marriage. When the informant's father tried to ascertain the reason of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav being indifferent to his wife, he came to learn that Sanjeev had become greedy after being selected in the Central Civil Services and his greed has acquired dimensions to the extent that he wanted to contract another marriage and earn Rs.1 crore as dowry. In this context, a reference was also made to his conduct that he had shown himself to be 'single' in Lal Bahadur Shastri National Academy's record, but Sanjeev Kumar controverted such an allegation by filing a Certificate-cum-letter indicating therein his status as 'married'. The letter of Shri J.B. Saini, Administrative Officer (Establishment) dated 7th February, 2005 enclosed as Annexure No.SA1 to the Supplementary Affidavit dated 1st December, 2005 of Sanjeev Kumar clearly recites that in the Descriptive Roll of Academy Sanjeev is recorded as 'married'. Maybe that somewhere advertently or inadvertently he might have written himself single but that does not falsify Mr. Saini's letter certifying Sanjeev Kumar Yadav as 'married'.

    The common experience shows that most of the cases of differences and dissensions between married couples result only in dowry demand by the husband and by all his family members.

    The provisions of the Act are being callously misused by the wives and their parents with different kinds of stories. The disputes, though pending in the Courts for decisions, still give rise to the complaints and F.I.Rs of the wives' victimization of dowry demand. So long the status of the husband is enchanting, as was the case in hand with the informant's own allegation that her father was mesmerized with the status of Sanjeev Kumar - presents and gifts comprising colour T.V., generator sets, maruti cars or even that of better brand, houses, cash - are offered to grab over the bridegroom. He is forced to be attracted of all allurements of huge cash and numerous gifts of household utility, but with the disruption of ties between the husband and wife or slight dissensions on account of their colliding temperaments, strained relationship of the wife with her parents-in-law, difference in the culture of the two families of wife and husband, distances of the education between the two including the difference of mental levels, and extra-marital relationship of either of the two spouses - everything is channelized into a dowry tunnel and the wife is said to be victimized of the dowry demand.

    'Draft a qualitative and capturing or a pathetic story of dowry victimization and harass the husband' has become the routine of warring couples. As said above, the husband and wife relationship may become strained on not one but on various issues as enumerated above, the allegation of demand of dowry is the eventual result in ninety nine percent of the hundred cases.

    Having regard to all these aspects of the matter, we would like to record a finding that the allegation of demand of Rs.10 lacs is a fabricated story of the informant and her father with a view to teach a lesson to the husband, namely, Sanjeev Kumar Yadav, who if arrested will immediately be placed under suspension and with a view to force to realize him as to how then the miserable life of an officer of Indian Revenue Service will commence in and out of jail.

    The sole purpose of a novel like story evolved by the informant and recited in her First Information Report is to take a revenge with him by getting him sent to jail and further placing him in sufferings with his eventual suspension. The Courts are to protect the valuable rights of not only a wife if she is victimized and maltreated with dowry demand but also a harassed husband who is also equal in the eyes of law and if a concocted attempt as the one in hand is made to place the husband in an awkward situation, certainly the Court must come to the rescue of such a husband in humiliation. If the dispute between the husband and wife hinges or surrounds elsewhere, the provisions of the Dowry Prohibition Act must not be misused. In the case in hand, as is the allegation of the informant, infidelity seems to be the crux of the differences between her and her husband. She alleged that her husband Sanjeev Kumar Yadav had developed illicit relationship with Km. Neelam Srivastava and as she has now gathered information, he was all adamant to marry her. The informant was aggrieved of the alleged love affair going on between her husband and Neelam Srivastava and it was in the same sequence of events that the informant alleged about the frequent visits of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav to Jaunpur where Neelam Srivastava was conveniently available. Neelam Srivastava is unmarried and posted as Assistant Consolidation Officer at Varanasi and she has her house in Jaunpur. The allegation of Sanjeev's proposal to marry her is in clear conflict with the informant's allegation that he had desired to marry someone and acquired a dowry of Rs.1 crore. An Assistant Consolidation Officer cannot fetch him that fantastic amount nor she would be able to provide a palatial house in Lucknow. Sanjeev Kumar Yadav has denied the informant's allegation of infidelity attributed to him vis-.-vis Km. Neelam Srivastava and said that she is a pious girl.

    We are not concerned as to what is the status of Ms. Neelam Srivastava nor we are concerned as to what is her relationship with the informant's husband. What we are concerned with is that the ground of infidelity against a husband must not be misused with an accusation of dowry demand. If Sanjeev Kumar is guilty of the offence of extra-martial relationship, he should be penalized, but in accordance with law. She must file a complaint in the Court of competent jurisdiction alleging a charge of adultery and the law will take its own course. But she cannot be permitted to misutilize and abuse the provisions of the Dowry Prohibition Act and harass her husband by getting him arrested and suspended from his service. True that if the dowry demand is made by him he would be liable for a severe penalty but the informant was not expected to imagine and fabricate a fantastic story of giving dowry in the shape of presents and gifts worth Rs.30-35 lacs without demand at the time of marriage and after the differences broke between the two, then accuse him of making demand for more dowry and get, the entire family comprising dozens of persons including young and unmarried sisters, husbands of the married sisters sent to jail. The informant in her First Information Report expected the human values and courtesies to be expected of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav, but on her own part every such human value went in oblivion when the two unmarried sisters Jaya and Usha, cousin Santosh were framed in this case and got them arrested by police. It is unbelievable on the face of the First Information Report that the unmarried sisters of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and husbands of his married sisters living away would exert their pressure for dowry demand. Sri Yadav right from very beginning was nicely placed initially in U.P. Provincial Services and then in Central Civil Service. He and his parents would well be said to press for dowry and harass the informant when she failed to fulfil it. The husbands of the married sisters, brothers-in-law, uncle and cousin might not have been invited to associate.

    As has also been argued before this Court and pleaded in the petition and also recited in the regular Civil Suit seeking a decree for judicial separation, the informant wanted her husband not to give even the slightest part of his salary to his parents -a cherished desire of every wife. A perusal of para 7 of the plaint of the Regular Suit (Annexure 2) reveals that the informant herself started misbehaving with all members of the plaintiff's family and also threatened to get all of them falsely implicated in the case of dowry demand. It seems to be obvious that she implemented her threats of getting Sanjeev Kumar and his family members framed in a case of dowry demand by getting the F.I.R. in question lodged. It was pleaded further by Sanjeev Kumar Yadav in his plaint that while leaving his place in and around October, 2001, the informant carried the entire jewellary and all her garments and while leaving, threatened everyone in the family to snap her ties with all of them and thereafter she never came back to stay with him. As said earlier, the suit for judicial separation was filed on 3rd September, 2004, i.e. about five months before the F.I.R. was lodged. The petitioners' contention is that the F.I.R. was nothing but a retaliatory action of the informant after she came to learn about the said suit being instituted. In this way, the petitioners' contention that the informant swung into action with a view to take revenge by fabricating a cock and bull but attractive story, appears to be sustainable.

    Mr. B.M. Sahai, learned Counsel for the informant further pressed into service his argument that since an alternative remedy of filing a petition under Section 482 Cr.P.C. for challenging the criminal proceedings pending in the Court of Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate-II, Lucknow is available to the petitioners, this writ petition should be dismissed. In support of his contention, learned Counsel relied upon various citations. The first such decision of the Apex Court is in 'Basant Kumar v. Eagle Rolling Mills [AIR 1964 Supreme Court 1260]'. It was held in this case that when a different forum of Industrial Tribunal could be approached by the appellant whose medical benefits were curtailed, a petition under Article 226 of the Constitution would not be maintainable.

    This citation is not attracted towards the facts of the present case, where the petition for quashing of the F.I.R. was legally maintainable under Article 226 of the Constitution. During the pendency of the petition, charge-sheets were filed and the cognizance had been taken.

    The Hon'ble Supreme Court in Pepsi Food's case (supra) has held that in such a circumstance, the petition can be treated as one under Article 227 or even Section 482 Cr.P.C. and the alternative remedy of filing an appeal or a revision will not operate as a bar to decide a petition originally filed under Article 226 of the Constitution. On the basis of the principle of law laid down in the decision by the Hon'ble Apex Court, the citations reported in 1993 JIC 151, AIR 1993 SC 892, 1999 (1) JIC 883 (All.), 2001 (1) JIC 597 (Alld.) are not applicable to the facts and circumstances of the present case. It was held in the famous case of Rupan Delol Bajaj v. Kanwar Pal Singh Gill [(1995) 6 SCC 194] that a prima facie case was made out against the writ petitioner Shri Gill and there was sufficient evidence to proceed with, therefore, the FIR lodged by Mrs. Bajaj and the complaint filed by her husband were liable to be proceeded with further by the trial Court. The respondent in that case by slapping on the back of the informant was stated to have committed an offence of outraging her modesty. We do not find even an iota of similarity between the two cases and therefore, we hold that the said decision is of no avail to the informant.

    The citation 'State of Bihar v. Rajendra Agrawalla [1996 JIC 363 (SC)]' is also distinguishable from the facts of the present case. As in that case, a petition under Section 482 Cr.P.C. was filed by the petitioner who was a Sub-Inspector of Police. The High Court quashed the criminal proceedings but the Hon'ble Supreme Court held that there was sufficient evidence to constitute commission of an offence under Section 414 I.P.C. It was also held in that case that a criminal proceeding can be interfered with by the High Court under Section 482 Cr.P.C. only if it is shown that the complaint together with the other material collected during investigation taken at their face value do not constitute the offences alleged. In that case, there was recovery of huge stock of pieces of the track trolley used in BCCL and since the respondents could not show any document to prove their ownership, it was held that they were rightly challaned by the police. In the case in hand, the facts are not as categorical. Neither there was any recovery nor the demand of dowry is believable.

    Learned Counsel for the informant then referred to a citation of this Court Devi Sahai and others v. State of U.P. and others [2001 (1) JIC 597 (All)] and contended with reference to it that an application under Section 482 Cr.P.C. for quashing of the F.I.R. pending investigation is not maintainable. In that case, 482 Cr.P.C. petition was filed for quashing of the F.I.R. on the ground that the F.I.R. was totally false and concocted and had been lodged to wreak vengeance on account of election enmity. We could not appreciate as to how this could have helped the informant because the petitioners of the case in hand filed a writ petition under Article 226 of the Constitution and not a 482 Cr.P.C. petition. It is however different that with the development of the charge-sheets having been submitted, this petition has been treated to be as one under Article 227 and under Section 482 Cr.P.C. in view of the Apex Court's decision in Pepsi Food's case (supra).

    Learned Counsel for the informant then relied upon the citation 'Sadhana Lodh v. National Insurance Company and and another [2003 (3) SCC 524]'. With reference to this decision, it has been submitted that where an alternative remedy of filing appeal is available, interference under Articles 226 and 227 is not permissible. In that case, in a motor accident claim, an award of Rs.3.5 lac as compensation was pronounced. The aggrieved insurer filed a petition under Articles 226 and 227 of the Constitution which was allowed by the High Court and the amount of award was reduced. The Hon'ble Supreme Court held that since an alternative remedy of filing an appeal was available to the insurer, filing of a petition under Articles 226 and 227 of the Constitution or interference in any manner was not permissible under law. Obviously, the facts of the case are entirely different from the one before us, therefore, the citation is not attracted towards this case.

    For the reason that in the decision Ram Lal Yadava v. State of U.P. and others [1989 ACC 181], the petition was filed under Section 482 Cr.P.C. to stay the arrest of an accused during investigation, the said decision of this Court does not help in any manner. It was precisely held by this Court in that case that during investigation arrest of an accused cannot be stayed under Section 482 Cr.P.C. by the High Court while exercising its inherent power. Any repetition is unpleasant but since relevant decisions are not being referred to, we have to observe again and again that the petition in hand was initially filed under Article 226 of the Constitution and for the reasons disclosed earlier and in view of the principle of law laid down in the case of Pepsi Foods Ltd. (supra), we have treated it to have also been filed under Article 227 of the Constitution and Section 482 Cr.P.C. It is however significant to note that in this very decision (Ram Lal's case), a full bench comprising seven Hon'ble Judges clearly postulated in para 22 of the Judgment that if the High Court is convinced that the power of arrest by a police officer will be exercised wrongly or mala fide in violation of Section 41(1)(a) Cr.P.C. the High Court can also issue a writ of Mandamus under Article 226 of the Constitution restraining the police officer from misusing the power and it is for this principle of law ruled by the Full Bench that Dr. L.P. Misra learned Counsel for the Petitioners too cited this decision and placed reliance thereupon. Dr. L.P. Misra further submitted with reference to a decision in Common Cause, a Registered Society v. Union of India and others [1999 Vol.VI SCC 667] that powers of a High Court under Article 226 and the Hon'ble Supreme Court under Article 32 are plenary in nature and in exercise of such plenary powers, Court can rectify even its own mistakes. Although there is no case in hand of rectifying an error, yet emphasis has been laid by the learned Counsel that under Article 226 a High Court can exercise plenary power to do complete justice.

    Dr. L.P. Misra then contended with reference to another decision of the Apex Court in Secretary, O.N.G.C. Ltd. And another v. V.U. Warrier [(2005) 5 SCC 245] that jurisdiction of the High Court under Article 226 is equitable and discretionary and it can exercise this power to reach injustice wherever it is found.

    The sum and substance of the discussions made above is that the facts of this case being peculiar with the developments during investigation are such that this Court would consider it equitable to interfere and quash the entire criminal proceedings pending against the petitioners.

    Learned Counsel for the informant vehemently argued that since Sanjeev Kumar Yadav did not surrender before the Court following cancellation of his bail, no discretionary relief should be extended to him.

    In this context, it may be significant to note that when after his arrest, he was brought to Gomti Nagar Police Station, the Station House Officer released him on bail on the ground of his illness and all other petitioners arrested from Jaunpur were sent to jail.

    The bail of Sanjeev Kumar Yadav was cancelled on technical ground that since he was on transit remand, he could not have been released on bail.

    Subsequently, this Court vide its Order of 28th July, 2005 stayed his arrest on the merit of his plea that the F.I.R. on the face of it carried a concocted version. However, on September 9, 2005 the said interim order was vacated. He then moved an application soon thereafter for modification of the order which was finally heard alongwith the writ petition. It may be relevant to observe that Sanjeev Kumar Yadav approached this Court for redressal of his grievance and since right from very inception of his having filed this petition, his case was that he has been falsely framed in this case by the informant after concocting a case of dowry demand out of sheer vengeance, he was justified in his right to seek a modification of the order by bringing before the Court all the relevant facts and circumstances.

    Every citizen has a right to approach this Court not once but many a times and the facts and circumstances on the basis of which a prayer for modification of the vacation order was made would all be very relevant and significant to be looked into. Once it has come to the notice of the Court that indeed his stand about the First Information Report being based on retaliatory measure is acceptable, he cannot be penalized merely because he moved an application for modification of the vacation order instead of surrendering himself before the Court for going to jail.

    Learned Counsel for the petitioners has also assailed the charge-sheets - one submitted on February 21, 2005 and the other on October 25, 2005 (perhaps the same charge-sheet submitted twice). The fact regarding submission of the charge-sheet on 21.2.2005 is falsified by the Order dated 1st March, 2005 by the Senior Superintendent of Police, Lucknow whereby he had transferred the investigation of this case from S.I. Shri K.K. Sharma to S.I. Shri Brij Kishore Singh. The very fact that the investigation was transferred from Shri K.K. Sharma to Shri Brij Kishore Singh on 1st March, 2005 prima facie proves that there was some manipulation somewhere in Shri K.K. Sharma's statement and conduct of his having submitted charge-sheet on 21st February, 2005.

    Deepti Yadav filed a copy of the charge-sheet alongwith her supplementary affidavit dated 2nd December, 2005. A perusal of this charge-sheet appears to indicate that it was signed by Shri K.K. Sharma on some date in February, 2005 but the figures of the date were interpolated and in their place, 21.2.2005 was substituted. Cognizance of this charge-sheet had been taken on October 25, 2005. The charge-sheet dated 21.2.2005 with changed figures of date has been termed to be of 25.10.2005 by Deepti Yadav in her supplementary affidavit of December 2, 2005. Virtually, it seems to be the same charge-sheet submitted twice. The Presiding Officer in his Order dated 25th October, 2005 says it had been received on 25th October, 2005. There is manipulation in the figures of the date underneath the signature of the Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate also. In the figures of '10' meant for the month of October, figure '3' is clearly visible within the circle of '0' which clearly indicates that the Investigating Officer has committed some significant errors in changing the date under his signatures. The Presiding Officer also seems to have towed the same line and did some alienation in the figures of date underneath his signature. Further, the Investigating Officer appears to have added Section 307 I.P.C. possibly by replacing the letters I.P.C. The interpolations are clearly visible in the head-line of the charge-sheet as well as in his brief note spreading over columns 5 to 9 in the charge-sheet. A copy of the order is enclosed with the charge-sheet and a perusal of the said order dated 25.10.2005 appears to indicate that cognizance was taken by the learned Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate. From bare perusal, it appears that the learned Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate has not applied his mind while taking cognizance of the matter. It is simply recited in the order at the relevant place that the F.I.R. has been perused, which is enough for taking cognizance, therefore, cognizance is taken. Precisely, the order may be quoted as below:-

    It is apparent from perusal of the aforesaid order that the learned Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate has not examined the facts and evidence of the case. Mere recital about the perusal of the charge-sheet does not indicate about sufficient reasoning for taking cognizance. It is not mentioned that the documentary evidence including the F.I.R. or the statements of the witnesses or any other piece of evidence was or was not perused by the learned Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate. The Order has been passed in a mechanical manner without applying mind to the facts of the case and evidence submitted in support of the charge-sheet. Had the Presiding Officer scrutinized the F.I.R. even, he would have learnt that no offence had taken place in the territorial jurisdiction of Lucknow-district. Apart above, it has also not been explained on behalf of the informant that as to how the Senior Superintendent of Police ordered for transfer of the investigation when charge-sheet has already been submitted and as to why the Senior Superintendent of Police disclosed before the Court in Criminal Misc. Case No. 1026 of 2005 that no charge-sheet had been filed till 1st March, 2005, i.e. the date on which the investigation was transferred from Shri K.K. Sharma to Shri Brij Kishore Singh.

    From these manipulations also mala fide on the part of the Investigating Officer stands proved.

    In view of the above discussed manipulations and non-application of mind by the learned Second Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate, the criminal proceedings stand vitiated and deserve to be quashed.

    For the reasons disclosed above, our conclusions may in brief be recapitulated below :-

    The Writ Petition filed initially under Article 226 of the Constitution of India is treated to be as the one under Article 227 of the Constitution of India and Section 482 Cr.P.C. in view of the Apex Court's decision in Pepsi Food's case (supra).

    The First Information Report was filed by Deepti Yadav with a view to wreak vengeance upon her husband Shri Sanjeev Kumar Yadav and his family members.

    The First Information Report came into being as a retaliatory move to teach him and his family members a lesson of filing a suit for judicial separation on September 3, 2004.

    The First Information Report was a sequel to the informant's suspicion of infidelity against her husband.

    The presents and gifts offered at the time of marriage to Sanjeev Kumar and his family members were gifts offered by the informant's parents, grandmother and other relatives on their own. Such presents and gifts do not fall within the category of 'dowry demanded'.

    It is falsified that either Sanjeev Kumar or any other member of his family demanded any dowry.

    The Investigating Officer acted in a mala fide way and manipulated things to mislead the Court of the II Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate as also this Court by making manipulations in the charge-sheet as discussed above.

    Learned Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate-II has without application of mind proceeded to take cognizance of the offences and thereby committed a serious illegality.

    The above Magisterial Court at Lucknow has no territorial jurisdiction to deal with the offences alleged to have been committed in Tadwa (Pilkichha), District Jaunpur, Sultanpur, Gorakhpur and Moradabad.

    The First Information Report is a well-drafted document based on spite and animosity.

    In view of the foregoing conclusions, we are of the decisive view that the First Information Report (Annexure 1) as well as the criminal proceedings pending against the petitioners in the Court of Additional Chief Judicial Magistrate-II, Lucknow are liable to be quashed.

    Accordingly, the writ petition is allowed and the First Information Report as also the criminal proceedings including the charge-sheet(s) dated 21st February, 2005/25th October, 2005 are hereby quashed.

    A writ of Certiorari is issued accordingly.

    January 10, 2006


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    JOIN THE ACTIVE SELF HELP GROUS, FIGHT THIS INJUSTICE / Re: Advice Please - 2


    Dear Affected Husband

    I'm saddened  to hear your situation


    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.

    - Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)

    - trying to separate the husband from his parents,

    - money

    - vengence

    - even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases

    a.1. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with / or threatened with a false dowry case

    This is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. As the wife [including the in laws] have filed / are planning to file a false dowry case (498a case) and as the husband is innocent, see if you can record their threats (IF ANY).

    I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. MANY TIMES MONEY IS A MOTIVATOR for false cases : Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Further ... is the wife employed / does she have property or other assets in her name ?. IF YES Try and get proof of her employment / her well being. If she is employed She should NOT be entitled to ANY maintenance UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES.

    h. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these FALSE DOWRY CASE problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    i. But to get to this stage you have to first prove that your wife's case is false

    j. I suggest you immediately get in touch with our ACTIVE self help group(s), in case you haven't so far. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz .

    k. Contact other self help centers as well if necessary

    l. Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh


    IF a case has already been filed (say by the time you see this mail) , could you please give us some more info on the status of the case ?

    - what are their allegations in the 498a case ?

    - have any other civil cases been filed by either side - say divorce case, maintenance, etc...etc... ?

    I am also copying this mail to other dedicated self help team members. they will also reply your questions

    More after your contacted our self help group


    Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    498A Registered: NO
    498A Place:
    498A Date:
    Any Other IPCs:
    Relatives Accused:
    Jailed Days: NO
    Stage of Case: no498a
    Spent Money on 498A:
    Lived in joint Family: YES
    Marriage Date: __LATE_/2006
    Wife Age:
    Wife's Education Level: other
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: YES
    Have children: NO
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: NO
    Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    She had Any Medical Problems: YES_mental
    Willing to Help other Victims: YES
    Ready for TV/Press Interivew : YES

    Comments:

    The boy stays with his mother and SIBLINGS__( A SIBLING is married and has settled ________).

    The girl's father is an _____ powerful__ __near_delhi_and has a very strong influence on her life.

    Right after the marriage,the wife started forcing her husband to give up his career and ......... and stay with her parents in their house.

    ___recently___she went to her parents house and has not returned.

    ____Soon after she left ___her father came with __many_ others and a criminal lawyer to the boy's place who was threatened that a false 498A and domestic violence case will be charged

    ......................




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    Wednesday, June 20, 2007

    My wife was the sweetest on earth. Suddely she has filed a false case against me

    Dear Brother


    >I have had a bad marriage.My wife has filed
    >cases of:
    >
    >1. Assault : She claims that I used to beat
    >her every day
    >
    >2. Dowry : She claims that I was asking for a
    >____Lacs from her and her father got ill
    >because of this
    >
    >3. As if this was not enough, she has claimed
    >that I ..........
    >


    I'm saddened  to hear your situation


    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. There are a variety of reasons for FALSE dowry cases.

    - Elder abuse (driving the husband's parents away)

    - trying to separate the husband from his parents,

    - money

    - vengence

    - even silly matrimonial disputes have resulted in false dowry cases

    a.1. all of a sudden, the husband and his relatives are attacked with a false case or threatening the husband with dowry case

    This is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. As your wife [they  including your in laws] have filed a false dowry case (498a case) and as you are innocent, See if you can record their threats (IF ANY).

    I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. MANY TIMES MONEY IS A MOTIVATOR for false cases : Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Further ... is your wife employed?. IF YES Try and get proof of her employment. If she is employed She should NOT be entitled to ANY maintenance UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES.

    h. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these FALSE DOWRY CASE problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    i. But to get to this stage you have to first prove that your wife's case is false

    j. I suggest you immediately get in touch with our ACTIVE CHENNAI or BANGALORE based self SIF help group, in case you haven't so far. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz .

    k. Contact other self help centers as well if necessary

    l. Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh


    By the way, could you please give us some more info on the status of the case ?

    what are their allegations in the 498a case ?

    have any other civil cases been filed by either side - say divorce case, maintenance, etc...etc... ?

    I am also copying this mail to other dedicated self help team members. they will also reply your questions

    More after your contacted our self help group

    >Victim Location : __karnataka__
    >Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    >498A Registered: Complaint filed
    >498A Place:
    >498A Date:
    >Any Other IPCs: DV , Assault
    >Relatives Accused: No
    >Jailed Days: NO
    >Stage of Case: no498a
    >Spent Money on 498A: 30,000
    >Lived in joint Family: NO
    >Marriage Date: __early__2007
    >Wife Age:
    >Wife's Education Level: other
    >Wife works (earns)?: works
    >Filed for Divorce: NO
    >Have children: NO
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: YES
    >Took her Stridhan Back: NA
    >She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    >Willing to Help other Victims: YES
    >Ready for TV/Press Interivew : YES
    >
    >Comments:
    >
    >I have had a bad marriage.My wife has filed
    >cases of:
    >
    >1. Assault : She claims that I used to beat
    >her every day
    >
    >2. Dowry : She claims that I was asking for a
    >____Lacs from her and her father got ill
    >because of this
    >
    >3. As if this was not enough, she has claimed
    >that I used to suspect her
    >
    >The relatioship was stable and there was not
    >an iota of doubt in my mind that my wife was
    >the best woman that I could have found on this
    >earth.
    >
    >She was always very soft spoken .....
    >
    >We went out almost every weekend for movies
    >and dinner.
    >
    >Our life was going just fine and suddenly this
    >happened.
    >
    >Last ____ we went to office as usual and
    >dropped her off at about ___AM.
    >
    >.....
    >
    >In the evening, suddenly she went missing. I
    >was scared to death and looked around every
    >nook and corner of the __our city__only to
    >learn that the __local__ Police station has
    >recd. a ___ page complaint against me. The
    >complaint was from my wife, ______. I could not
    >believe my eyes.
    >
    >As, I was coming to the terms with reality, I
    >realized that all incidence has been
    >masterminded by my in-laws.
    >
    >I contacted my lawer and learnt that the
    >credibility is seen later. At first, Police is
    >going to arrest me because it is supposed to be
    >a non-bailable offence under sec 498a of IPC
    >
    >Well, I have applied for an anticipatory bail
    >currently and am gathering courage to fight
    >back.



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    Indian Women's lib is attacking global firms


    Indian Women's lib is attacking global firms


    Nothing 'official' about harassment

    Marya Shakil
    CNN-IBN
    Posted Wednesday, June 20, 2007 at 03:19
    Updated Wednesday, June 20, 2007 at 03:27

    WORKPLACE NIGHTMARE: Alka (name changed) was asked to leave KPMG without a reason.

    New Delhi: Alka shudders when she recalls her 14 months at one of India's top audit firm, KPMG. She held a senior managerial position till November 2006 when her services were terminated, she alleges, without reason.

    "I was in KPMG and I found the behaviour, embarrassing, humiliating and obscene. Some of his behaviour that made me extremely uncomfortable and I asked for a change of my performance manager. On paper they did change it but my immediate boss continued to be my reprisal. I have followed all protocol raised it with the CEO. I raised it with the international ethics committee and I had offered to resign in 2006," says Alka Pandey (name changed).

    Alka says KPMG India has breached its own directives on sexual harassment.

    "The induction manual also says that one must comply with rules," she says

    KPMG, however, denies all the allegations. In a statement, KPMG says, 'As soon as we received the complaint, we set up a complaints committee. However, she expressed her inability to appear before the committee as she was going on a vacation. The Committee provided an alternative set of dates. She replied expressing reservations about the constitution of the Committee.'

    Alka's case isn't isolated. Sexual harassment at workplace is commonplace.

        * In 1988, a woman IAS officer, Rupan Deol Bajaj, had filed a complaint against supercop K P S Gill.

        * In 1992, a case of sexual harassment in Air India made the news when an assistant flight purser misbehaved with an air-hostess.

        * In 2001, the Supreme Court took note of sexual harrasment of two women IAS officers by a state minister in Kerala.

    But what really amounts to sexual harassment at workplace? While hearing a case of gang rape by a Rajasthan government employee in 1997, the Supreme Court defined sexual harassment.

    It said, sexual harassment is any form of physical contact, demand or request for sexual behaviour, sexually-coloured remarks, showing of pornography, any unwelcome physical, verbal or non verbal conduct: examples-leering, cracking dirty jokes, making sexual remarks about a person's body, amounts to sexual harassment

    Even as cases of sexual harassment go up by the day, Parliament is dragging its feet on passing the Protection of Women Against Sexual Harassment at the Workplace Bill 2007.

    If passed, it would be India's first law against sexual harassment at workplace.


    http://www.ibnlive.com/news/nothing-official-about-harassment/43244-3.html

    Tuesday, June 19, 2007

    Suicide note of a husband "...My parents shouldn't be punished for this..."

    "...My parents shouldn't be punished for this..."

    Man ends life after wife's suicide
    19 Jun, 2007 l 0210 hrs IST l TIMES NEWS NETWORK

    BANGALORE:

    Five days after his wife Archana was found dead under mysterious circumstances and a case of murder was booked against him, Vijaykumar, son of former CMC president Krishnappa, hanged himself at a house in Hulimavu.

    "I shouldn't have done this to you. I had to face severe insult. My parents shouldn't be punished for this. But, I love you. I am responsible for my death." So read Vijaykumar's suicide note.

    Vijaykumar was found dead at the house of Kamala, a bill collector at the Bommanahalli CMC, in Jamboosavaridinne on Monday afternoon. He had gone to her house to take shelter as the police were searching for him.

    "I used to go to their house and hence knew him. He came here on Sunday afternoon and told me that he'd stay till Monday," said Kamala.

    On Monday afternoon, Kamala's family members got no response from his room when they called him for lunch. Kamala called the police, who broke down the door and found him hanging from the fan.

    Archana, daughter of Pillappa of Yelahanka, had committed suicide on June 16 in her house in Parappana Agrahara police limits.

    Her parents accused Krishnappa and Vijaykumar of harassing Archana.

    A mob went on the rampage and torched Krishnappa's car after hearing about Archana's death.

    The police lodged a case of murder against Vijaykumar and were searching for him.

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Man_ends_life_after_wifes_suicide/articleshow/2132582.cms

    Will this Sub Inspector be arrested ? Do our AP victims know him ?


    NEWINDPRESS.COM
    SOUTHERN NEWS - ANDHRA PRADESH      

    Death of SI's wife creates flutter

    Tuesday June 19 2007 10:01 IST

    GUNTUR: The death of a police sub-inspector's wife at Returu village of Kakumanu mandal created a sensation on Monday.

    The woman consumed hair dye and succumbed during treatment on Sunday night. Her parents have alleged that harassment by the SI for dowry is responsible for her death.

    RSI Kondapaturu Srinivasa Rao was married to Aruna of Warangal in 2001. At the time of engagement, Rao was a constable and immediately after marriage, he was promoted as an SI.

    Since then, he was allegedly harassing Aruna to bring more dowry. On the pretext of frequent transfers, he used to frequently leave Aruna at her parents' house for long periods.

    According to Aruna's father Veeraswamy, Aruna used to complain about Rao's harassment. Rao had left Aruna at Warangal since March this year and did not bring her back despite several requests.

    Finally, he reportedly took Rs 40,000 from Veeraswamy and brought Aruna to Return 10 days ago. Suddenly on June 16, Aruna consumed hair dye and attempted suicide. She died on June 17.

    On knowing about her marriage, Veeraswamy and his son-in-law Kumaraswami - an RI (police) in Bellampalli of Adilabad, eldest daughter Suguna and other relatives rushed to Returu.


    http://www.newindpress.com/NewsItems.asp?ID=IEA20070618233931&Page=A&Title=Southern+News+-+Andhra+Pradesh&Topic=0
    ALTERNATE URL http://tinyurl.com/2zzb8h


    Though the woman who filed the dowry complaint is married to another man, the case goes on after 21 years !!! - UPDATES ..


    Though the woman who filed the dowry complaint is married to another man, the case goes on after 21 years !!!



    - Justice delayed is Justice denied

    - This BRAVE MAN is knocking the doors of justice 21 years later as he is forced to do so !!

    - Is this the [DELAYED] justice OUR FOREFATHERS fought for ?

    - Is this the [DELAYED] justice our freedom fighters fought for ?

    - Why should that woman be happily married and un connected when ONLY the husband needs to run from court to court ?? Is this true democracy ?

    - what is happening AFTER men get acquitted ?

    - Families of India, arise, awake and know about the dowry law misuse and the rampant delays in judiciary

    - Fight for your civil and constitutional rights



    After 21 yrs, man knocks SC doors over dowry
    19 Jun, 2007 l 1847 hrs ISTlPTI

    NEW DELHI:

    Twenty-one years after he demanded dowry that led to the bride's family calling off the marriage, a government employee has knocked the doors of the Supreme Court challenging his conviction by a High Court under the Dowry Prohibition Act.

    A bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and P P Naolekar, while admitting the appeal, issued notices to the Madhya Pradesh government to file its reply on the issue. The petitioner, Manohar Lal, has argued that his conviction for six months by the Madhya Pradesh High Court, which reversed the acquittal order passed by the Sessions Court 16 years ago, was a serious "miscarriage of justice".

    In his special leave petition filed through counsel Suresh Chand, Lal submitted that his conviction under Section 4 of the Dowry Prohibition Act was illegal as under the Act it was an offence only if a person demanded or accepted dowry.

    But since he did not receive any dowry as the marriage was called off, the question of punishing him under the Dowry Act did not arise, the petitioner contended.

    Arguing that no purpose would serve by persisting with the charge against him 21 years after the demand for dowry was made, Lal, who is an engineer with Madhya Pradesh's Public Health Department, contends that Vijaya Malviya who had spurned him over the dowry demand in May 1986, was now happily married to another man.


    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/After_21_yrs_man_knocks_SC_doors_over_dowry/articleshow/2134289.cms



    ======= one more report on the same news =========


    SC to examine issue of dowry demand

    19 June 2007

    The Supreme Court has decided to examine the issue whether a person accused of demanding dowry can be held guilty of the offence even if he has dropped his demands and has agreed to marry without dowry.

    A vacation bench comprising Justices Arijit Pasayat and P P Naolekar have issued notice to the state of Madhya Pradesh on a petition filed by one Manohar Lal, a sub-engineer in Public Health Engineering department of M P government, challenging his conviction and sentence for an offence under section 4 of the Dowry Prohibition Act,1961 which says that demanding dowry before, at or after the marriage is an offence.

    The court also granted bail to the petitioner on his furnishing bail bond for Rs 25000 along with two sureties of the same amount to the satisfaction of the judicial magistrate, first class, Harda.

    The accused was acquitted by the trial court along with his father and brother on December 21, 1990 but the state filed an appeal in the high court. Single judge of the Jabalpur bench of Madhya Pardesh high court reversed the order of acquittal against the petitioner but upheld the acquittal of two others in the case.

    The counsel for the petitioner Suresh Chand and K Shivraj Choudhuri contended before the apex court that both the courts below have overlooked the strong mitigating circumstance in favour of the accused that he had given up his demand for fridge and scooter on May 19, 1986 following intervention by the villagers and had agreed to marry the girl without any dowry and hence offence under section 4 of the Act was not committed by him as he withdrew his demand well in time and stopped short of committing the offence.

    The counsel also pleaded that the girl Vijaya Malviya was never examined as prosecution witness and the petitioner did not get an opportunity to examine the main witness in the case.

    The petitioner also pleaded that the high court was not justified in reversing the order of acquittal after a gap of 16 years without any compelling circumstances and will suffer irreparable loss and injury if the petitioner loses his job as the survival of his entire family including five small children, wife and aged father will be in jeopardy.

    Moreover it was girl's family who had refused to perform marriage and the petitioner and the girl are now well settled in their matrimonial lives and sending the petitioner to jail after a gap of 21 years will not be in the interest of justice.

    (UNI)

    http://www.indlawnews.com/71E2F30722F931B852030F9A49DF860C

    =======================================

    Though the woman who filed the dowry complaint is married to another man, the case goes on after 21 years !!!


    Though the woman who filed the dowry complaint is married to another man, the case goes on after 21 years !!!



    - Justice delayed is Justice denied

    - This BRAVE MAN is knocking the doors of justice 21 years later as he is forced to do so !!

    - Is this the [DELAYED] justice OUR FOREFATHERS fought for ?

    - Is this the [DELAYED] justice our freedom fighters fought for ?

    - Why should that woman be happily married and un connected when ONLY the husband needs to run from court to court ?? Is this true democracy ?

    - what is happening AFTER men get acquitted ?

    - Families of India, arise, awake and know about the dowry law misuse and the rampant delays in judiciary

    - Fight for your civil and constitutional rights



    After 21 yrs, man knocks SC doors over dowry
    19 Jun, 2007 l 1847 hrs ISTlPTI

    NEW DELHI:

    Twenty-one years after he demanded dowry that led to the bride's family calling off the marriage, a government employee has knocked the doors of the Supreme Court challenging his conviction by a High Court under the Dowry Prohibition Act.

    A bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and P P Naolekar, while admitting the appeal, issued notices to the Madhya Pradesh government to file its reply on the issue. The petitioner, Manohar Lal, has argued that his conviction for six months by the Madhya Pradesh High Court, which reversed the acquittal order passed by the Sessions Court 16 years ago, was a serious "miscarriage of justice".

    In his special leave petition filed through counsel Suresh Chand, Lal submitted that his conviction under Section 4 of the Dowry Prohibition Act was illegal as under the Act it was an offence only if a person demanded or accepted dowry.

    But since he did not receive any dowry as the marriage was called off, the question of punishing him under the Dowry Act did not arise, the petitioner contended.

    Arguing that no purpose would serve by persisting with the charge against him 21 years after the demand for dowry was made, Lal, who is an engineer with Madhya Pradesh's Public Health Department, contends that Vijaya Malviya who had spurned him over the dowry demand in May 1986, was now happily married to another man.


    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/After_21_yrs_man_knocks_SC_doors_over_dowry/articleshow/2134289.cms


    Monday, June 18, 2007

    Creamy layer women!



    Creamy layer women!


    TIMES NEWS NETWORK[ SUNDAY, JUNE 17, 2007 01:19:11 AM]

    Pratibha who? Till Thursday evening ten out of ten people would have responded incredulously had the Rajasthan governor's name been mentioned as a potential candidate for the forthcoming Presidential election. But by Friday morning, her name, including the less well-known Shekhawat surname that she seldom uses, was on everyone's lips.

    As the dark horse (should that be mare?) and chosen favourite of the ruling UPA, Pratibha Patil Shekhawat has a number of things going for her. Apart from her loyalty to the Gandhi family, the fact that she's a woman has doubtless gone in her favour. Like the London Financial Times popular columnist, Lucy Kellaway, she's probably thinking, "the smartest thing I ever did was being born a woman!"

    And she wouldn't be too wrong. That's the strange thing about being a woman in India. Up to a point, it's huge disadvantage. If you are poor and uneducated, it usually means discrimination right from birth, even before, thanks to the rampant practice of killing female fetuses. After birth it can mean less food to eat, less or no schooling compared to her brothers, no property rights, unwanted pregnancies, harassment from in-laws for not bringing enough dowry, leading at times to death and a lifelong struggle to make both ends meet even as she shoulders a disproportionate share of household work.

    But beyond a point being a woman can be a huge advantage, as Patil has doubtless discovered. It's a bit like belonging to the creamy layer among the reserved category. There are fewer women to compete with so the ones in the race have a better chance of succeeding. Take, for instance, college admissions, now that the season for admissions is on in the capital. Compare the prospects for admission to a good college for a boy and a girl, both with the same marks in their Class XII exams.

    There are more than 10 exclusive girls' colleges, including some of the best, but there are hardly any exclusively boys' colleges. In the earlier days St Stephen's college was a bastion of male exclusiveness but today even that has changed. Consequently, like-for-like, girls have a much wider choice and stand a much better chance of getting into a good college than boys.

    It's much the same in the professional world. In the early stages of their career, women have a disadvantage of not being able to work long hours or travel extensively if they also wish to have children and do not have family support. But once that phase is over, those of them who do not opt out, often do make it to more senior positions. Being a woman is no longer a disadvantage.

    On the contrary, it can be a distinct advantage. Many organisations are eager to be seen as gender-sensitive. Never mind that it's a bit like the lip service paid to corporate social responsibility, so while they are willing to appoint women to senior positions, they usually want only a symbolic presence and often resort to tactics like giving them inconsequential portfolios, leaving the challenging ones with the men.

    It's no different in politics. We have few women parliamentarians but they stand a better chance than their male colleagues of being appointed ministers. But does that translate into their being appointed finance or commerce minister? Not a chance! They will have to rest content with relatively light weight ministries like 'tourism', 'women and child development,' etc

    Take another example, job openings. "Women are specially encouraged to apply" is a standard clause. A recent advertisement by the UK government's Department for International Development in the London Economist went even further, clubbing women with 'those with disability' as if women are disabled and need a leg up. Why should they, any more than men, unless sub-consciously they are not seen as being on par with their male colleagues? Sadly that mindset will not change even if we get a woman President, just as it did not when we had a woman prime minister in the past.

    It will change only if gender ceases to come into the picture at all. Till then women in the creamy layer like Patil and most of the women readers of this paper can have their cake and eat it . Always remembering that it's usually an inferior sort of cake than the one served up to the men!


    http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/Magazines/The_Sunday_ET/Creamy_layer_women/articleshow/2128666.cms


    Newly-wed wife poisons, STRANGLES and KILLS husband - this is NOT Hollywood, IT'S MUMBAI !!

    Comments :
    - This woman has tried to go un traceable after poisoning and killing her hubby.
    - Why aren't HER relatives arrested ?
    - why are husband's relatives arrested and harassed JUST on the basis of a WOMAN'S dowry complaint, even when the woman is alive ??

    In this case the wife CLAIMS that the husband suspected her. God knows the truth

    ======news item =======


    Newly-wed poisons suspicious husband
    17 Jun, 2007 l 0112 hrs ISTlTIMES NEWS NETWORK

    MUMBAI: A 21-year-old newly wed woman allegedly poisoned her husband and killed him after he doubted her character and fought with her. Jyoti Malusare was arrested and sent to police custody on Friday, the police said.

    According to a complaint filed with the Ghatkopar police, the accused was married to Vijay Malusare (26) for the last two years. Vijay recently started suspecting his wife's "character'' and argued with her over the issue. Jyoti, however, pleaded innocence and said that the information—based on which he doubted her—was wrong.

    On Thursday night, when Vijay was about to sleep, Jyoti offered him a glass of milk laced with poison. Vijay then went to sleep after drinking the milk and later Jyoti strangled him with a towel.

    On Friday morning, his younger brother, Ajay Malusare, informed the police about his death. The body was sent to Rajawadi Hospital and the post-mortem report indicated that Vijay was poisoned and strangled before his death.

    Jyoti, meanwhile, went missing and was untraceable. But a police team managed to locate her and brought to the police station where she was arrested. The police has registered a case of murder under Section 302 of the Indian Penal against Jyoti and is interrogating her.

    toireporter@timesgroup.com

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Mumbai/Newly-wed_poisons_suspicious_husband/articleshow/2128659.cms

    =======================================

    Mangalore - Tahsildar Files Dowry Complaint against Husband


    Monday, June 18, 2007 9:32:09 AM (IST)  

    Mangalore: Tahsildar Files Dowry Complaint against Husband


    Daijiworld Media Network-Mangalore (KD)

    Mangalore, Jun 18: Prajna Ammembala (29) tahsildar of Hospet taluk in Bellary district has lodged a complaint against her husband and in-laws for dowry harassment at Kotekar near here on Sunday June 17.

    According to the police Ammembala has filed a complaint with the Ullal police against her husband K S Muralidhar, father-in law K Sathyanarayana Hathsaru, mother-in-law Bharati, sister-in-law Mamatha Ravindra and a relative Gururaj Hathsaru for harassing her and her family members for dowry.

    Ammembala said that she married Murulidhar on January 11, 2004. He has been harassing her physically and mentally since then and he and his family members have been demanding Rs 20 lac as dowry, according to the complaint.

    http://www.daijiworld.com/news/news_disp.asp?n_id=34704&n_tit=Mangalore%3A+Tahsildar+Files+Dowry+Complaint+against+Husband+

    Another DV(Domestic Violence) case ... fake case or real one ?



    - If you thought that DV act is only Civil, you were probably right !! Many have opined that Matrimonial issues have to be civil issues.

    - However this report states that a CRIMINAL complaint was lodged under this act and people were arrested !!

    - god save the men of India

    ======= news report ========

    Another DV(Domestic Violence) case


    Source: The Sangai Express Imphal, June 14: Once again the recently enacted Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2006 has come to the aid of victimised women as another case has been filed under the same Act at Imphal.

    Devjani Pathak (33), wife of Jyoti Vikas Sharma Pathak of Khoyathong road filed a criminal case under the DV Act before the Court of Judicial Magistrate, First Class (JMIC), Imphal on June 8.The complainant charged her brothers-in-law– Brajabihari Sharma Pathak and Biplob Sharma Pathak of harassing and mentally torturing her, conveyed advocate Naorem Umakanta Singh, appearing on her behalf.

    Taking direct cognizance of her plea, the Court headed by Noutuneshori Devi issued non-bailable warrant of arrest against the two brothers and subsequently they were arrested by City Police and produced before the Court yesterday.

    The two were, however, released on bail today, informed the advocate while adding that Court has registered a case for trial in this connection.

    This is the second case filed under the same Act in the State, the first being filed at the Court of CJM, Thoubal.

    The trial at the JMIC Court might be conducted soon, Umakanta said.

    http://www.e-pao.net/GP.asp?src=6..150607.jun07

    ===============================================

    Its ten days since this Doctor was arrested... what happened to him and his elderly father


    Its ten days since this Doctor was arrested... what happened to him and his elderly father ?


    Safdarjung Hospital doctor arrested for dowry demands

    some related URL


    http://www.indianmuslims.info/news/2007/jun/08/safdarjung_hospital_doctor_arrested_dowry_demands.html
    http://www.indiaenews.com/india/20070607/55238.htm

    News in breif :

    ............ New Delhi, June 7 (IANS) A senior doctor of the capital's premier Safdarjung Hospital has been apprehended along with his father and brother for allegedly demanding dowry from his wife, police said Thursday. ........................


    [............]

    legal cruelty defined and now accepted as ground for divorce



    >As soon as anyone got the judgement of court
    >that legal cruelty is ground for divorce please
    >upload it and send it to all the members.

    Is this what you mean ?

    "..Filing false 498A case amounts to cruelty - Bombay HC.."

    http://merabarath.blogspot.com/2007/05/filing-false-498a-case-amounts-to.html
    altenate URL http://tinyurl.com/2wmosg

    May I suggest you search my blog for similar info. If you still do NOT find something, please post questions to me

    regards
    Vinayak

    My post above is Subject to
    ----------------------------
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    >
    >legal cruelty defined and now aCcepted as ground for divorce
    >Mon Jun 18, 2007 3:14 am (PST)
    >
    >Hello Members,
    >
    >As soon as anyone got the judgement of court
    >that legal cruelty is ground for divorce please
    >upload it and send it to all the members. It
    >will help all the members in one or other way.
    >
    >Thanks.
    >
    >

    Husband arrested on wife's word...just 6 months into marriage !!


    Comments :

    - Is the wife's word so paramount that the husband was arrested just on the wife's word !!

    - is this a PURE matrimonial discord that is twisted into a dowry case ?

    - If there was NO other proof other that the wife's word, was he refused bail ??


    ==================== news item =====================


    http://www.indiaenews.com/india/20070614/56181.htm


    India Thursday, June 14, 2007

    Orissa tax official arrested for dowry demand

    From correspondents in India, 08:32 PM IST

    A tax official in Orissa was arrested Thursday on a complaint lodged by his wife for demanding Rs.100,000 from her as dowry, police said.

    Deepak Beshra, posted as an additional commercial tax officer at Jharsuguda town, 374 km from capital Bhubaneswar, denied the charges levelled against him by his wife Tulasi Devi.

    He was remanded in judicial custody after his bail application was rejected in a local court Thursday.

    Tulasi Devi currently stays in her parents' house at Balasore town, some 200 km from Bhubaneswar.

    According to preliminary investigation, the couple had not been on good terms since their marriage in January this year, said Ranjit Sahu, officer in-charge of a local police station.



    =============================================

    WHEN WILL MEN PEDAL for THEIR OWN CAUSE ?



    WHEN WILL MEN PEDAL for THEIR OWN CAUSE ?



    It would be great if this MAN (in the news below) pedals for MEN and their beloved parents who are suffering from FALSE dowry cases

    News items like these show how much the society has changed in the last 14 ... 15 years (1993 ~ till date) while A LARGE NO OF MEN do NOT change

    Well.... Well....Well....

    MEN need to come to the street to fight the evil of FALSE dowry cases

    More men have to KNOW the ground reality before pedaling


    regards
    Vinayak


    http://www.hindu.com/2007/06/15/stories/2007061552140200.htm
     
    The long route against dowry

    Staff Reporter


    ON A MISSION: Bhau Saheb Bhawar.

    KOCHI: Fourteen years is a long period. That too to spend on a bicycle. Bhau Saheb Bhawar of Maharashtra has been doing just that – for a cause.

    He has criss-crossed the country, carrying a message against dowry. "Immediately after the 1993 blasts, I felt like doing something for national integration. This was followed by my family's inability to raise dowry for my sister's marriage." The events, coming one after another, prompted him to decide on the journey. He is still two months away from going back to his village Hasnabad. One prized item in his luggage is the display book carrying photographs and certificates given by State Governors and leading Government officials whom he met during his trip. And yes, clippings from the media reports on him.

    He was in the city for the last leg of his journey and plans to meet officials of oil companies here, who along with armed forces had been his main supporters. Then Mr. Bhawar will proceed down south to Thiruvananthapuram.

    "I want to meet the Governor and the Chief Minister," he adds. From there, he will touch the southern most point of the country at Kanyakumari, before winding up along the eastern coast. He plans to end the trip at Andaman Islands.

    Future plans

    "Then I will return to my village and rest for a while," he lists his plans. Not for long. He has already drawn up plans for his next pedalling trip.

    His next destination could be either South East Asia or Europe.

    This time he will be promoting the cause of international peace.

    Thus he plans to rule the road, through snow and rain, baffling those trapped in the mundane daily life.

    Once a traveller, you cannot ignore the lure of the road. Bhau Saheb Bhawar belongs to this lot.


    False allegations and attempt at easy divorce. Advise Please - Arun

    Dear Brother


    >my bhabi filed a false allegations in such way
    >my family members will get bad impression on my
    >boby, which will be easy to apply for her
    >divorce.

    I'm sad to hear your / your bhai's situation

    Looking at your limited case information below, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. Elder abuse, trying to separate the husband from his parents, threatening him with dowry case etc..  as in your case is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. As they have filed a false dowry case (498a case) and as you are innocent, See if you can record their threats. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    f.1. Further ... in your case the woman who has filed a case is employed. Try and get proof of her employment. She should NOT    be entitled to ANY maintenance UNDER NORMAL CIRCUMSTANCES

    g. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these FALSE DOWRY CASE problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    h. I suggest you immediately get in touch with our ACTIVE CHENNAI or BANGALORE based self SIF help group, in case you haven't so far. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz .

    Contact other self help centers as well if necessary

    i. Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh

    By the way, could you please give us some more info on the status of the case ?

    - what are their allegations in the 498a case

    - have any other civil cases been filed by either side - say divorce case, maintenance, etc...etc...

    I am also copying this mail to other dedicated self help team members. they will also reply your questions

    More after your contacted our self help groups

    regards
    Vinayak



    >
    >
    >arunkumar_m02@yahoo.co.in wrote:
    >
    >Name: arun
    ____________________________
    >Location[City/State]: arun - ___/___________
    >Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    >498A Registered: YES
    >498A Place: ______
    >498A Date: ___ /mid_2007
    >Any Other IPCs: no
    >Relatives Accused: no
    >Jailed Days: YES
    >Stage of Case: 498a
    >Spent Money on 498A: 50,000/-
    >Lived in joint Family: YES
    >Marriage Date: ___late____2006
    >Wife Age: 20 s____
    >Wife's Education Level: ____prof__qual
    >Wife works (earns)?: works
    >Filed for Divorce: YES
    >Have children: NO
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: YES
    >Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    >She had Any Medical Problems: YES_physical
    >Willing to Help other Victims: YES

    >Comments:
    >my bhabi filed a false allegations in such way
    >my family members will get bad impression on my
    >boby, which will be easy to apply for her
    >divorce.she has some medical problem of which she
    >didn't bear any child.they got married only six
    >months back and she was not at all mingling with
    >my family members.
    >
    >



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    Friday, June 15, 2007

    How do I save my parents from arrest in case they file 498 ??

    Hi

    We are saddened to hear your story

    Looking at your case, and Subject to
    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. Elder abuse, trying to separate the husband from his parents, threatening him with dowry cases, extracting money etc..  as in your case is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c.2. In case they are threatening you with dowry cases, and if you are innocent, See if you can record their threats. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these problems ... as recent as June 2007, the Delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamount to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    h. You and others who are falsely accused HAVE EVERY right to anticipatory bail. Get hold of a good criminal lawyer and apply for bail the moment a case is filed or even a complaint is filed with the police or CAW cell. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh

    FURTHER : a personal issue like this may need some direct interaction

    i. I suggest you immediately get in touch with THE NEAREST self help group, in case you haven't so far

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    If you wish to get maximum benefit from writing to us, It is also IMPORTANT THAT YOU READ AND UNDERSTAND the law with us. Use some good commentaries available in the market.

    You may also join the following groups, read the archives, post your queries and seek clarifications. [Please note that the yahoo groups are OPEN forum and so take care of confidentiality]

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    Victim Location : Bangalore Karnataka
    Hear about us: GoogleSearch
    498A Registered: NO
    498A Place:
    498A Date:
    Any Other IPCs:
    Relatives Accused: May be accused
    Jailed Days: NO
    Stage of Case: no498a
    Spent Money on 498A:
    Lived in joint Family: YES
    Marriage Date: June '06
    Wife Age: __30s
    Wife's Education Level: __prof. qualification__
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: NO
    Have children: NO
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: NO
    Took her Stridhan Back: NA

    Willing to Help other Victims: YES

    Contact No:

    Comments: Chronology of events:

    1] June '06 - Got Married To a girl from bangalore. I belong to __(Husband's city) Arranged Marriage. Marriage happend in my place __(Husband's city)

    2] Sept '06 - She deserted my place with her father will all her belongings (Jwellery etc). Currently Living at her friends place in bangalore.

    3] Oct '06 - Her father is demanding 5 lacs for mutual divorce or else threatens "LEGAL ACTION" which i think means 498. Alternatively she is saying to remove all the contacts with my family members then she can join me.


    No dowry was taken in fact all the marriage expences were bore by us.

    We refuse to give them any money and do as they wish.

    Now I  have following questions:

    1] How do I save my parents from arrest in case they file 498.  They live in __(Husband's city) and I live in Bangalore. Will i have enough time to infrom them to escape in case they come to arrest us.

    Whats the process of arrest in such a situation where parents live at some other place.

    2] Since marriage is < 1 year can we try to file the divorce case as she desrted for no valid reason. Is it a good idea or shall we wait for them to file the 498 first.

    Please prove me answers and let me know if you need more information.

    Thanks







    regards, vinayak

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    If money not given then threat to kill my daughter and involve my family in false case of 498a... !!!

    Hi

    We are saddened to hear your story

    Looking at your case, and Subject to
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    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. Elder abuse, trying to separate the husband from his parents, threatening him with dowry cases, milking him of his money..... etc..  as in your case is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c.2. In case they are threatening you with dowry cases, and if you are innocent, See if you can record their threats. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    c.3. Many husbands have started fighting against such outright DAYLIGHT robbery by misusing the law

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these problems ... as recent as June 2007, the Delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamount to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm


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    Location[City/State]: New delhi
    Hear about us: Friend
    498A Registered: NO
    498A Place:
    498A Date:
    Any Other IPCs:
    Relatives Accused:
    Jailed Days: YES
    Stage of Case: no498a
    Spent Money on 498A:
    Lived in joint Family: NO
    Marriage Date: __early__1998
    Wife Age:
    Wife's Education Level: other
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: NO
    Have children: YES
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: NO
    Took her Stridhan Back: YES

    Willing to Help other Victims: YES

    Comments:

    My wife's family _____, involved into share trading, ____, ______etc keep on asking money.

    Till date give Rs __-___ lacs in ch and cash ....

    If money not given then threat to kill my daughter and involve my family in false case of 498a.

    regds





    regards, vinayak

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    Wife threatening with suicde and is now trying to file a false dowry case ...

    Hi

    Looking at your case, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9


    a. Elder abuse, trying to seperate the husband from his parents, threatening him with dowry case etc..  as in your case is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. In your case you seem to have crossed one problem - the claims of false stridhan etc

    c.1. Has anything happened since ?

    c.2. In case they are threatening you with dowry cases, and if you are innocent, See if you can record their threats. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. Many women threaten a false dowry case on one side and come back seeking alimony or maintenance on the other side. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    h. I suggest you immediately get in touch with our ACTIVE BANGALORE based self SIF help group, in case you haven't so far. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz . Contact other self help centers as well if necessary

    i. Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh

    More after your contacted our self help groups

    Hope you received my earlier reply. I'm sorry in case In case you have not


    498A Registered: NO
    498A Place:
    498A Date:
    Any Other IPCs:
    Relatives Accused:
    Jailed Days: NO
    Stage of Case: no498a
    Spent Money on 498A:
    Lived in joint Family: YES
    Marriage Date: __late___06
    Wife Age:
    Wife's Education Level: __post grad__
    Wife works (earns)?: works
    Filed for Divorce: NO
    Have children: NO
    Living With Wife: NO
    Negotiating with Wife: NO
    Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    She had Any Medical Problems: NO
    Willing to Help other Victims: YES

    Comments: Dear sir

    I got married to a girl working as teacher in ___school belongss to family of advocates.

    After few days of marriage,she started ignoring me & forced me to seperate with my parents which i simply denied due to emotional attachments & responsibily towards my parents and younger brother.

    Then she started with comment of commiting suicide to penalize us.

    we shared the same information to their parents to resolve it but they started misfeeding and encourage the girl to do the same.

    On __early___2007,Girl created a blunder & started allegation to me & my parents for Physically torture against him.

    we immediately dropped the girl to their parental house & requested their parents to advise her.

    Instead of this,on __one month later_in_2007,Her family along with Mamaji,Brother & few relatives attacked us with demand of return back the jewellary,belongs to girl & abused us with threat of trapping me & my family in dowry & Physical torture cases by police & Crime against women cell for which you have to pay heavily.

    we settle the issue of jewellary in presence of Municipal counsellar & our relatives in writing on the same day.

    But i am worried that incase matter gets resolved & girl comes back to my house,she will definitely tried to trap us in legal actions of Dowry & physical tortures.

    Please advice to safe guard us

    Best Regards

    _________




    regards, vinayak

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    My father is 73 suffering from paralysis... She and her parents now want me to get separated

    Hi

    >She and her parents now want me to get
    >separated from parents and live with her in a
    >separate house or send my parents to old age
    >home.
    >
    >My father is 73 suffering from paralysis
    >stroke, cardiac problems,bp and
    >diabities.Mother is suffering from arhritis and
    >cardiac problems. As did not listen to this
    >they have started threatening me with divorce
    >and attachment of our only house for
    >compensation.
    >
    >They are also threatening me and my parents
    >with NBW arrests under 498a.


    Looking at your case, and Subject to

    1. My idea of *self help* which is very essential : http://tinyurl.com/pxcfz
    2. Standard disclaimers as in http://tinyurl.com/947u9



    a. Elder abuse as in your case is a great CANCER in India as of date

    b. You are NOT the only victim. 10s of 1000s of people are suffering like and as of date even courts have started understanding the magnitude of misuse.

    c. See if you can record their threats. I am NOT talking of some utopian ideas. I am talking common people like you and me taking precautions. See if you can get some audio / video recording of her / her family's threats

    d. BE FIRM, but be careful

    e. DO NOT file for divorce in a haste. Read here on why  http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2006/12/divorce-why-now.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/34bnmj

    f. DO NOT PAY away or heed to all her demands in a hurry. Most un scrupulous women come back and demand more. See here for more http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/i-have-already-settled-money-but-my.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/22bm67

    g. Even courts have started understanding the magnitude of these problems ... as recent as June 2007, the delhi HC has decreed that a false dowry Or false 498a case tantamounts to cruelty. http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm

    h. I suggest you immediately get in touch with our ACTIVE BANGALORE based self SIF help group, in case you haven't so far. Self Help Contact Nos can be found at : http://tinyurl.com/vntjz . Contact other self help centers as well if necessary

    i. Appoint a good criminal lawyer and obtain anticipatory bail IF YOU COME TO know that they have filed a case. Its your birth right to be free as you are innocent. read here for more on anticp. bail http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2007/06/re-anticipatory-bail.html or alternate URL http://tinyurl.com/38ytoh

    More after your contacted our self help groups

    Hope you received my earlier reply. I'm sorry in case In case you have not

    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

    >
    >Name: anand
    >498A Registered: NO
    >498A Place:
    >498A Date:
    >Any Other IPCs:
    >Relatives Accused:
    >Jailed Days: NO
    >Stage of Case: no498a
    >Spent Money on 498A:
    >Lived in joint Family: YES
    >Marriage Date: ___1999
    >Wife Age: 30 +
    >Wife's Education Level: __graduation___
    >Wife works (earns)?: doesNotWork
    >Filed for Divorce: NO
    >Have children: NO
    >Living With Wife: NO
    >Negotiating with Wife: YES
    >Took her Stridhan Back: YES
    >She had Any Medical Problems: YES_physical
    >Willing to Help other Victims: YES
    >
    >Comments:
    >
    >Married a girl whose father and brother are
    >advocates .....
    >
    >Due to _______I had to get her operated ___
    >with my expenses.
    >
    >till date we have spent enormously for
    >___________ treatment.
    >
    >Due to constant interferences from her father
    >Mr. ______and _____ we had regular tensions in
    >the family.Always she used to fight and go off
    >to her parents.
    >
    >On __early__2007, without just picked up a
    >petty quarrel with my mother and she ran out of
    >the house and went straight to her parents in
    >__her_city_Karnataka.
    >
    >She and her parents now want me to get
    >separated from parents and live with her in a
    >separate house or send my parents to old age
    >home.
    >
    >My father is 73 suffering from paralysis
    >stroke, cardiac problems,bp and
    >diabities.Mother is suffering from arhritis and
    >cardiac problems. As did not listen to this
    >they have started threatening me with divorce
    >and attachment of our only house for
    >compensation.
    >
    >They are also threatening me and my parents
    >with NBW arrests under 498a.
    >
    >Till date I have brought her back with all the
    >humiliation from her parents whenever she went
    >off like this.
    >
    >But this time I am worried to go to her place
    >as I feel that they would try 498a weapon.
    >
    >My parents who have suffered her physical and
    >mental abuse for 8 years are also fearing this.
    >
    >Is there any way that i can get protected from
    >these people from 498a and also save my
    >parents. Can i stop these lawyers from misusing
    >their powers for personal gains.
    >
    >please advice me
    >
    >
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    When girls don't put out!!

    I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.

    FOR EXAMPLE:

    One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, "I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me." I said, "WHAT??!! What was that?!" So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear...

    "You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man."

    She responded to my puzzled look by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?"

    Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

    The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, "Lets get a pair for each outfit."

    We went on to the jewelery department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis.

    I think I threw her for a loop when I said, "That's fine, honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, "I think this is all dear, let's go to the cashier."

    I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't feel like it." Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled,

    "WHAT?"

    I then said, "Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman."

    And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added,"Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?"


    Struggle TWO DECADES for Justice !!


    News : ".. Saini, who was married to Darshana Devi in 1985, had alleged that in October 1987 his wife had lodged a criminal case in which he and his family members were handcuffed and made to walk barefoot to the police station in full public view...."


    Comments :

     - This Husband was humiliated in 1985 by his wife's complaint to the police
     - It has taken a full TWO decades for him to get justice
     - God alone knows if the case would go on further appeal to the Supreme court
     - 10s of 1000s of families in India are struggling because of POLICE entering matrimonial matters

     - Men of this country.."Unite and protect our homes..". Only civil laws shall govern matrimonial problems.
     - Stop FALSE dowry cases breaking families !
     - Stop FALSE dowry cases breaking India !!

    The Tribune

    Friday, June 15, 2007, Chandigarh, India


    HC: Falsely implicating husband act of cruelty

    New Delhi, June 14

    Registration of criminal cases to falsely implicate the husband and his family members does amount to an act of cruelty by the wife, the Delhi High Court has held.

    "The husband and his family members were arrested twice, kept in police lock-up and made to undergo jail terms for offences of which they were ultimately acquitted, cannot but be termed as cruelty," Justice S. Murlidhar said.

    The court made the observations while dismissing an appeal filed by Darshna Devi against the trial court order granting decree of divorce to her husband Anil Kumar Saini on the ground of cruelty as she had filed two criminal cases, including the dowry harassment, against her husband and in-laws.

    In February 1998, the trial court had granted divorce to Saini acceding to his plea that he had been treated with cruelty.

    Saini, who was married to Darshana Devi in 1985, had alleged that in October 1987 his wife had lodged a criminal case in which he and his family members were handcuffed and made to walk barefoot to the police station in full public view.

    He also alleged that in 1989 the wife had registered a dowry harassment case in which he was beaten up at the police station and taken to Tihar Jail.

    But later they all were acquitted by the trial court in both the cases due to lack of evidence, he added and insisted that such acts of wife tantamount to cruelty.

    To his submissions, the High Court said "although the acquittal in criminal cases by itself can't establish cruelty, but in the light of circumstances, it does assume significance." The court rejected the wife's contention that her father-in-law being a police inspector had manipulated records to protect him saying "the facts seems to indicate otherwise." "It can be seen that in fact she (wife) managed to get the police on the spot time and again not withstanding the fact that the husband's father was a police officer," the court noted. — PTI


    http://www.tribuneindia.com/2007/20070615/main5.htm



    Thursday, June 14, 2007

    Queries on POST quash situation... also... Second wife ready for attack ..


    Dear Brother


    In addition to the answer below, let me add my 2 cents


    >>1) Once the 498(a) is quashed with the mutual
    >>consent, can the wife file again 498(a) after
    >>some time?

    1. Once 498a is quashed with mutual consent AND you DO NOT ONCE AGAIN LIVE WITH THAT SAME WOMAN as husband and wife, i.e. the marriage is either nullified or a decree of divorce is granted, she cannot file another 498a AGAINST YOU

    2. As long as the marital relationship persists she can file ANOTHER 498a ON ANOTHER alleged crime / harassment etc

    3. So it essential that all conditions in (1) above are complete

    4. But beware, there are MANY CASES where once you compromise with the first wife, the second wife comes to file false cases against you

    5. Please read here for a classic case where the first marriage was divorced on the basis of a compromise and now the second one is ready for attack !!

    http://tinyurl.com/2pkelx
    http://tinyurl.com/3aax7k


    >>2) Once the 498(a) is quashed with the mutual
    >>consent, can me or my parents file for a
    >>defamation for the imprisonment of me and my
    >>parents?


    6. NO

    regards
    vinayak



    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
    >
    >Re: Mutual Consent Quash 498a Petition Required
    >
    >Neither your wife can file again nor you or
    >your family.


    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
    >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

    >>
    >> ________________wrote:
    >> I have a few questions on POST quash situation
    >>
    >>1) Once the 498(a) is quashed with the mutual
    >>consent, can the wife file again 498(a) after
    >>some time?
    >>
    >>2) Once the 498(a) is quashed with the mutual
    >>consent, can me or my parents file for a
    >>defamation for the imprisonment of me and my
    >>parents?
    >>
    >>Thanks


    NRI with a Widowed mother & Brother. Recipe for 498a ? One more case today !!


    The Telegraph
    Dowry calls, US to Malda
    OUR CORRESPONDENT
    Thursday, June 14, 2007 |

    News report in Black. Comments by the blogger in red :

    Malda, June 13: A man doing his PhD in Virginia University has been accused by his wife in Malda of torturing her for dowry and marrying another woman in the US.

    Malda police have approached the Centre to bring back Rajeev Prasad, who hails from Singatala in South Dinajpur. He has been booked under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code (cruelty to wife by husband or his relatives) and an arrest warrant has been issued against him.

    Comment : oops !! he is JUST accused and he police wish to spoil his career and bring him back ? why ? isn't this poor chap allowed his say ? why impound his passport and spoil his career and life that he mush have attained after great efforts ?

    "We have sent the papers to the appropriate authorities to ensure that Prasad's passport and visa are cancelled and he is brought back to India to face the charges," Malda police superintendent Dilip Mondal said.

    Comment : Oh ! Papers sent !! ? well...well.... should the India Govt. act with such singular haste in improving our roads, electricity and infrastructure, India would have beaten the west long back ?

    Prasad had got a bachelor's degree in veterinary sciences from Calcutta and did his MSc from the Indian Veterinary Research Institute at Bareilly in Uttar Pradesh.

    He married Sumita Bhagat (name changed) of Maheshpur in Englishbazar on August 19, 2004. The same year, he left for Virginia University to do a PhD in microbiology.

    Sumita's father, who works in the irrigation department, lodged a complaint with Englishbazar police a year ago, saying his son-in-law had been putting pressure on him to pay a dowry of Rs 10 lakh. The complaint said Prasad made several calls from the US demanding the money.

    Sumita's father also alleged that Prasad was torturing his daughter mentally. Last year, when Prasad came to India, he had reportedly asked Sumita to either pay up or agree to a divorce.

    After Sumita's family got to know about his second marriage in the US, her father sought the help of Congress MP Abu Hasem Khan Chowdhury, who took him to the police superintendent today.

    Comment : alleged this ...complained that ... said this ..said that... Where is F(@&!^g proof ??

    Prasad's widowed mother and brother refused comment.

    http://www.telegraphindia.com/1070614/asp/bengal/story_7920128.asp